does anyone else feel unsure of what pronouns to use for their pre-trans-realization self or is it just me
like she/her is what everyone was using for that kid (include said kid) but it doesn't really feel right bc those felt a bit uncomfortable as soon as the gender-baggage that comes with them became clear. I have never used they/them pronouns by choice and do not want to use them for my past self. but ze/hir pronouns were and are a very conscious choice for me that came with proclaiming a nonbinary identity. I like them a lot and I really wish people would actually use them for me instead of either assuming my pronouns or deciding that ze/hir pronouns are too difficult for them. but they're not period accurate for past me, if that makes sense.
overall I would prefer not to assign a set of pronouns to my past/kid self, but it leads to clunky phrasing that I don't particularly like.
there is no clear solution to this problem and I'm not really looking for advice. it's a deeply personal situation. but I'm wondering if any other trans people feel the same.
there just doesn't feel like a way to gender that kid correctly without retconning. which ultimately doesn't matter - I'm here and I am what's left of the kid and more than that, too. it's just a weird situation. sometimes I feel we (trans people) still get kinda lady gaga "born this way" with our genders which makes sense given the political climate and definitely holds for some people, but which doesn't allow a lot of space for ambiguity when it does exist.
