Down the rabbit hole we go

this is why demanding flawless representation from every piece of media, and trying to police who writes what based on identity is a huge fucking mess

A crew of sailors discuss their ship. "her mast is strong but the sails need changin. She's a beaut though."

I see a fancy rock on my hike. I pick it up, turn to my friend and say "Look at him, he's so handsome"

A group of our sparkling Gay gentlemen meet up for a night out. "Girl, Daniel's serving up looks tonight. Queen! She's stunning love. She's killin it."

My neighbor needs a cup of sugar, I take some to them.

My lesbian friend wants to introduce me to her fellow female partner. "There's Star, he's wearing the blue jacket. Let's catch up with him"

“our love could level a thousand mountains and conquer a million cities”

Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!

Me: *signs up for yoga*

Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.

Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t

Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.

As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL

Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???

because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there.  suicides actually increase when medicated.  why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself.  which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.

it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours.  that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE

For Autism Acceptance Month, I felt the urge to focus on Quinn’s terrible experience with a certain type of therapy that many autistic children were/are subjected to. For Quinn, this lead to masking, self harm, and overwhelming stress growing up. Because of her need to protect Claudette from this abuse, she was finally able to understand that her own autism wasn’t a bad thing and taught her daughter the same.

Misinformed and ablest societies are the reason why autistic people call for acceptance rather than awareness. We don’t need a cure, we need understanding and resources that actually help us rather than those that stigmatize and try to change us. 

Every writer has things that they enjoy writing and there’s no harm at all in writing a lot of it. I love fake dating, and I’ve written more than my share. A sampling of comments I’ve received on my own fake dating fics:

Oh, I’m such a sucker for fake dating, and you have done it so well before, I can not wait to read what are you going to do with this!

Pi + fake dating = a flat out joy guaranteed

I'm very excited for this. You have no idea. I've been dying for a fake-wedding-dating-AU-thing and I'm so glad you're writing it  

I would say stop but DON'T EVER.  

So yeah, I think it’s probably okay if you write the same type of story over and over again. Your readers won’t mind at all. You might even become known for your writing of a particular type of story. If that’s something that would make you feel constrained, then you might want to be careful with it. If it’s something you’d take pride in, then go all out.

You definitely can improve and stretch yourself in your writing while also indulging yourself in your favourite ships or tropes. Another thing I love to write is a meet cute. So one thing I did was write meet cutes in various literary styles from Gothic to Douglas Adams. If you know a particular trope well, you can start to play with the trope and invert it in different ways. If you love a particular ship or a particular kink or a particular AU, there’s always a way to change it up. 

Hell, one time I wrote a fic for the express purpose of using as many words as I possibly could from my fandom friend’s English language textbook so she could see the words used in context and have something more interesting to study. 

You cook your favorite meal more than once in your life, right? Or you make variations on a basic recipe depending on what you want. If you enjoy something you want to have it more than once.

If your fave trope was a cheese pizza, think of all the hundreds of ways you could add or change ingredients to get something new. But at it's core it's still your cheese pizza. And sometimes a basic cheese pizza is just So Delicious.

But like.... nobody told Bob Ross to stop painting happy little trees because he made one or two nice landscapes.

But somewhere along the line they just… Disappeared. My mom says they’re not being paid and they’re not in collections. It’s almost as if someone out there did…exactly what Parker did.