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In a world that often focuses only on physical abuse, emotional abuse sometimes goes unnoticed or be brushed off as insignificant.  However, the truth is that emotional abuse can be just as damaging, if not more so, than physical abuse.  It can leave lasting scars that affect their mental health & well being long after the mistreatment has ended. One of the less obvious forms of emotional abuse…

People pleasing is a pattern that many of us fall into. Often, it stems from a deep desire to be loved or accepted, or from the fear of rejection or conflict. Over time, it can become an exhausting cycle where we constantly put others’ needs above our own, often at the expense of our own well being. But healing from people pleasing is possible, & the Bible offers us both comfort & wisdom on how…

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Leaving a narcissistic partner feels like an impossible & dangerous task. The abuse inflicted by narcissists & their manipulation & control make it incredibly difficult to break free. However, with careful planning & wisdom, it is possible to leave safely & begin to reclaim your life. While there are no guarantees for safety when leaving an abuser, there are steps you can take to minimize risk &…

Neglect leaves deep scars, often invisible to the outside world but painfully evident to those who bear them. Victims of neglect often struggle with feelings of being a burden to others, particularly to those closest to them. They often experience intense feelings of being unloved, invisible, or unworthy. Yet, God’s Word offers hope & healing for those carrying these burdens. Victims of neglect,…

Have you ever wondered why narcissists seem to act as if their behavior is not bad?  It is incredibly frustrating & confusing, especially if you are a victim of narcissistic abuse.  Understanding this behavior is crucial in recognizing the manipulation tactics they use to groom their victims.  By normalizing abuse, narcissists acclimate their victims to tolerate increasingly worse behavior while…

I decided to do some new & quite “out of the box” things. The first thing I am doing is starting a mailing list. It will share these blog posts, but also links to my podcasts when I release them, & any other interesting news such as my new book releases. I believe a mailing list will reach more people than this blog, plus it involves no wondering about my blog posts being ignored or caught up in…

Children are not born knowing how to set boundaries. They learn by observing the adults around them, and by how those adults respond when the child expresses discomfort, resistance, or a simple need for space. In a healthy family, a child’s “no” is not seen as rebellion but as a natural, God given part of becoming a whole person with thoughts, preferences, and limits. But in homes where…

One of the hardest truths victims of narcissistic abuse eventually discover is that not everyone who enables a narcissist agrees with the narcissist. Some simply find it easier to sacrifice you than to confront the person causing the problem. That realization hurts. When someone says, “That’s just how they are,” it sounds as though they are defending the narcissist. Sometimes they are. Other…

Narcissistic abuse in romantic relationships rarely begins by destroying a person’s identity. It is not a sudden disappearance of who you are, but a gradual erosion. Piece by piece, moment by moment, you lose yourself in ways that are so subtle you may not even notice at first. You disappear a little every time you give in just to avoid their criticism or rage. What starts as “keeping the peace”…

Cleaning one’s home does not have to be a tedious, dreaded task.  Sure, it is often seen as mundane & repetitive, but with a few small changes, it can be something more fulfilling.  Today we will discuss some ways I have found over the years to make cleaning a more enjoyable & meaningful part of your day: Instead of focusing on the hassle of cleaning, think about the wonderful outcome that…

Have you ever encountered someone who seemed kind and caring on the surface but left you feeling uneasy and uncomfortable?  People like this are everywhere, & often hiding behind a façade of false empathy, kindness, & humility as masks to hide their true nature.  By understanding their tactics, you can protect yourself from falling victim to their manipulative ways. Abusers excel at portraying…

Having healthy self esteem can be a challenge for many, but it becomes even more difficult after experiencing narcissistic abuse.  Narcissists go to great lengths to destroy their victims’ self esteem, leaving them feeling extremely broken, flawed & even crazy.  Additionally, the outward appearance of confidence displayed by overt narcissists can create  an aversion in others of even the…

One thing I have noticed about abusive people is that when their behavior is exposed, they rarely focus on clearing their own name. Instead, they focus on destroying yours. A healthy person who has been falsely accused typically wants the truth to come out. They want to explain what happened, provide context, & clear up misunderstandings. Abusive people often take a very different approach.…

Dealing with narcissistic in-laws is a very isolating & emotionally exhausting experience. If you have married into a family that demands absolute loyalty, obedience, & the abandonment of your true self — as if you were expected to become part of a single, oppressive collective — you are not alone. Many have found themselves unfairly blamed, accused of sowing discord, or made to feel as though…

Narcissists are masters of manipulation, drawing people into relationships that start as incredibly wonderful but soon become emotionally draining, confusing, & damaging. The Bible warns us about deceptive people who disguise themselves as loving & kind but have destructive motives beneath the surface. 2 Corinthians 11:13-14 in the Amplified Bible states, “For such people are false apostles,…

Narcissists are driven by an insatiable need for admiration. They crave the spotlight, the recognition, & the praise of others. To them, their self worth comes from the approval & validation they receive. In their pursuit of admiration, they are willing to manipulate, deceive, & exploit others to maintain their image of superiority. However, the Bible provides clear warnings about this type of…