gon: gon, shounen tropes, and abuse (reblog 1) (reblog 2), gon’s life was always awful, how 1999 enhances gon’s CSA trauma, gon’s morality, gon’s view of himself, the significance of kite’s reincarnation, pitou/gon parallels, gon does not want to be infantilized

killua: killua saves himself, how 1999 enhances killua’s internal struggle, killua is the opposite of doomed, the CSA implications of killua’s home life, “he’s the best friend i’ve ever had”, your life or his, an analysis of “heal tsubone’s hand!”

kurapika: kurapika’s honor, kurapika is not a motherly shyboy, the kurta genocide, succession war predictions

killugon: is killua angry with gon?, since it means nothing to you, gon and killua’s different responses to authority, gon as animal & killua as machine, killugon and envy or lack thereof, gon would never sacrifice killua actually, killugon’s lack of touch, merukomu/killugon parallels, who’s the girl, killugon’s respective masculinities, some post separation thoughts, killua gives gon his life back, the angst is about the care, puppy love

freecss family: mito defense, ging sucks, ging REALLY sucks, mito & ging, ging & kite, what's up with noko?, gon's mother

misc: my thoughts on chrollo, the cour four’s thematic resonance, the broad corruption of hxh’s world, nanika is transness itself, a bisky appreciation post, hxh 1999 supremacy, nobunaga doesn’t even pretend to be noble, why does pouf act like that, some brief pariston remarks, kacho and fugetsu predictions, menthuthuyoupi

gon: gon, shounen tropes, and abuse (reblog 1) (reblog 2), gon’s life was always awful, how 1999 enhances gon’s CSA trauma, gon’s morality, gon’s view of himself, the significance of kite’s reincarnation, pitou/gon parallels, gon does not want to be infantilized

killua: killua saves himself, how 1999 enhances killua’s internal struggle, killua is the opposite of doomed, the CSA implications of killua’s home life, “he’s the best friend i’ve ever had”, your life or his, an analysis of “heal tsubone’s hand!”

kurapika: kurapika’s honor, kurapika is not a motherly shyboy, the kurta genocide, succession war predictions

killugon: is killua angry with gon?, since it means nothing to you, gon and killua’s different responses to authority, gon as animal & killua as machine, killugon and envy or lack thereof, gon would never sacrifice killua actually, killugon’s lack of touch, merukomu/killugon parallels, who’s the girl, killugon’s respective masculinities, some post separation thoughts, killua gives gon his life back, the angst is about the care, puppy love

freecss family: mito defense, ging sucks, ging REALLY sucks, mito & ging, ging & kite, what's up with noko?, gon's mother

misc: my thoughts on chrollo, the cour four’s thematic resonance, the broad corruption of hxh’s world, nanika is transness itself, a bisky appreciation post, hxh 1999 supremacy, nobunaga doesn’t even pretend to be noble, why does pouf act like that, some brief pariston remarks, kacho and fugetsu predictions, menthuthuyoupi

A sort of initial surprise, a need for clarification. And then some selection or combination of a) an insistence I'm wrong/lying, b) defensiveness, or c) anger.

And I think there are a lot of underlying reasons for those responses, many of which are probably difficult to untangle But I think some part is that people feel judged, even when i'm just neutrally stating my own preferences.

This can probably happen any time someone admits they're not interested in something you are, even stuff as innocuous as a sports team or media genre. But alcohol and sex in particular... These are topics with very strong but contradictory associations within society. To be cool, you're supposed to have sex/drink-- but only the Right Way, with the Right People. Otherwise it's "cringe" at best, "immoral" at worst. More than that, what counts as the Right Way, and the Right People, will vary from (sub-)culture to (sub-)culture, which means you're trying to adhere to a set of "rules" that is ever changing, ever shifting.

I do not believe that. I believe that both sex and drinking are, in of themselves, morally neutral acts. I believe that you can do immoral things with(in) them (e.g. Sexual assault, driving under the influence). I think there are possible health impacts you should be aware of before engaging with them (e.g. the risk of STIs or liver disease, etc), and that there are precautions people might want to consider to minimize those risks. But that's the true of frankly every activity, to a greater or lesser extent.

People who get uncomfortable about my asexuality and non-drinking rarely ask me my attitudes, and won't be particularly receptive to my attempts to clarify them. I suspect that's because they haven't actually interrogated these attitudes themselves. They are still harbouring internalised guilt, that sense on some level that drinking and sexuality are wrong.

There's some people in the comments saying "fandoms have always been like this" and others saying "No, it's worse than it was." And both are to some extent right. Fans (or at least a small percentage of fans, and the larger a fanbase gets the larger a group this will describe) have always been Like That; but they did not always have the level of access to creators and actors that they have now.

The notion that a performer needs to be constantly available to public scrutiny, that their personal information should by default be available to any rando with google, is pretty new. It used to be that actors would only be expected to engage with the public on limited, specific, and controlled occasions, usually with security provided. Now they're being asked to rawdog exposure to the mob 24/7 on their own.

(Also, production companies have always always always been exploitative cowards, just to get that straight; reading the biographies of literally any actress from golden Hollywood years makes that clear. It's just, again, more public now.)