The lobster (dir yorgos lanthimos) felt so toothless to me and I finally figured out why. I think it's a movie about amatonormativity I guess, but the faults of romantic relationships in real life are so intrinsically linked to misogyny, and it barely touches on this. You see a bit of a gendered perspective when the protagonistas girlfriend gets blinded and she asks "why me and not him?", and maybe a little bit when the maid character (who's job description includes rubbing her ass on the men at the hotel) complains about her dentist husband and runs away/seeks her freedom. But in both their cases the violence is actually inflicted on them by other women. The men are barely present as enforcers of this brutal status quo. Olivia colman's husband seems to be following her lead (and he'll let the loners kill her to save his skin, thus he doesn't really believe that much in their philosophy), the eye surgeon who blinds Rachel Weisz is not even shown, her blindess is solely the (female) revolutionary leader's fault.
When you know how throughout history, marital status has been used to treat women like second class citizens, and like their husband's property, Yorgos Lanthimos' fantasy world where it's actually women's fault that single people are oppressed bc they're mean seems so juvenile to me. And to put the cherry on top, the resistance is lead by a caricature who doesn't actually have revolutionary ideas, she's just as oppressive as the villain but on the exact opposite direction. YAWN.
Also I'm mad that the description on the website said it was a comedy, but we only laughed once
