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All my posts & responses about TOG/Joe

Wedding Rings

Joe’s Name Meaning and How it Works (including ‘Al-Tayyib’)

How to Pronounce Joe’s Name

Nicknames

Joe’s Family in Modern AUs

What Language Nicky & Joe First Used

Common Usage of Religious Phrases and Joe Using Other Phrases

Poetry Translation

The Phrase ‘Ya’bournee’

Holidays

Religious Facts & Terminology

Arabic Familial Terms & Honorifics

Arabic Terms of Endearment

Arabic Dialects

Nicky Symbolized by the Moon

Fun Facts For Nicky/Joe

Gay Rights in Muslim-Majority Countries

Art

Half-Decent Summary of Islamic Sects

META:

Hobbies

Languages

Nicky & Arabic

MENA Song Recs

The Word ‘Jinn’

Terms ‘Ramadan Mubarak/Karim’

The Guard & Maths

I personally hate any kind morality thought policing. I'm not Catholic or religious and I do not feel guilty over my thoughts. You are not an inherently evil person because you saw two athletes in an interview and went "Hmmm...... what if...." The Feds are not going to come banging down your door because you wrote about one band member dicking down the other and sent it to your friend.

Wondering about other people's lives is very human. Being nosy about their personal lives is very normal. People have been writing fiction about other people's lives since the dawn of time. Some people even manage to write New York Times Bestselling Books that are "historical fiction" or "alternate reality." It does not make you inherently bad to be curious about the details of someone's personal life. That's being human. Being nosy is kind of fun.

The problem, however, comes with the ways in which people engage with it, and involve the real people in this. Harassing an musician's real girlfriend because it doesn't fit into the RPF ship. Showing up at real sporting events holding signs about how certain teammates should kiss. Trying to get actors to sign art of them fucking their coworker. Flooding social media with comments using the celebrity's full name and speculation. There's a line, there's a fourth wall, and there's fandom etiquette.

I hate the question of "Is RPF ethical" because it feels like morality thought policing. Post your fics on locked accounts, censor someone's name when you tweet about it, blow up your groupchat with hundreds of "DID YOU SEE THE WAY THEY LOOKED AT EACH OTHER??" texts. It's not inherently evil to wonder what other people are doing when they're out of the spotlight. Kill the cop in your mind.

they were contemporarily hated for just being these giant grey monoliths

just as I shooed Glimmer away Ella stomped over and then screamed. and tried to keep stomping and I had to lift her off