drown them fuckers in your tears

every fat person you know for the most part probably has a story like this, of medical neglect. many of the stories i've heard personally are when the complaint or the doctor wasn't related at all, like being told to lose weight at the ear nose and throat doctor or at the dentist. it's straight up just bias. it's such a thing that in the show Shrill it's portrayed, when Aidy Bryant goes to the gynecologist and her doctor suggests she get gastric bypass.

the studies on health and fatness are simply not that black and white and there is basically no research that shows that more than an incredibly tiny minority of people can lose weight and keep it off for more than like 2 years. bodies have set points that they gravitate towards, it's not a personal failure. this also is how the weight loss industry succeeds so well - repeat customers.

some of the harm associated with fatness is also due to weight cycling, which is very hard on your body and is even worse if you get off a GLP1, which according to a recent study causes weight to be regained at a rate that is 4x faster than without taking a GLP1.

you don't have to hate yourself. you don't have to hate other people for their body type either. it makes me so sad to see the thinspo tag going around again in 2026 a lot like it was back in the day.

some resources to learn more here:

https://www.reuters.com/article/business/healthcare-pharmaceuticals/feeling-fat-may-be-worse-for-you-than-being-fat-idUSTON079061/

“You feel the bulge in his pants” - implies that you are feeling some guy’s penis, may be sexy depending on context

Teenagers are now more digitally illiterate than teachers. I had to show several students in each class how to add bullet points to a document the other day.

No keyword use on Google, no ability to write an email, no understanding of customization unless it's listed in the opening stages of purchasing a new phone. It's not their fault - they've been let down from the beginning. I can't tell you how often I've had to help my sisters look something up because they didn't know how. I used to type their last-minute essays while they dictated because I can type at 90 wpm and they could type around 20 wpm in high school.

Like people make fun of middle aged women for not getting married or being divorced or "always the bridesmaid never the bride" and all like "oh she's desperate! No one wants her! Old maid!' but they become straight up hostile and upset when you tell them you never want to date.

The core wound of this demographic is being rejected and being relentlessly asked to stop your bullshit relative to romance and sex, and to get back in the ranks. The aroace definitely qualify.

And since being rejected is obviously a veeeeery common trauma in the queer community, and people tend to reenact unhealed patterns, it's not rare to see queer people rejecting other queer people with shit like biphobia, being picky with who "qualify" as trans, dismissing aroaces etc...

This is actually the biggest reason why I ended up hating the books so much. They display such a contempt for being in the closet. Scott and Shane are both condemned by the narrative for their desire to stay inside of it. Happiness comes when you Come Out and Live Your Truth 🌈🏳️‍🌈✨ in the most public possible way. Wanting to be in the closet is treated with such little compassion to the point where it’s borderline a moral failing. Even if all of the bad things that you were afraid of happen, you’ll still be happy, because you are Out and Living Your Truth 🌈🏳️‍🌈✨

I grew up in a space where it wasn’t super okay to be queer. The first few times I tried to come out to people went kind of shitty. And I had much better experiences than some of my friends. One of my friends told the wrong person that he was bi and that guy decided to try to beat the gay out of him.

Flava Flav and Paris Hilton the ones out here advocating hardest for the Olympic women's hockey team.