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(This is written entirely within the dominant white/western culture - about traditions that have neglectful stewardship rather than those actively suppressed)

The anxiety makes sense. You’re seeing, too late to do anything about it, that there’s no foundation - no space - for the traditions you expected to pass on. Your kids _can’t_ take your mom’s fine china. So now instead of enjoying what you have you worry about its future.

I see a pattern in these op-eds though - a pattern in what’s left unsaid. There were responsibilities tied to these traditions. You collectively assumed they _would_ be passed along. So collectively, what did you do to ensure those traditions _could_ be passed along?

Op-eds never speak for everyone, but it’s worth acknowledging the pattern in what speech is deemed worth sharing widely.  And in this particular pattern, there’s an answer: that answer looks like “nothing.”

You want the china passed down but your kids have no room in their rentals. You want grandkids but your kids don’t have the financial stability. You want that cross-country RV neverending road trip but you’ve had decades of wanting lower taxes more than you wanted infrastructure.

The bleak outlook for traditions is a direct result of the unmaintained foundations for them. The second best time is always now - if it’s important enough to op-ed about, what are you willing to change to get it back? What will you give up or re-prioritize?

The bleak outlook for traditions is a direct result of the unmaintained foundations for them. The second best time is always now - if it’s important enough to op-ed about, what are you willing to change to get it back? What will you give up or re-prioritize?

I follow a Facebook group of “Memories of …” for my hometown - a rustbelt community that has gone from a thriving hub of industry to a much-less-thriving place.

The group is a collective lament.   Decades-old pictures of well-kept churches.  Aerial shots of the main intersection downtown, lined with big cars.    Scanned advertisemetns from local stores featuring pictures of their interiors.   These alternate with the drumbeat of news:  the Catholic diocese is closing churches.  Selling them.   Tearing them down.   STores downtown are closing.   The traffic light has been replaced with a four-way-stop.

“That’s the church my parents were married in!” “How could they tear down that beautiful building.  Such memories!” “All the businesses are closing.  It must be the taxes.” ”They’ve sold the old lodge downtown.” “They’re not opening the skating rink this year.  We always used to go.”

And sometimes I chime in. 

“Do you attend that church?  Do you give? Or do you just want the building to look pretty for you? “ “Do you volunteer at that park?  Why not?” “Did you vote for that recreation bond issue?” “Are you a member of that Lodge? Why not?” “Do you shop downtown?   Or did you start shopping at Walmart and Amazon to save a few bucks?”

If you feel something is worth preserving, why do you not participate in its preservation?  

this absolutely isnt to say that some people ARENT genderfluid+trans, but refusing to factor in how society makes being a woman a wholly unpleasant experience is disingenuous and can lead to a lot of gnc people thinking that if they’re uncomfortable with what their gender is supposed to dress and look like, they must be trans.

!!! WARNING, EVERYONE !!!

IF YOU SEE THIS IN A YOUTUBE AD MUTE YOUR DEVICE AND SCROLL UNTIL YOU CAN’T SEE THE VIDEO SCREEN ANYMORE.

This is an ad about animal cruelty that has very loud screaming of dying animals. Also flashing, graphic pictures of said animals, like a dead chicken or a pig biting a wired fence.

It’s about thirty seconds, the screaming starts 10 seconds in and the ad isn’t skippable.

It can trigger panic attacks and cause your anxiety to skyrocket, and it’s just generally a very disturbing thing no one should see.

"Bimbo" was typically solely used as a derogatory term. It meant someone who was entitled, lazy, overly concerned about their looks, and frustratingly dumb. Someone whose only redeeming quality was their appearance, implying that their sole worth as a human being was as a sex object. This was its original use, its current use, and only use.

Himbo, on the other hand, has weirdly positive connotations. From what I've seen, the stereotypical "himbo" is strong, conventionally attractive, and dumb, sure, but it's all spun in a positive light. A himbo is typically very compassionate, highly optimistic, entertaining, and often extremely capable (in areas that don't require a lot of brainpower). Himbos typically also are very aware that they aren't the sharpest knife in the drawer, and graciously step aside to let other, smarter people take charge when they need to. And when they do screw up out of stupidity, it's usually in a charming, endearingly silly way instead of frustrating. Basically, a himbo is a romantic fantasy instead of a demeaning insult: a strong, capable, and inherently non-toxically masculine individual who just so happens to be dumb as a rock. Which does give their potential romantic partner a bit of an edge in some areas, sure, but not in a way that degrades their humanity.

And what's more, a "himbo" causing problems is meant to be relatable, not demeaning. Everyone screws up, but the himbo screws up often, and in ways that are often unpredictable and absurd. Something that it takes an extra amount of thinking just to imagine how they could possibly have come to that conclusion. But they are always forgiven for these mistakes, since there usually is some logic behind their actions, even if it is ridiculous. And they always forgive themselves too, which is strangely empowering. In an era defined by anxiety and self-doubt, it's comforting to think that no matter how dumb your mistakes may be, they can always be forgiven if your heart's in the right place, and that it's okay to relax and not worry about unforeseeable consequences that are beyond your knowledge or control. It's okay to be true to who you are, even if who you are only has two braincells that are usually taking an extended lunch break.

tl;dr "himbo" is okay while "bimbo" is not because "bimbo" is an inherently dehumanizing insult and "himbo" has actually evolved into meaning a positive masculine role model, but dumb

yes, that’s right, they were trying to stoke fears about russia.

The (You) is only visible to the poster. The ID number will also remain the same, so those with ID: 8f4812 are likely employed by the government in some form:

This is because they still want nice things and will work for those but the part of their energy that was devoted to worrying about if they have enough money to pay the rent and bills this month is now freed up to do other things.

"Since the Army is not subject to local minimum wage laws, Seattle pay now outstrips what locals could earn by signing up for the Army. $15 per hour is not only more than the base pay for privates, but corporals and specialists as well."

-Newsweek

b. don’t use it and have random people harras you about the things you enjoy