honestly one of the top 3 best outcomes of my transition is that no one gives a shit about me anymore. I donât get leered at in public (outside of clocking obviously), I donât get sexually harassed by random men, I donât get followed on the street or through malls by men, I donât get called an ungrateful bitch for turning down a date, I donât get sexually harassed at work or school, I donât get random unsolicited nudes sent to me, I donât get men being crybabies about me having a higher GPA than they do or making more money than they do, I donât get disgusting comments about my body, I donât get called a bitch or cunt or dyke. All the harassment and violence I have faced post-transition has always been because Iâm transgender, not because Iâm a man. Being invisible in public (RELATIVE TO THE WOMEN IN YOUR OWN DEMOGRAPHIC COHORTS) is an incredible privilege and I didnât understand the sheer extent of that privilege until I transitioned. Men talk to me like a human being now! They ask for my opinion, they chat with me, they interact with me like a ânormal person.â I became invisible in those interactions because Iâm just treated like a person and not like a woman. If anything, transitioning made me hate men more, because it revealed to me how capable they are of talking to other people like human beings and not housemaids they can fuck and abuse.
So like the gall to complain about this is insane. Donât you guys fucking remember what interacting with the world pre-transition was like? How dehumanised and violated and surveilled you felt? Ok so now imagine that there are still women in the world who experience that all the time. Now imagine there is a group of women who have to deal with all of that on top of also being the focus of a global extermination campaign, who have to deal with all of that sexual harassment AND transphobia AND violence at the same time. You want the privilege of being invisible while ALSO still being the centre of attention? What the fuck is wrong with you?
blakekathryn
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