Worse Company

actually annoyed by long distance friends again. i want to go for a walk i want to get drinks i want to sit in the grass and write i want to go to the fucking store together

it’s never a normal temperature anymore it’s always some fucking bullshit

i do think the negative interpretations of "im probably nonbinary but i have a job right now" are kind of reaching. it's obviously a waste of time to theorize the op's intended meaning, so instead i think it's better to recognize how the phrase can be a useful framing device to criticize how much of a fucking hassle it is to get gendered correctly. "but i have a job" e.g. will face discrimination that could threaten livelihood; e.g. don't have the mental bandwidth to explain gender to others; e.g. don't have the time and energy for the soul-searching necessary to confirm. all three of these are labor issues. yes you could interpret it as "but being nonbinary isn't important enough to worry about", despite that being a blatantly bad-faith read. it's more useful to interpret it as "but being publicly nonbinary requires a lot of social effort that, in many cultural contexts, will create more problems that you can't afford to deal with". like cmon it's a really good jumping off point for productive conversations about queer labor rights

they should invent putting on sunscreen that doesn't feel like putting on sunscreen

i really believe that binary people who are reactionary towards non binary people are just terrified of actually unpacking their dependencies upon oppressive elements of the status quo. "oh you're just trying to be SUBVERSIVE" actually this is just who i am. i am not doing Shock Culture Gender this is just the reality of my experiences. i really do just not fit into conventions of gender. the fact that you can't take me seriously, that you need to justify the reality of my nonconventional existence by claiming that I am doing something to intentionally rather than this being innate to who I am, kind of says to me that there is a level of intimidation preventing understanding. When, then, my gender philosophy is spat upon, and implied to be an intentional political act rather than the culmination of my self understanding, I'm left wondering what value you hold within the systems being challenged by my philosophy borne from my nonconventional existence. It's strange to me that the perspective always seems to be, that political philosophy of gender is the starting point, rather than the experience of having a non binary gender. Putting the cart before the horse, a bit.

"there's no platonic explanation for this" some of y'all need better friends

"there's no platonic explanation for this" some of y'all need to be better friends

sometimes I really am just going through life thinking "wow it's really nice of all these people to let me pretend to be a human around them"