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people will describe their incredibly nebulous sexuality to you that they’ve never been able to define and the whole time you’re thinking that sounds like bisexuality brother

the secret cheat code for women is realizing you dont have to date men

this doesnt just go for lesbians it goes for bi women and straight women too. i cant even count how many times straight women have told me “i wish i was a lesbian so i didnt have to date men” but guess what … u Dont have to date men 

to be clear this also isnt necessarily saying ‘go date women instead!!’ its just saying…. u dont have to date men. u dont have to be dating women in order to not date men! in fact if ur not attracted to women at all please dont date women just as a substitute for men. but if dating men isnt making u happy… u dont have to do that. u dont have to make a space in ur life for men

Every reblog = less mental health awareness for men and more actual autonomy and love for women

somebody replied "what about straight trans men." on an account called butch_fever. who then replied "we love them too!" why. why are we required to make space for men whenever we talk about women. can anything just be for dykes? can we stop acting like cis dykes & trans dykes have nothing in common & aren't in community with each other? i wouldn't be offended by trans men being included in lesbian spaces if it didn't seem to always be at the expense of trans women.

maybe it's me, maybe i'm not butch after all because i don't like all the assumptions it causes people to make about me, & maybe that means it's not the label for me. every community i try to find a home in ends up telling me i don't belong there.

for the record this is the same dude who wrote an article about how autogynephilia is real

when i was a kid i was so mad all the time bc i thought someday i'd have to be somebody's wife i didn't know it was optional. is everybody reminding the young girls in their lives that it's optional.

The most inconvenient truth is that men do misogyny because they get something from it. They get labor from intimate partners, they get social capital in their public circles, they get the benefit of the doubt, they get default respect and promotions and people listening to them and people afraid of them.

All of that being said, I don't have infinite patience and I'm confident in my principles.

every demographic of man on earth has a sizable portion who will say harm towards women comes from every other demographic of man except for theirs. the thing you’re perceiving as misogynistic danger is really something else, often something socially marginalized, so what does that make you for noticing it? if you don’t hear from women in these demographics you can safely assume they agree with the men; it’s more comfortable than wondering what is done to the women who disagree.

I will stop hating men when men stop hating women

I have been lectured by so many men on how I should not hate people for their gender. Treated as casually inferior, too stupid to understand that *obviously* I should not do that. When men stop believing that women are a kind of stupid emotional animal that must be educated I will stop hating men.

And yes, trans men are men in that regard too. Do better.

Conclusion: You’re upset that I hate trans men? Treat (trans) women as your equals and I won’t hate you.

honestly + unfortunately I am never surprised by men laughing at a woman’s expense

like marilyn frye said: “to say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). all or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. the people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire… those are, overwhelmingly, other men. in their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. from women they want devotion, service and sex. heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving.”

*liberal voice* the "Throw Trannies in a Woodchipper Act" is bad because what if a real person gets thrown into the chipper by mistake?

gender essentialism is soooo funny bc it's like "this is what women are like" and you're like "I've met women and many of them, if not the majority, have not been like that" and it's like "well women SHOULD be like that" and you're like "why should women be like that" and its like "because that's what women are like"

"butchfemme just replicates heterosexuality" is one of the utmost "this probably goes hard as fuck if you're stupid" sentiments