Isabel la Catolica

That's why I was so disturbed by the booktok-darling novel A Little Life, whose entire premice is to offer a demonstration that yes, sometimes, suicide is the answer. To be clear, this isn't a conspiracy theory but the author's stated goal, which she has reiterated in multiple interviews. It is perfectly competently and even compellingly written, which only makes it more dangerous.

I don't know how we've reached a place where people think it makes sense to turn around, look at the people coming after you and go "Actually, it doesn't get better. You should just die."

2) Hanya Yanagihara has said that she was interested, artistically, in “creat[ing] a character who never gets better” and in exploring the limits of normative talk therapy for a character who has suffered as Jude has; she says that suicide is “devastating and often perplexing,” and that its meaning is relative and culturally determined; she does not advocate for suicide but recognizes the obvious truth that some people are suicidal and unable, in their contexts and with the tools at their disposal, to stop being suicidal.

this is a necessary thing to recognize so that we can change what is not working.

None of this means her works should not be read or discussed, in contrary her points of view should inspire discussion BECAUSE some of us find it dishonest and disagreeable or her novel becomes pointless unless used as propaganda of said views. Her work was never intended to be "suicidal prevention" work either so I'm not sure why you would bring that up.

Upper-middle-class Americans conceptualize and largely experience college as "13th-16th grade for 18-22 year old children," as well as a kind of secular rumspringa where 20 year olds have a bit of social license to dabble in things like sex, drugs, progressive politics, and queerness, as long as they put it aside when they "grow up." And because upper-middle-class Americans have a stranglehold on media, this is represented as the platonic ideal of what college is.

Regular working-class American college students are age-diverse (most are over 25), usually have jobs, often have children and/or spouses and/or other family responsibilities, and are there to pursue a specialized career.

Be careful saying this, though, because criticizing the upper-middle-class framework of college will get 900 people on this website calling you an anti-intellectual who hates the very concept of learning.

the last time I reblogged this post right before I got a great job, in a permanent work-from-home position, with benefits, retirement, and a salary literally 3x what I was making before, doing something I really like. 

So you know. 

so you will love the world differently for having loved someone else. you will love a certain cereal or pokemon because of your brother. you will hear your favorite band's song playing in a random store and the love of it will make the whole world a little more golden. you will read a poem so many times the words become their own creatures. you will find you cannot listen to certain music without thinking of your favorite show.

>looks inside

I can’t express how much I love their relationship. Usopp, abandoned by his father and losing his mother to illness, never allowed himself to sink into apathy. He searched so desperately for reasons to live that he invented them. Delusion became a part of him.

Kaya's parents had died long ago from an illness on Syrup Island, leaving her in the care of a stranger disguised as a butler. A butler who gave her neither attention nor warmth — only slowly poisoned her body and soul. Reality was an even stronger poison.

Usopp’s lies, from which he skillfully wove imaginary stories, saved him from depression and saved her from death. He visited her and she waited for him.

Made these practical lists for overthinkers who spiral into analysis paralysis (aka me). Sometimes you don’t need more reflection, you just need something to do.

the “sex positivity” and “sexual liberation” and “sexual freedom” ideology has always championed unrestricted sexual access to and rape of women and children. it has always maintained a strong pro-rape current, a movement that reduces women to public property, a view that venerates male orgasms over female personhood, and a celebration of sexual violence against women and children. it is an attack on feminists who have agitated for any kind of sexual ethics that sought to limit male sexual entitlement, from age of consent laws, to marital rape laws, and so on.

industrial patriarchy had to adapt to women attaining the legal, social, and political ability to deny men sexual access to them, and “sexual liberation” is that patriarchal adaptation—the abuse, violence, and degradation of women is fine if the women themselves desire it and we are discouraged from interrogating this desire and who benefits from it.

we must not think of sexual liberation or “sex positivity” as an enemy to patriarchal religion—they are simply rivals. the sexual liberationist truly hates the so-called “puritan” not for any genuine moral reason, but because the “puritan” has the potential to say no to men. nevermind the fact that the puritan movement was not anti-sex and the sex positive advocates are misusing the term. the term’s utility to the sex positive movement is that it can be used as a slur to demean women who want a type of sexual ethics that disentangles violence from sex. the patriarchal theologist hates the fact that women can say no to men. they both see women’s boundaries as a threat. they see a sexual ethics that opposes violence against women as a threat. the dressing may be different, but the skeleton is the same. they are two opposing male supremacist ideologies vying for dominance. feminists reject both.

wilhelm reich, the godfather of this ideology, experimented on and sexually abused children, pat califia supported incest, child sexual abuse, and sexually abused a woman, gayle rubin extensively supported child sexual abuse and child pornography, the latter two were responsible for the spread of BDSM and its foundational links to queer theory, sadism was named after marquis de sade, a notorious rapist who tortured his victims. i could go on forever lol. these are some of the main architects of sexual liberation. look into any of these thinkers or most male psychologists who sought to naturalize women’s sexual subordination and you will uncover biological determinism—specifically related to the notions that “sex is a need,” that men’s sexual entitlements are natural, and women’s sexual inferiority and their desire to be dominated is natural. the notion that consent means a sex act cannot be critiqued, that consent purifies a sex act, no matter how violent, lies at the foundation of a patriarchal sex culture.

this critique isn’t limited to any one sex act, either. the social context that drives and encourages women to engage in anal, blowjobs, and choking is certainly not neutral under this rotten culture and should be critiqued from a feminist perspective. but you’ll find that feminists eviscerated the “normal” heterosexual act of intercourse (PIV) and how women are treated in it with much harsher terms than any other sex act lol. don’t allow the pro-rape advocates to call you a “puritan” because you’ve taken exception to the most normative sex act. the feminist critique takes everything to task, especially intercourse.

a lot of women and girls are taking their blinders off but are not reading the extensive feminist literature on this subject. dworkin’s “intercourse” is a good starting point for a feminist critique, but you’ll also have to read stuff that will piss you off and disgust you, like some of the thinkers i listed above lol. it’s a horrible stain on human history in my humble opinion. we can only achieve a truly ethical sex culture when this tumor of an ideology is excised, in conjunction with its main political rival, patriarchal religion.

idk how formatting works on this site any more lol under the read more i have citations for my polemic if you wanna look!

I can admit that there are some things they could improve - for example the costumes that look too new, there is a department in costumes responsible for this specifically but production often cuts them off or gives them no budget for money saving reasons, but i would love for the outfits to look more worn out and used. They are at sea ffs. Same with the temu rings taz skylar said he was given by production which he apparently refused to wear so he made his own which is kinda insane dedication and that brings me to the next point : these people learned skills for this show that go from language speaking to fucking developing a new martial arts style.

The reasons the fight scenes look so cool is because they are literally real. They had to slow down the sword scenes because Mackenyu was too FAST for the camera and his stuntmen opponents. The love these people have for this how and the way they show it should be something to be greateful for because it is rare.

gifts from mama :)

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