I demand Forcefem

This post will be the last one I make on this account before I fully delete it, this blog purely caused me stress and @doyoulovethewayzeylily will be reblogging it and spreading it around, I mainly wanna remove my blog for the safety of keeping my other blogs and with this my support network to move out of my abusive household

When I made this blog I made it with pure rage for the way trans men were treated in the trans community, not caring for anyone else's feelings but purely my own, which was extremely selfish to do so, sadly i do hold of selfish beliefs due to personal issues I really won't go over, but either way they are not excuses, just reasons, and I apologize sincerely to the transfem community and anyone I affected with this blog bc of my selfish actions.

And specially most of all, I apologize to ISFF for the shit I spread around, for the fact I contributed to her harassment and lies spread about her, I do have my own criticism about her in other ways, but I wont go over them in this post, if anything, those would be way better to discuss privately.

Most of my actions were very emotionally driven, cathartic and that's because I am an actual abuse victim, victim of CSA and child rape for half of my life who irl never received any help and still receive no help, except monetary help from people in Tumblr.

I am sadly not very good at apologies but I hope you understand I am striving to become better, and with that includes acknowledging my faults, I encouraged harassment even non-explicitally, I spread lies, and many things.

From what I've learned, the infamous pedophilia post, while it definetly could've been worded a bit better, wasn't just about pedophilia but specially disordered paras, disordered paras I have, and sometimes to grow from them is recognizing you have them, and as long it doesn't get to real life, why would it care? I have a diagnosed zoophilia and necrophilia disorder, and I would never hurt an animal or get on with a corpse ever, and that's what the post was about. And I reacted badly because I've been hurt by pedophiles myself, I might feel uncomfy around them even now.

But NOBODY is a bad person, bad and good doesn't exist, we are all different shades of grey, nobody is perfect either and we are all striving to become the better version of ourselves, we all can change and become better, I am trying to pretty much learn this now, which btw, it was something i used to believe but because I got into this discourse I unlearned it, which is very telling of this discourse.

But going back to the point, again, what I did was absolutely horrible and the transfem community is not obligated to forgive, and neither forget, but if you do forgive, thank you.

He chose to post this because, in a very ugly moment, he decided to re-think what he was doing and try to de-escalate. I want everyone to think about how important it is that I gave it to him.

I am not going to tell you that you have to be nice to the people that try to hurt you. I was not nice to this young man when he was trying to hurt me.

I ask you to believe that forgiveness is powerful and that change is possible. I ask you to try to do better than the people who want to hurt you. Even when you don't feel like they deserve it.

Because during this entire time surrounding these harassment campaigns towards ISFF, Patricia Taxxon, and others is that while there are claims of victims I have not heard this victims come forward themselves.

I don’t think anyone accused ISFF of doing anything to anyone specifically. Like you can accuse her of pedophilia until the cows come home but I have yet to hear from anyone that there is a specific person whom she has harmed.

As for Patricia she has stated before that she has caused harm and that she has made amends with the person she hurt. But the accusations kept getting reheated as second and third hand accounts.

In both cases, there is nothing these women could actually do in order to get people off their backs. They have been accused of doing immeasurable amounts of harm that there does not seem to be any apparent victims of.

Like maybe they made posts that were uncomfortable, its not a crime!

It is not a crime to have bad vibes, or bad takes, or having meltdowns from being screamed at by internet strangers!

I believe in a world without prisons, I believe in accountability, and I believe in abolishing the death penalty.

I do not think that it is the job for strangers on the internet to hold these women “accountable”

And I believe that even if the worst things that have been claimed about them were true (which would be patently absurd) I still do not think it would justify anything that these gangstalkers have done.

This post will be the last one I make on this account before I fully delete it, this blog purely caused me stress and @doyoulovethewayzeylily will be reblogging it and spreading it around, I mainly wanna remove my blog for the safety of keeping my other blogs and with this my support network to move out of my abusive household

When I made this blog I made it with pure rage for the way trans men were treated in the trans community, not caring for anyone else's feelings but purely my own, which was extremely selfish to do so, sadly i do hold of selfish beliefs due to personal issues I really won't go over, but either way they are not excuses, just reasons, and I apologize sincerely to the transfem community and anyone I affected with this blog bc of my selfish actions.

And specially most of all, I apologize to ISFF for the shit I spread around, for the fact I contributed to her harassment and lies spread about her, I do have my own criticism about her in other ways, but I wont go over them in this post, if anything, those would be way better to discuss privately.

Most of my actions were very emotionally driven, cathartic and that's because I am an actual abuse victim, victim of CSA and child rape for half of my life who irl never received any help and still receive no help, except monetary help from people in Tumblr.

I am sadly not very good at apologies but I hope you understand I am striving to become better, and with that includes acknowledging my faults, I encouraged harassment even non-explicitally, I spread lies, and many things.

From what I've learned, the infamous pedophilia post, while it definetly could've been worded a bit better, wasn't just about pedophilia but specially disordered paras, disordered paras I have, and sometimes to grow from them is recognizing you have them, and as long it doesn't get to real life, why would it care? I have a diagnosed zoophilia and necrophilia disorder, and I would never hurt an animal or get on with a corpse ever, and that's what the post was about. And I reacted badly because I've been hurt by pedophiles myself, I might feel uncomfy around them even now.

But NOBODY is a bad person, bad and good doesn't exist, we are all different shades of grey, nobody is perfect either and we are all striving to become the better version of ourselves, we all can change and become better, I am trying to pretty much learn this now, which btw, it was something i used to believe but because I got into this discourse I unlearned it, which is very telling of this discourse.

But going back to the point, again, what I did was absolutely horrible and the transfem community is not obligated to forgive, and neither forget, but if you do forgive, thank you.

He chose to post this because, in a very ugly moment, he decided to re-think what he was doing and try to de-escalate. I want everyone to think about how important it is that I gave it to him.

I am not going to tell you that you have to be nice to the people that try to hurt you. I was not nice to this young man when he was trying to hurt me.

I ask you to believe that forgiveness is powerful and that change is possible. I ask you to try to do better than the people who want to hurt you. Even when you don't feel like they deserve it.

I never even told anyone to harm/kill themselves, is the thing, especially not directly. I'm saying this with the disclaimer that my memory is ass, but still.

I did reblog a post with that content but it's about someone who was forcibly deplatformed from their life's work. Being angry that these people deplatformed them from their lives' work. And I reblogged it for reach because they needed money to make up for the fact that they were deplatformed from their lives' work.

delete your blog.

the post they're talking about is someone crying that they can't support themselves because they're part of the harassment ring. it's their own god damn fault, I hope they go back to being a person people want to support soon.

That's why a children's book that says "Be yourself! Everyone is different! You don't have to fit in!" is "pedophilia," but Trump raping a 13 year old girl isn't -- it was done to her against her will, so it didn't facilitate her dangerous autonomy. That's fine. Like child marriage -- it's perfectly fine, because the parents force it on the children. Parental authority is preserved.

A point my partner has made is that discussions of historical or cross/cultural variations in "age of majority" really underestimate the depth of patriarchy. "At what age is a girl considered a woman?" presupposes that a woman can ever meaningfully be considered an adult, which, in many forms of patriarchy, she really can't.

In the broadly liberal tradition, "children" are, broadly, defined as a class of people denied bodily autonomy and civic rights, but spared from the responsibilities of hard labor and harsh punishment; while "adults" are defined as a class granted bodily autonomy and civic rights, but subject to hard labor and harsh punishment. Which is why ageists (and ableists who infantilize disabled people throughout the lifespan, sexists who infantilize women throughout the lifespan, etc) think they have a real gotcha with "Well if you think young people (disabled people, women, etc) should have bodily autonomy and civic rights, then they have to have jobs! And go to prison! Or else you're Having It Both Ways!"