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TERFs: transwomen are privileged males who oppress the females in their community

framing trans infighting on this website as “both sides” arguing about who has it worse is so disingenuous it’s actually infuriating. i have a blocklist literally thousands of blogs long and i still can’t go a single day on here without seeing someone go on and on about how privileged trans men are and how trans men are actually benefiting from the patriarchy and oppressing trans women. meanwhile, i can count on my fingers the number of times i’ve seen a trans man argue the opposite. the only people who DO consistently make that argument are cis TERFs, yet for some reason it’s being attributed to “transandrobros” instead.

just came across a post from a trans woman speaking about how cis women often behave in predatory ways towards transfems, which could have been a good point of discussion if not for the fact that the only way she could seemingly reconcile the idea of a woman being predatory was to invent a reality where cis women have some kind of latent “predatory male” instinct that spontaneously activates in the presence of trans women. it seemingly did not occur to her that the reason cis women behave this way is because being a predator is not actually an inherently gendered trait. She also did not seem to be aware of the irony of her statements given the fact that treating predatory behavior as an innately male/masculine trait is the exact same line of logic that queerphobes and especially TERFs use to accuse queer and trans people of being sexual predators.

the only purpose of TMA/TME as it is currently used is to create a framework that positions all non-transfem trans people as the oppressors of transfems/trans women. it’s literally just “bi/ace people have straight privilege and are oppressing gay people!” all over again. the terms themselves are entirely redundant as there is plenty of other language available (transfem, non-transfem, transmisogynized, etc.) and literally NO other form of oppression is broken down in this “affected/exempt” dichotomy because it has no basis in reality. anyone with half a brain cell can understand that people outside of the primary intended targets will inevitably be affected by bigotry as well because that’s how bigotry works.

“why are trans women excluded from this women’s space while trans men are welcomed with open arms???”

listen. I understand how tempting it can be, especially for younger trans folks, to believe that trans people are just innately less likely to have the kinds of weird and arbitrary hangups about gender that we so often mock cis people for. but what you need to understand is that there are trans people right now, on this very website and many others, who are inventing brand new kinds of weird sexist beliefs the likes of which most cis people could not even fathom. and we should all take this as a warning that if we do not make concentrated and consistent efforts to do the work of reflecting on and deconstructing our beliefs about sex and gender, each and every one of us is susceptible to becoming one of those people without even realizing it.

there’s something I can’t stop thinking about ever since I noticed it regarding the type of people who tell transmascs talking about transandrophobia that “you don’t need a special word, just call it transphobia”

“i love and respect all transfems!! also i HATE men and think masculinity is evil >:((“