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i HATE self-censorship for a lot of reasons, but being in crisis work makes it even more frustrating. who are you censoring for? like i am being so fr, WHO are you censoring for? have you even thought it through? people who have been raped know that they have been raped. if someone attempts suicide or is grieving someone who did, saying "sewer slide" isn't going to protect them from any of the feelings. a murder victim's family isn't going to feel better bc you said "unalived" instead of murdered. if anything, it's just extremely invalidating and othering. it's saying "what happened to you is so bad that i won't even say the word," which is NOT trauma-informed care. you are not protecting survivors/victims when you self-censor. the ONLY things you protect when you self-censor are the puritanical ideologies that are being encouraged by rich fascists who want your money and obedience

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Raphaël Gromy avec Bob sa marionnette à Strasbourg

They screwed up. Straight up. They communicated poorly, and Tulip wound up bearing the brunt of the consequences of it. Nobody was perfect in the situation. All three of them are just clearly going through it. Divorce is hard on everyone involved, and it’s clearly shown to be a fresh wound. It’s just a shit situation all around.

And I’m confident in saying I’m sure both her parents felt bad over the ordeal. It’s not fair. It sucks. Yeah, they’re trying, but they’re still learning to navigate these brand new dynamics. At the end of the day, they still screwed up because Tulip has to miss something she really cares about.

But then Tulip runs away. And she doesn’t come back for months. Can we imagine the panic, the guilt they must have felt? Tulip packed a bag; surely they noticed stuff was missing when someone checked her room. As far as they know Tulip actively ran away (true). But they had no way of knowing she was prevented from coming home. Just horrifying to think of the implications of that. They don’t know where she is. She’s disappeared without a trace. Even if authorities tracked her well, she’d still appear to have vanished into thin air upon boarding the train. Tulip is just. Missing. They don’t know if she’s even alive.

And with the added weight of what happened immediately before Tulip disappeared, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to assume they both held a lot of guilt. That they both felt Tulip disappearing was their fault. That they wondered if things had just been different maybe they’d still have their daughter. We see Tulip has the tendency to take on things outside of her control—maybe that’s a tendency she picked up from one or both of her parents.

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