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If you're someone who never really knew how to set goals , if you always forget about them, lose motivation fast, or give up halfway through… then this blog might actually be for you. Because I’ve achieved about 90% of my 2025 goals so faaaar so I figured it’s time to share the real recipe for goal setting the kind that actually works.

1 . you need to think about your goals by yourself.

You need to think about your goals by yourself. If you’re out here searching “how to set goals” on TikTok or watching YouTube videos where some random girly is like, “Here are goals you should set: exercise, skincare, journaling, go outside more.. to have the best year of ur life" stop right there.

Because if you keep doing that chasing the MOST aesthetic MOST overrated goals that everyone else is setting you’re not going to achieve them. Especially when the only reason you’re doing it is because someone online looked good doing it. You’ll find yourself like, “OMG yes I’ll start exercising because this girl in the video is so fit, so maybe if I do what she does, I’ll get there too.” But you won’t stick with it because it’s not your goal. A lot of people think they can just copy someone else’s dream and magically get the same results. But every time you fall off or miss a day, you’ll start spiraling: “I’m not like her.” “I’m failing.” “Maybe I’m just not good enough.” and that mindset It destroys everythin

So please if you want to actually grow, set your goals based on you. What do you need? What are you lacking? What do you want to become?Stop letting TikTok trends or Pinterest girlies tell you who to be. Like yes if you really have zero ideas, it’s okay to look around for inspiration. But don’t just copy-paste a list of goals from some stranger on the internet and expect it to work for your life.

And I’m not even gonna start on the toxic “be like wonyoung” culture. You don’t need to follow a 27-step skincare routine, eat ONE APPLE, and have perfect posture 24/7 to feel like you’re improving. U won’t become Wonyoung or any other celebrity and you’re not supposed to.

So set your own goals based on your own needs. not on what some influencer told you to do. not on what seems “productive” just because it’s trending.

Ask yourself:

﹙ ✿ ﹚ What do I actually want?

﹙ ✿ ﹚What do I need more of in my life?

﹙ ✿ ﹚What would help me feel proud?

2. Set ur goals in the MOST smart way

So when it comes to setting goals I discovered this method that honestly blew my mind I don't know if someone else did this before me, but I'm gonna claim it because it worked so incredibly well for me. So back in November 2024 I was struggling hard with sticking to my goals. I had all these ideas floating around wanting to exercise more, eat healthier, read books, study better, spend time reflecting , go out w friends more ... but it was just this chaotic mess in my head that never led ANYWHERE.

That's when I came up with what I call the "Arc Method." Instead of having random goals scattered everywhere i organized everything into seven clear categories: Arc of Studying, Arc of Reading, Arc of Solitude, Arc of Education, Arc of Aesthetic, Arc of Health, and Arc of Joy. It's like putting all your goals into organized containers instead of having them scattered all over the place (u can create other arcs if u want !) , and why this method absolutely destroys the traditional goal-setting approaches is cuz our brain stops getting overwhelmed because instead of juggling twenty random objectives, we will be managing seven clear categories. Each arc contains related micro-goals, so your mind can process them as organized systems rather than a mess . Plus you naturally maintain balance across all areas of your life instead of obsessing over one thing and neglecting everything else.

The real game-changer is that this forces you to dig deep into what YOU actually want. Not what some social media gal tells you to want, but your authentic desires. You're organizing your genuine aspirations in a way that makes them achievable.

You literally sit down and write detailed "I want" statements for each arc, and I mean really get into it. Like for exemple Arc of Health: "I want to start eating healthier, especially with my meals. I want to start cooking by myself instead of relying on unhealthy food because I know I've been treating my stomach badly, but this time I will make my own meal program and actually stick to it. I want to feel energized after eating instead of sluggish. I want to build a relationship with food that makes me feel good about myself." For Arc of Education: "I want to master this specific subject that's been challenging me. I want to study smarter not just longer hours that drain me. I want to understand concepts so deeply that I can explain them to others. I want to feel confident in my knowledge instead of constantly doubting myself."

You HAVE to write these down yourself in full paragraphs like this. Don't just think about them or write short bullet points. Actually pour your thoughts out on paper with all the details, emotions, and reasons behind each want. I know it sounds HARD but ur brain is maybe full u just need to grab a paper and a pen this is literally the secret sauce. When you physically write these extended "I want" statements, they stick in your mind in a completely different way than just thinking about goals. Your brain processes written words differently, and there's something about seeing your honest desires spelled out in your own words that makes them feel incredibly real and achievable. It's like you're having a conversation with yourself about what you truly want, and that conversation becomes the foundation for actually making it happen

Then you add one major goal at the top your ultimate objective that everything else supports. This creates a clear hierarchy where every smaller goal either helps your major goal or at least doesn't conflict with it. No more working against yourself with competing priorities !!

my 2025 program if u want to know how it look like .

3. have some healing goals

Before you even think about how to achieve your goals I want u to know that a lot of people focus on physical or academic goals get the clear skin, get the grades, start working out, eat healthy and those are great... But especially in your Arc of Joy hear me out u don’t need to ignore your emotional glow-up. Because when life hits you, and you’re tired, drained, or burned out, those emotional goals are the ones that actually save you.

Let me give you an example : One of my joy arc goals was to go out whenever I felt overwhelmed literally just grab my bag and walk, maybe get coffee, sit in a park, journal somewhere outside. It might sound normal but it helped me so much during spring semester, when I was too “GROUNDED.” I barely left my eyes out of my books and I was burning out. But then I remembered that simple goal I had written in my note app : “ I want to go outside when I'm feeling overwhelmed...” So I did and it helped me breathe again.

So keep your goals somewhere easy to reach your phone’s Note app , your Notion page, anywhere. Re-read them often. And include emotional goals as I said because staying grounded forever It’s not realistic you’re a human. Ur emotions matter too taking care of yourself is not a distraction from your goals it’s part of achieving them !

4. How to achieve ur goals

Achieving ur goals requires confronting an uncomfortable truth that most people refuse to acknowledge SUCCESS demands RELENTLESS, sustained effort that will test every fiber of your willpower. The reality is that your brain is biologically wired to seek comfort and avoid discomfort, which means every day you'll face internal resistance trying to pull you away from the hard work your goals demand. Your dopamine system craves instant gratification from social media scrolls and easy pleasures, while your prefrontal cortex, responsible for long-term planning and self-control, must constantly battle these impulses. Most people fail not because they lack talent or opportunity, but because they underestimate the psychological warfare required to override their brain's default settings.

The difference between achievers and dreamers lies in their relationship with discomfort. When you commit to ur major goal you're essentially declaring war on your comfort zone, and this war must be fought daily not just when you feel motivated or inspired. Motivation is a fleeting emotion it's definition "When you feel motivated, you can get stuff done. When you don't feel motivated, you can't get stuff done."so DISCIPLINE is a skill that must be developed through repetition even when every cell in your body screams for rest or distraction. THE truth is that if you're not consistently uncomfortable, you're not growing. Your goals should scare u enough to make you question your capabilities, because comfortable goals don't require transformation they merely require existing. you must continuously increase the difficulty and consistency of your efforts to create lasting change.

For a long time I thought people were just being harsh when they said you have to “grind” for your goals. Especially on social media everyone made it sound EXTREME. But after six months of locking in, working, and seeing results with my own hands I finally understood they were right. If you WANT ur major goal to be a REALITY you have to work for it. That’s the only way. u can’t just daydream about it, scroll through other people’s lives, and complain about how hard it is. If you keep slipping, if you're not ready to grind, then maybe you're not ready to achieve it. That sounds brutal ikr but it's the truth I learned the hard way.

So don't pick a goal you're not prepared to fight for. Because achieving it isn’t about writing it down on New Year or manifesting it once during a full moon. It’s about doing the work eeevery day. That means sacrificing distractions, showing up when you're tired, and not mistaking one focused workday for a ten-day burnout excuse. Yes, burnout will happen and when it does, take the rest you need. But don’t start using that rest to escape your responsibilities. Rest with the purpose of coming back stronger, not slipping into avoidance. NEVER QUIT AT UR BREAKING POINT

If you fall 100 times this year fine get up for the 101. Don’t sit there crying over the time you wasted or the progress you didn’t make. Forgive yourself stand up and swear to yourself that you’re going to get it done. You don’t need to feel ready u just need to stop waiting for the perfect moment and grind anyway.

Because you know what’s harder than grinding it's REGRET. Waking up one day and realizing you were capable of so much more, but you let comfort, fear, or other people’s opinions steal your future that’s real pain nooo youtube video will hand u ur wins . Don’t let your younger self down. Don’t let the version of you who dreamed big when no one believed in her fade. I believe in you 🍀🪄

Future journalling (do from the perspective of your ideal self)

What's your name? What's your gender (identity and presentation)? How do you like people to refer to you? What makes you feel most like you?

What are your core values? Core personality traits? What is your self talk about? What principles guide your decision making? What are your top 5 priorities?

What do you look like? How do you dress, and is it different when you're not leaving the house? What other forms of self expression do you use? Do you get any cosmetic treatments done, and if so, how often? How do you feel in your body?

Who are you closest to? Who do you consider family, and how often do you see them? How often do you meet up with friends? What are the traits of the people closest to you? Do you have kids to take care of? Pets?

What expectations do you have in your relationships? How do you accept being treated? How do you treat other people? Does this change depending on how you feel?

What do your surroundings look like (living situation, design style, etc.)? How do you feel in your space?

What do you like to eat? Do you have any dietary restrictions or preferences? What kind of attitude do you have around eating? What meals do you make and eat again and again?

How often do you bathe or shower? How do you wash yourself, and are there different types of routines you do for different occasions? How's your oral hygiene?

How do you move your body? How often, and when? How does it make you feel?

What kind of schedule do you have? Are you busy?

When do you wake up, and what do our mornings look like? How do you feel when doing those things?

What's your way of getting money? What do your work days look like (if you are able to work)? Where do you work - at home, in an office, at a shop? How flexible is your schedule?

How much money do you have? What's your budget?

What are your interests? Hobbies? How do those fit into your daily life? What kinds of media do you like?

How many hours do you sleep per night? When do you go to bed? What's your before bed routine like?

What are your long term goals and aspirations? What are some things you simply must do before you die? When you're old, what will be the stand-out memories to you?

What skills and knowledge do you have? What do you do on a daily/weekly basis to maintain them?

How do you handle stress? What are your coping mechanisms when you get overwhelmed? How do you navigate conflict? What's your view on risk?

Bridging the gap

Why aren't you living that life? Where's the friction? What needs to happen for you to live like that?

What is no longer serving you? Why did that even start in the first place? What can you do to reassure your body that it's safe to let go of it?

What are you ready to make room for in your life?

What element of your life is your focus for the next 6 weeks? What do you want to do within that time frame? What are you willing to compromise on to make your goal happen?

If you already had everything you've ever wanted, how would you maintain it? What exact steps would you have to take to remain in that position?

♡ __ always gives me gifts. ♡ __ always chooses me. ♡ __ is always thinking of me. ♡ __ always values me. ♡ __ loves and respects me. ♡ __ is committed to only me. ♡ __ absolutely adores me. ♡ __ daydreams about me. ♡ __ and I share a deep connection.

but the same thing for like other stuff you do in your life- like exercising: if you're doing it to look better for other people, then i really dont think its going to last long. if you were exercising to make yourself happier, and healthier (and TRULY for yourself- not just gaslighting yourself) then the desire to quit will be far less

but then again, when i say doing it for 'other people' i mean doing it to fit in society. for their validation. to be accepted, for them to deem you worthy in life. no thats not right. but what if you're learning to cook for your loved ones? personally, i think thats beautiful and very kind of you to do.

so it seems i stand corrected. as long as you do things for YOURSELF and people who you love out of the pureness and kindness of your heart, the chances of you quitting will be much less likely.

time to step into your new era

get in, babygirl, because we are rebranding ourselves today.

that version of you? the one still clinging to self-doubt, bad habits, and an outdated mindset? she’s done. she’s served her purpose, but let’s be honest—she’s not the one who’s going to take you to the top. she’s not built for the life you dream of. she’s not the girl who walks into a room and makes everyone turn their heads. she’s not the one who dominates, who wins, who commands respect just by existing. so what do we do with something that no longer fits the vision? we rebrand.

your current self isn’t allowing you to be the greatest. she’s comfortable. she’s predictable. and let’s be real—she’s holding you back.

think of the brands you love. the ones that keep winning. they never stay the same. they evolve, they elevate, they reintroduce themselves to the world in bigger, bolder ways. you are no different.

this isn’t about pretending to be someone else. this is about becoming more you than you’ve ever been. rebranding yourself means:

this is your moment. this is your next era. and trust me, they won’t be ready for you.

let’s talk about taylor swift

taylor swift is one of the biggest artists in the world because of her talent but also because she knows how to evolve. and not just in music, but in life.

here’s the thing: she’s still the same person we fell in love with when she was a teenager. she didn’t erase her past—she built on it. her core identity? still there. her kindness, her ambition, her storytelling? untouched. but what did change?

her mindset. her perspective. her habits.

she saw what wasn’t serving her and let it go. for example, in her early years, she was more open, trusting easily. but after the kanye and kim drama (yes, we know the one), she learned the hard way that not everyone had good intentions. instead of letting it destroy her, she became more guarded, more strategic. she still loves people, but she’s no longer naive. and that’s growth. even physically, she rebranded. she used to slouch her posture made her look tired, drained. but she worked on it, did posture exercises, and now? she stands tall, commands attention, and radiates confidence.

and let’s not forget the ultimate move i.e her shift from country to pop. staying in one lane would have limited her success. so she changed. she expanded. and now she’s one of the most successful artists of all time.

and the best part? she didn’t run from her past she used it. instead of hiding from the criticism and betrayal, she made an entire album, reputation, and turned pain into profit.

that’s what rebranding is. not pretending to be someone else. not erasing your history. but looking at your past, learning from it, and making it work for you.

so, if you’ve had toxic friendships? journal about it. analyze it. use it to recognize patterns and never fall for them again. if certain habits are making you small, tired, or unnoticeable? drop them. add new ones that elevate you.

your past is gold. use it. refine it. become unstoppable.

think about luxury brands like chanel and ysl icons that have stood the test of time. they didn’t throw away their history to stay relevant. instead, they evolved while keeping their core identity intact. chanel is still the epitome of elegance and sophistication, but the collections it puts out today feel just as fresh, sexy, and desirable to younger generations. it didn’t suddenly become a streetwear brand or chase trends it simply refined itself, adapting in a way that keeps it just as powerful and respected as it was decades ago. that’s how you rebrand without losing yourself.

i know the intro is very long, but it’s needed because I don’t want you guys to think that rebranding is completely becoming someone new because unfortunately people on social media have literally made rebranding look like “ forget the person you are and become someone entirely different” like no. i want you guys to embrace yourself because that is literally how you develop self-love. the most annoying part about these influencers are the fact that they promote self-love as well as talk about becoming someone new. like what the fuck- if you really love yourself, why would you try to become someone else? you don’t have to become the internet definition of that girl. you have to become your version of that girl. you have to become your version of a high value woman.

how to rebrand yourself

alright, girls, class is in session—buckle up, because i’m about to give you a step-by-step guide on how to completely rebrand yourself and your life.

step 1: develop an unshakable amount of self-love

before we do anything, before we change a single habit, mindset, or appearance you need to build a foundation of self-love. this isn’t just the starting point but it’s something that should grow and evolve with you throughout your journey.

the first step? forgiveness. forgive yourself for everything mistakes, missed opportunities, bad decisions, even the situation you’re in right now. look yourself in the mirror and say: “from this moment forward, it’s only up from here. i refuse to let myself be in this same place again, because i love myself too much to let that happen.”

take yourself seriously. no more self-sabotage, no more excuses. from now on, you are your biggest priority.

and here’s why self-love is so important when it comes to rebranding because you are working with yourself. the person you’re becoming? she is built from who you are right now.

the body you dream of having? it will come from the body you have right now. so why hate the one that’s going to create your future self?

the mindset, confidence, and glow-up you desire? it will grow from the mindset you have right now. so why hate the version of you who’s actively trying?

if you’re reading this, you’re already taking the steps to evolve. so stop hating yourself for trying. love yourself, appreciate your effort, and watch how quickly you begin to manifest your dream life.

step 2: get crystal clear on the person you’re becoming

all right, now that you’ve built your foundation with self-love, it’s time for claritybecause you can’t become her if you don’t know who she is.

who is your higher self? how does she dress? how does she speak? how does she carry herself? how does she react in tough situations? what habits does she have?

now, let’s be real this might take time. you might only have a rough idea right now, and that’s okay. clarity comes with action. you don’t need to have every single detail figured out at the start, but you do need a general vision. maybe you know she’s more confident, more disciplined, has longer hair, or is an actress. great. we’ll refine the details as we go, but for now, let’s start getting specific.

how to get clear on your future self

1. create a pinterest boards

throw in anything that resonates with you—the fashion, the energy, the lifestyle. don’t overthink it. just pin what feels right. personally, my “my life” board has over 484 pins, my “fits” board has 848 pins, and my “mindset” board has 124 pins all this helped me to become crystal clear on my vision.

2. use the freeform app (if you have an ios device) or on a paper

draw a rough sketch of your future self—yes, draw her. even if you’re not great at drawing, create a visual representation. next, create a mind map around her. break it down: style, scent, career, habits, personality etc anything that resonates the best part about freeform? it’s limitless. every time you realize a new quality you want, like staying calm under pressure and you can add it in. but if you don’t have a ios you can do it on a paper too. (especially if you make a manifestation book and do it-)

3. make a “mindmovie.”

visualize your future self and watch it dailywhether it’s through a digital vision board, a slideshow, or even a physical notebook. repetition is key. the more you see it, the more you become it.

4. journal

journal on prompts that helps you reflect on who you wanna be

getting clear on your dream self isn’t just about fantasising it’s about creating a blueprint for the life you’re about to step into. so start now, and refine as you grow.

step 3: start acting like her

now that you have a clear vision of your dream self, it’s time to start acting as if you already are her. no, you don’t have to wait until you “have your dream life” you start living it now, in the smallest ways possible.

this step is all about embodying the identity of your higher self now, instead of waiting for some future moment. the more you act like her, the faster you will become her.

1. upgrade your daily habits

your dream life is built on the tiny habits you do every day. ask yourself:

• what time does she wake up?

• how does she take care of her body?

• what kind of content does she consume?

• how does she treats the ones around her?

start implementing these habits one by one. you don’t need a full glow-up overnight small changes add up fast. you need to get 1% better everyday that’s it as i mentioned in my take yourself seriously blog

2. change your environment

your surroundings shape you more than you think. look around and ask yourself:

• does my space reflect the person i’m try to become? (if you live with your parents rn cause a lot of you are teenagers ig; then atleast focus on keeping your wardrobe and room clean)

• is my room clean, organized, and aesthetic? or is it messy and draining my energy?

• do i surround myself with things that inspire me? in my game of life blog i mentioned the importance of environment so yeah this is basically it.

make small upgrades rearrange your room, add vision boards, photos that make you happy (your childhood memories, my family, friends etc something to look at and feel the need to change for you and them), quotes or a plant omg i have such a cute witchcraft ritual for plants i’ll talk about it in upcoming blogs apart from this declutter anything that doesn’t serve your future self.

3. master your energy & presence

how you walk, talk, and present yourself affects how people see you—and more importantly, how you see yourself.

• posture & body language: stop slouching. walk with purpose. sit up straight. move gracefully. if your ideal self is a model then walk like a model. and even if not walk confidently be the boss

• speech: speak clearly, confidently, and with intention. no more mumbling or saying things like, “i don’t know…” you do know. how does you ideal self speak like? in a sexy sultry way? in a fun lighthearted way? what kinda vocabulary she uses? upgrade your vocabulary! and how many languages she knows? learn a new language!

• eye contact: look people in the eye. this instantly makes you feel more powerful. again how does she looks at people? siren eyes? doe eyes? bambi eyes? facial expressions etc i mean it every small detail

4. upgrade your style (within your means!)

dressing like your future self doesn’t mean spending thousands on a new wardrobe it means curating your style to align with who you’re becoming.

• invest in quality over quantity (even if that means just one or two staple pieces).

• start wearing colors, silhouettes, and accessories that match your dream self’s aesthetic. (do your colour analysis on chat gpt, understand what looks good on you)

• take care of your grooming healthy hair, clean nails, and glowing skin always elevate a look. go visit a dermatologist, dentist, gynaecologist etc (i’m serious, book an appointment with a dermatologist now 🔪)

5. make decisions like her

before you do anything, pause and ask:

“what would my future self do?”

would she say yes to this opportunity? would she hang out with these people? would she react emotionally, or would she handle it with grace? start thinking like her, and soon, you will be her.

this will turn you into your highest self and you wouldn’t even realise it when you’ll become her completely to the point you don’t even need to ask yourself “what will my future self do?” you will know exactly what to do

step 4: master manifestation

your highest version is literally you, you’re her she’s you. it’s all in you you’re the creator.

start making manifestations a part of your life not a chore. the life you’re living right now is literally the manifestation of all your thoughts, routine, actions etc manifestation is literally like breathing you’re doing it all the time your subconscious is working all the time

start by subliminal audios that helps you get to your goals and eft tapping mentioned in my glow up enhancing blog so go read it.

other things like

act as if? (i already told y’all this, embody her.)

visualisation

affirmation all the time

use crystals

use manifestation book

meditate

be positive all the time

become spiritual (or at the working of universe)

witchcraft (optional)

Astrology

Chakras

Different religions

Psychology

Human nature/ body language

Human rights

Investing/ business

web designing

Mental/ brain health

Sign language

fashion/ different types of clothes

Detective work

The secrets of the universe

Journalism