**EDIT**
I originally made this post on my personal Instagram account on 02/15/19. Maxton Miles Baeza (@maxton on Instagram) and I were good friends for ten years after we dated. None of us want to believe that our closest friends are capable of this kind of abuse. In December I approached Max about the FIRST allegation of abuse I had heard of from a friend/ex partner of his— explaining to him that it was time for him to change his behavior— he didn’t respond. So I chose to reach out to his exes and let them speak for themselves. Of the 8 out of 10 exes that I reached out to, every single one of them expressed they felt they had been abused by Maxton Baeza. Some chose not to share their stories, some chose to share anonymously, some chose to tell their stories publicly. I believe them all.
Posted to instagran on 02/15/19:
“It feels like it’s taken me ten years to build up the courage to do this, and it has been ten years since Max and I dated, before either of us transitioned. I was sixteen when we met, we were kids. Our relationship shaped how I viewed myself as a partner and in relationships for years afterward— he was my first love. I didn’t know, until a few years later, that what I had experienced while dating him was verbal, mental, and physical abuse.
I just thought that I was a bad partner, that I never said the right things, that I deserved it when he locked me out of rooms or made me get out of his car in the middle of a city I didn’t live in and left me there. He knew what my insecurities were and would say awful things about them to make me feel bad about myself when he was upset. He withheld affection to get back at me when he was upset. He cheated on me with multiple people throughout our entire 1.5 yr relationship.
About a year after we broke up, we became friends. I met his new girlfriends, almost every single one of them. I always wondered.. did he treat them that way too? His behavior with them made me think he did, but I was truly terrified of him finding out that I was snooping around, so I never did. Finally late last year my friend Rachel, whom I met when she was dating Max, reached out to me one day. She recounted an incident of sexual assault he had told her about. That was the nail in his coffin for me. I could no longer stand idly by and be friends with an abuser.
So, I reached out to a handful of the partners he’s had in the last 10 years, and was shocked at the things I learned. Not all of them chose to have their stories shared in this post, but every single person I reached out to had similar terrible stories. It makes me sick to my stomach to think I stood by for that many years and allowed so many people to go through what I went through, and much, much worse. It’s important to me now that he is finally exposed for the behavior and abuse he has subjected partners to for ten years now.
He is in a position of power, with his “following” through his experience working at Disney, touring in big productions, and now playing a role as the main trans character in the movie Adam that just premiered at Sundance. I cannot stand by and let this person with this platform abuse people any longer. So, I’m not going to. Thank you to the brave women who opened up and shared their stories with me, you guys made me brave too. A special thank you to Rachel for being courageous enough for the both of us sometimes, and for all your support. And to Max… sorry I’m not sorry dude.”
Hey folks, this is one of the actors in the Adam film so I wanted to give this a quick boost!
