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actually pigs shouldn't be at pride even outside of uniform. fuck those guys
if you decide to become a police officer then that outweighs any other marginalised identity you can rustle up like. not sorry, who asked you to willingly become a pig
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actually pigs shouldn't be at pride even outside of uniform. fuck those guys
if you decide to become a police officer then that outweighs any other marginalised identity you can rustle up like. not sorry, who asked you to willingly become a pig
“Subject, Object, Adject” (2006) ⌇ Jaime Pitarch — chair and wood shavings from its own legs
mutual 1: end-of-the-rope suicideposting
mutual 2: the new dandys world event is mid as fuck
mutual 3: liveblogging a foursome
mutual 4: on lunch break
mutual 5: went missing 2 years ago
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Hard pill to swallow, maybe, but sometimes you are the problem. You may not have been initially, but people around you can only have so much endurance for understanding why you're "like that" and how you got to where you are now. Even if you were the one who was victimized, hurt, or abused to begin with, your behavior affects those around you. There's a point at which personal responsibility needs to kick in, or you will become toxic. You can become toxic even if you never become an abuser yourself. If other people are constantly having to help dig you out of the holes you made but you keep slapping their hands away, you cannot expect them to have an indefinite amount of patience and energy to keep trying. If you're not putting in the work to recover from what damaged you; if everyone else in your life is consistently the only one making a real effort to effect change for you--you're the problem.
People can give you love, but can't make you treat yourself like someone you care about.
People can offer you resources, but can't make you reach out and use them.
People can lay down stepping stones, but can't make you put the work in to make progress.
If you're expecting everyone around you to keep making the decisions and making things ok for you, you need to take a step back and some serious time for deep introspection. This doesn't mean that others shouldn't have compassion for you, but as difficult as things are and as tired as you are--others get tired too and can't be expected to carry it all.
And if you blame everyone else in your life because they "gave up on you" when they reach a limit, you have a victim complex. Having been a victim does not mean you should accept perpetual victimhood.
People are allowed to say "I love you, and my love for you does not make me willing to sacrifice myself." There's a point at which people have to let go because they do not ultimately hold responsibility for whether you live, die, or thrive--only you do.
I mean, this describes my whole life from birth to mid-20s as well as many people I know.
You decide that you want better for yourself and others around you, that it's no longer acceptable, and you start chipping away at unpacking your trauma and changing how you do things.
It's obviously easier said than done, so I don't really appreciate the folks tagging this as "go to therapy," either. Yes go to therapy (if it's available to you, if you can find a decent provider in your area, if you have insurance or the money to pay out of pocket, if you can get around the dozen other roadblocks). Therapy isn't the only way to work on recovery though, and it's avoidant and irresponsible to act like not being able to access therapy means there's nothing you can do. Both of these concepts are true.
You have to be fed up. You have to be sick of your own problems and negative behaviors enough to not find them acceptable anymore. Then instead of feeling sorry for yourself you do something.
Ok, things I've done to work on myself that don't require seeing a therapist:
- Educating myself by extensively researching the problems and symptoms I live with to better understand how and why I do things.
- Reading about trauma.
The Body Keeps the Score
- Self-help workbooks.
The C-PTSD Workbook
The DBT Workbook
The Addiction Recovery Skills Workbook
- Seeking peer support by participating in Discord server(s) related to trauma and mental illness. I couldn't find one specific to my diagnoses that I was comfortable in, so I created one, and 3 years on it's grown and is going great overall.
- Learning to take feedback about my behavior from people I generally trust, and to not take feedback/constructive criticism as an attack, but as a tool.
- Working at communicating my feelings and needs as statements, not out of anger or as demands.
- Reminding myself that other people's experiences and feelings matter, and should be considered. Even people with the best intentions can be self-centered, especially under stress. You have to work at it.
- Learning to recognize my triggers, patterns, and reactivity, and to de-escalate myself. Treating emotions as visitors and not drowning in them; recognizing that nothing is permanent.
- Setting rules with myself as to how I handle things when I'm upset; for example, I will only raise my voice to others as a last resort, and I will not physically act out my anger in an uncontrolled way. Breaking dollar store dishes in a specified area is relatively safe, controlled, and thus non-harmful.
- Asking myself, literally, if I'm being the problem. Is my behavior the actual reason things suck right now. It's too easy to have a tendency to blame others or situations outside of your control so you have to ask. Sometimes it really is someone else's fault or nobody's, but you have to ask.
Obviously I'm not perfect at any of these skills, by any means. It's about consistently putting in the effort until you get better at them.
Happy 24-6-01!
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"naturally blond" nothing about that is natural
this sounds like it's poking fun at a bad bleach job but actually being blond is a sin
realistic coworker conversation
"wholesome" and "pure" are not antonyms of "sexual" btw
shut up and look at this photo of Marsha P. Johnson smiling and holding a Snoopy plush.
decided im coining Marsha P. Johnson with Snoopy Sunday so I will see you all. Next Sunday.
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rocky smoke that shit statement
you cannot be having fuckin meyers briggs types in your bio little trans girl what are we doing here
meyers briggs and all other suchlike bullshit all exists on a continuum somewhere between astrology (categorizing people according to an arbitrary and rigid system founded in baseless superstition, confirmation biases, & existing prejudices) and IQ (straight-up motherfucking eugenics masquerading as objective scientific testing & classification). buying into this shit doesn't just make you look stupid, unthinking, and credulous, it shows that you so cannot smell out a system of thinking that openly runs directly counter to the political interests of transfems that you're standing there with one in your mouth like a dog that found something dead. it is a giant blinking light that says "i don't understand how politics touches the real, i don't know how to think analytically, and for all you know i probably think these are immutable personality traits." get a clue
this all remains true if you're not transfem but if you're not transfem and you've got meyers briggs headlined in your self description i can't even be bothered to try to save you, who's got the time. maybe we'll get lucky and you'll choke to death
