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Mother and baby viewing Van Gogh's Madame Roulin and Her Baby at the Museum of Fine Arts in Boston, US. By the Boston Herald

"I wish someone would see through it when I tell people I'm fine-" Well, but have YOU considered not lying when people ask you how you're doing?

"I am so resentful of my friend because they keep doing this thing that really bothers me-" Well, but have YOU directly communicated that the thing is bothering you?

"I am burning out because my friend keeps expecting me to help them with serious struggles-" Well, but have YOU tried to establish the boundaries you need to feel okay?

"No one ever asks me about this thing I really care about-" Well, but have YOU brought it up yourself?

"I miss my friend but they haven't texted me-" Well, but have YOU been reaching out to them?

Being cared for is not a fantasy. But you have to let people know you need it. And you have to understand that sometimes they will let you down. Just like you totally could live in a cute farm, but you still have to shovel shit, and the crops sometimes die anyway. Or maybe you win the lottery, but you still have to manage your money and learn real estate law.

It's funny, the claudias represent some of my best and some of my worst work overall; I wrote most of them as a much newer Wikipedian, although works like Claudia Jean Cregg, Claudia Riner, and Claudia Meier Volk still hold up. Claudia Powers and Claudia Belk, less so. I'm planning on writing Claudia Kishi and rewriting Claudia Alta Taylor (aka Lady Bird Johnson) Some of my cooler non-Claudia works include Pronunciation of GIF, Capri-Sun (in collaboration with my awesome friend Tamzin), and Jon Stewart's 2004 appearance on Crossfire.

Also, Liz, Diannaa, PMC, and the Connecticut woman are extremely cool people who also deserve your thanks. in honor of this post, here are some more women on Wikipedia who are indeed extremely iconic:

Yoninah and Cwmhiraeth nearly singlehandedly ran the Main Page's "Did you know" section for years on end; Yoninah passed away a few years ago, and Cwmhiraeth is mostly retired, but they did an awe-inspiring amount of work to keep that section of the MP alive and prospering

Sennecaster has done a ridiculous amount of thankless work cleaning up other people's copyright violations, including editors who left a trail of copyright problems through years of poor article-writing and left behind a huge mess for everyone else to clean up. She's also just one of the sweetest people I've ever met.

Valereee, in addition to being a hypercompetent administrator who doesn't duck the tough calls, has written some fantastic articles on food. Go read her article on Cincinatti chili, it's fantastic (fun fact: not actually chili!)

Jengod has done a crapton of good work around American slavery and the Civil War era; her page on Andrew Johnson's drunk vice-presidential inaugural address is well worth a read.

SandyGeorgia is an insanely good writer who has produced a significant number of featured articles (vetted and chosen by the community as its best work) like Tourette syndrome and J. K. Rowling and took ten people through the grueling adminship election process (despite never being an admin herself!)

HelenDegenerate was one of my co-conspirators on a fun project where we wrote Fuccboi and Fuccbois; she also likes classic rock and showtunes, which i personally think is cooler than everything else actually

Generalissima is newer on the scene, but that hasn't stopped her from racking up a ton of shiny badges for her work on everything from New Zealand coinage to American Indigineous explorers like Tatannuaq to Sophia, a Person of Quality.

And Depths of Wikipedia, of course!

oh, and proof that i'm me:

The Brahma, a popular giant known for its massive meat production and comically large eggs.

The cochin, seen here with gold and black 'lace' pattern

The barred plymouth, an incredible forager for lightly wooded terrain

The fayoumi, often regarded as The Oldest Breed of chicken

The wyandotte, a particularly good forager as well as a bulky, meaty bird.

The Minorca, a Spanish bird with stunning black feathers

And of course, the famous indonesian ayam cemani, which has black meat and bones