Heterosexual Brainrot

thought i’d share SOME of the points:

• maintenance sex

• patriarchal sex and lack of orgasm

• constantly shaving their body hair

• disproportionate domestic/emotional/mental labour while claiming the relationship is “50/50”

• subsidising his lifestyle (i.e. splitting the groceries when he’s the one who eats way more, being the only reason his apartment is clean and there’s not pubes on the bathroom floor)

• dealing with his porn addiction (where he’s watching teens and rape and misogynistic acts)

• dealing with his secret porn addiction while he claims he doesn’t watch it

• high chance of him being a pedo, misogynist, abuser, narcissistic, manipulative, etc.

• male ego and general lack of personality and accountability

• constantly having your nervous system dysregulated

• lack of meaningful care and conversation in general, especially in comparison to an average female friendship

• women having to use intrusive birth control methods because the male would rather risk her health than wrap it up

• him bonding with other men over misogyny and not having pro-social behaviours where he pro-actively stands up for women, minorities, etc.

• having to accept him checking out other women in real life, on social media, etc. and being micro-cheated on constantly, while being told it’s not cheating and that you’re insecure and crazy and a controlling bitch actually

• spending hours and hundreds on beauty maintenance while he… looks like that

• being rushed while getting ready

• never being allowed to be ugly in her own space

• total loss of bodily autonomy (i.e. being groped while doing the dishes)

• doing his laundry and cooking for him

• sharing a bed with a man (especially one who snores and is unhygienic)

• skid marks and piss and hair left in YOUR bathroom

• dealing with someone else’s trauma, from a sex that is averse to therapy and developing emotional intelligence

• a male shit-talking their past female exes (what did he do to her?)

• most males being okay with casually lying to their partner

• most males only being as loyal as their options and cheating on her if another woman ever expressed interest in him

• playing the role of a mother and a wife to a manchild

• no empathy or meaningful additional support while on your period

• having to tip toe around mantrums

• constant yeast infections and UTIs

• constantly being belittled, gaslighted, psychologically micro-abused on a daily basis

• male insecurity and jealousy, especially if you’re accomplished and attractive

• manage all the logistics and mental load (grocery lists, doctors appointments, “oh, we should go on a date” and subsequently planning the date)

• having to overlook their problematic opinions on most things

• general lack of empathy

• most men aren’t cut out to be romantic partners or platonic friends so how could they possibly be cut out for fatherhood

• having to take interest in his hobbies (sport, video games, anime) while he don’t give a flying fuck about yours

• dealing with male body hair and fat men

• man sweat, armpit hair, asshole hair, balding

• constant objectification

• constantly being reminded that no matter how progressive he is, he is fundamentally a man

• heterosexual relationships being rooted entirely in chance (i.e. of him not being a pedo, misogynistic, abuser)

what strikes me is the fact that you could have the most “feminist” man on the planet yet most of the above still apply lmao

@lusi-1 right, so just to name a few things, i’m sure you’d bet your life on the fact that your hubby has never and will never watch porn while he’s in a relationship with you (100% of men fail right there), pays more for groceries since he presumably eats more, has a vasectomy so the burden of birth control isn’t on you, he does his own laundry and cooking 100% of the time, doesn’t snore in bed and isn’t unhygienic, you’ve somehow witnessed him time and time again stand up for women in front of men when you’re not there, he reads feminist literature…

tbh i can’t be bothered to continue this list because there’s simply no man on earth which passes all of the above, and het-partnered women are notorious for cope. i’ve been in relationships with males before where everything was abysmal yet i’d still feel the need to defend him, so i know how this game goes

if anything, a much more level-headed and believable approach to partnerships with men would be “yeah, he treats me well enough, even though i do disproportionately do the labour and sometimes he touches me when i’m doing the dishes, i hate how he snores, and i fully admit there’s a chance he watches porn/CSAM/rape behind my back”

anything else is just delusional, i’m sorry

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actually, i’m sorry, but i took the liberty to stalk your tumblr for about 5 minutes.

it seems you and your hubby met online, are in a long distance relationship, haven’t meaningfully lived together beyond brief vacations, are asking for financial assistance from strangers so he can marry you (aka use you to move to the west), so how you can confidently comment on many on the points above when you’re not even in a cohabiting relationship is beyond me

it also seems like you and him frequently communicate via your reblogs anyway, which kinda proves my point about het-partnered women are not to be trusted anyway

I found out my boyfriend watches porn. I know that he loves me, but it still hurts me deeply, and while I love him, if this habit is to continue it may be a dealbreaker for me. I asked him to stop, and he said that he would try. I really thought he was different. I really thought he wasn't like the others. I'm lost at what to do. I don't want to lose him, but I just can't condone him doing this. Feel free to give suggestions in rb or tags.

Do I

Have another conversation with him about why I'd like him to stop

Accept his usage and let it be

Set guidelines as to how I'd prefer he used it

As you can see, I'm a bit lost. Suggestions are more than welcome.

yeah i already know the answer you're going to get

poor moidy didn't know any better! he didn't think that watching porn titled "barley legal stepsister gets stuck in washing machine" or "barley legal Asian school girl can't pay for pizza" was wrong. how could he? nobody ever told him it was bad, he didn't know videos titled "barley legal" were for pedophiles with no concept of consent? he was tricked into thinking that website was good! He is such a good guy, and he was just so good intentioned when he watched porn. it's not like every porn site on earth has pedophilic rapist cues on their home page!

"I didn't feel like a woman/girl"

You can't feel like a sex because they're not emotions or sensations. It's just a state of being. You're just uncomfortable and unhappy with gender roles forced unto you.

I can assure you most people, especially women, aren't happy with these roles either.

Not feeling "feminine" or not subscribing to sexist gender roles doesn't make you not a woman.

Contrary to what they seem to think, no one is holding guns to their heads and making them. Children never scream in the street when they see my bare face and hairy legs. Adults never look at me oddly. That's cause I'm confident being natural and we tell people how to behave towards us through body language.

I seem to be about as invisible to men as other men though, which makes me feel like a ninja lol. As I'm voluntarily celibate, I love how men don't harass me since I went gnc.

(Typing this really quickly on break) 

Especially how marriage and children just bring out the absolute worst in people. You don’t even need to experience a terrible relationship to realize that it’s an absolute nightmare of a situation to be stuck in you just have to watch and observe these people. 

I work part time in a diner and a majority of our patrons are newer families and married couples (considering the area that I live in). There’s obviously some that are really sweet and make sure their children behave but the ones that aren’t are awful. 

The ones that piss me off the most are seeing men just sitting there scrolling through their phones while their wives handle all the work with their toddler/newborn. Like I’ll see the baby in the carrier being rocked and pacified with a bottle and the toddler is sitting on her lap. Some of the worst experiences I’ve had were watching toddlers throw a huge tantrum over the food and their (usually) mothers desperately trying to get them to eat. And if it’s not that, then they’ll be on their iPads/their parents phone blasting music or a video. It's so annoying. This is why so many children grow up to be entitled, phone addicted brats.

This might be more of an argument to not have children, but I hate the way that some families will let their kids run through the tables and chairs and then get upset when the kid bumps their head into the corners of the table, trips over something or even rams into one of my co workers who’s carrying food. 

What even happened to teaching kids table manners??? Do these parents realize that being at a restaurant gives them the opportunity to teach them how to treat retail/customer service workers with manners and respect?

having sex as a woman also involves serious mental preparation, being vulnerable and having to open yourself up and surender/be feminine

heterosexuality IS a disability, because if they were lesbian they wouldn't be talking about their own sexuality like this

having sex as a woman also involves serious mental preparation, being vulnerable and having to open yourself up and surender/be feminine

I wanna hold hands with a pretty girl... pretty girls..hold her hand and braid her hair

SPREAD MY FLAPS WIDE AND BOMB MY WOMB WITH SEED THEN GET MY FEMININE LIPGLOSS ALL OVER YOUR GLORIOUS SCROTUM AND LET ME LICK YOUR BALLS AND PULL MY HAIR AND PUNCH ME AND SHOW ME A WOMANS PLACE