did you know that simone de beauvoir (kind of) endorsed a trans-inclusive reading of her famous quote that "one is not born, but becomes, a woman"?
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did you know that simone de beauvoir (kind of) endorsed a trans-inclusive reading of her famous quote that "one is not born, but becomes, a woman"?

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the argument "you can't identify into women's oppression" is particularly funny because like, you actually can. when you start transitioning people will start oppressing you as a woman. it's just a very silly, obviously wrong, argument.
from "Feminism Needs Trans Women"
Sometimes, women are accused of being men. This happens especially to intersex women, or women of color â prominent women of color athletes like Imane Khelif and Caster Semenya have been accused of being "male". If people truly believed that these women were "male", and treated them as such, this would cause these women to be treated better â they would escape misogynistic harassment and abuse. But being accused of being a man does not grant a woman exemption from misogyny; rather, it is a form of misogynistic harassment unto itself. 19th-century Black feminist Sojourner Truth was once forced to bare her breasts to an audience that accused being a man.[1]
A woman who is accused of being a man is degendered. This is a misogynistic process of humiliation in which women are expelled from the class of "woman" and relegated to that monstrous third class of "other". People who are members of the "other" class experience all the violence associated with being a woman, but none of the privileges. A male supremacist world is intensely cruel to women â but some level of chivalry and gallantry is also expected: men are expected, to a certain extent, to treat women with respect and reverence. People who are degendered are denied even this small privilege: they experience a form of misogyny that is intense and pervasive.
Degendering is a misogynistic tactic used to control women. Women who are too strong, too smart, too angry, are beaten into line with the threat of degendering. A woman who manages to achieve success â which, in a male supremacist world, is intended to be the domain of men alone â risks being accused of being "male". When this happens, the woman is humiliated and degendered. The misogynistic harassment continues, but she is denied legibility and relief. Ultimately, degendering poses a threat to any woman â radical feminist Shulamith Firestone was once accused of being male by fellow feminists.[2] These accusations are meant to limit and control the realm of behavior and physical appearance that is acceptable for women.
Degendering is an essential part of the misogyny to which trans women are subject. Trans women who are degendered â who are accused of being male â continue to be subject to misogynistic harassment. They continue to be sexually objectified, dismissed, treated as crazy, exploited, abused â but they are denied legibility as women. Violence against trans women is socially acceptable because they are seen as "not women". Blatant sexual harassment of trans women â such as radical feminist Sheila Jeffreys's lurid speculation about trans woman Julia Serano's sexual desire[3] â goes unchallenged because of the "other" category into which trans women are sorted.
The degendering that transgender women experience is especially harsh (because it is often seen as simply "true" that transgender women are male), but it is not unique. The threat of degendering hangs over all women. Cis women have ways to exempt themselves by appealing to their female biology, birth assignment, or history â but no woman is entirely safe from degendering.
Feminists who argue that trans women are "men" are simply incorrect. From a cold and objective sociological perspective, trans women do not occupy the social class of "men". Often, they occupy the social class of "women" â but otherwise, they occupy a different class, below women on the gender hierarchy.
[1] Cameron Awkward-Rich, âOn Trans Uses of the Many Sojourner Truths,â in Feminism against Cisness (Duke University Press, 2024), 43.
[2] Jude Doyle, DILF: Did I Leave Feminism? (Melville House, 2025), chap. 3.
[3] Sheila Jeffreys, Gender Hurts: A Feminist Analysis of the Politics of Transgenderism (Routledge, Taylor & Francis Group, 2014), 50â51; See Seranoâs response, Serano, Outspoken, 162â170.
I think about this piece a lot. The three genders in our shit society are "human, broodmare, and freak." It's a much more parsimonious taxonomy for the situation we're all in right now.
âThe Gender Binaryâ is a misnomer; gender has always been a hierarchy.
yup, i cite that piece liberally in the essay quoted above and my other writing
Towards a grand theory of sex change
What is a woman, anyway?
âOne is not born, but rather becomes, woman.â
â Simone de Beauvoir[i]
A favorite question of right-wing pundits in recent years has become: what is a woman? Those who ask it, nearly always acting in bad faith, presume that the question has an obvious answer. It is presumed that there are only two options: (a) define women on biological terms, thus proving that trans women are not women or (b) say that anyone who identifies as a woman is a woman, thus rendering the category meaningless. It is presumed that if âwomanâ becomes meaningless, then so too will gender, sex, heterosexuality, the church, the family, and probably Western civilization. Exciting stuff.
so how much more do trans women need to show you about what we go through before you stop rolling your eyes when we say we face misogyny
we face misogynistic patterns of abuse, discrimination, and oppression, intertwined with and amplified by transphobia. and then, beaten down, when we seek community with others who face these things, we are laughed off as the jokes we've always been told we are
pale imitations of womanhood
when we are raped, it is a pale imitation of real rape
when we are abused by our partners, it is a pale imitation of real domestic abuse
when we are punished for our failures to meet patriarchal standards of womanhood, it's a pale imitation of the same thing happening to cis women
when we grieve our inability to give birth, it is a pale imitation of the grief of cis women who cannot give birth
when we face violence and murder at incredibly high rates, when we are threatened and catcalled and harassed by men in public, our fear is a pale imitation of that of cis women
when we are paid the lowest wages of any gender demographic, it is a pale imitation of the smaller wage gap faced by cis women
our suffering is a pale imitation of real suffering
what jokes we are
to be vulnerable for a second. it's painful. I want it to be ok but it isn't ok. I hope things start to get better if we keep working to make them better. I want my sisters to be ok
"I no longer feel that continued education about trans issues within womenâs communities would change their oppressive behaviors in any significant degree, unless they are actually willing to change. It is not the lack of knowledge or information that keeps oppression going; it is the lack of feminist compassion, conscience and principle that is."
From Emi Koyama (who incidentally passed away this week), in an article she wrote 20 years ago.

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@the-whipping-girl (if you're not the-whipping-girl, don't read this it is incredibly boring and was a waste of my time.)
Your essay structure is pretty abysmal. The introduction alone is a garbled mess and your conclusion mostly serves to emphasize that you're not really sure what point you're trying to make. Devoting five paragraphs to other people's writing bloats the work further, and the quotes you've chosen are scattered and you provide no linking comments between the five to show a line of thought, I can only presume because there was none. It has the same authorial rigor as a pinterest board.
You at no point elaborate on your own positioning (though I think I can guess) or the methodology or philosophy that will influence the piece--while positioning isn't a requirement in social science papers I find it to be an extremely strange absence in this piece that claims to be quibbling about definitions but really comes down to downplaying and denying the discrimination faced by trans men.
The citation markings in this piece make it extremely annoying to read (bracketing and using a numeral system would be more readable if you're not wanting to format footnotes, but the footnotes themselves include commentary as well as citation which is poor structuring.) EDIT TO ADD: the citations are what made me quit critiquing.
Your sources are incredibly bloated. For a blog post of this length you would be better suited by using less sources for theory and structuring a background paragraph where you use fewer sources to better emphasize your point--you don't appear to directly reference the same source more than once. Furthermore, regarding the bloat, it is incredibly notable that the parts of your essay that have the least sources are the (thin) parts where you make your main claims. The core of your argument is that the term transandrophobia is bad because it makes a mockery of transmisogyny, yes? This is the part of the paper that you should have argued the most, had the strongest defenses for, and there's crickets. Not subtle at all.
Regarding the sources themselves, the first point is pretty evident, and it is that your theory is really unbalanced in terms of weighing the writings of trans women over trans men. You actually touch on this, when talking about how the term "transandrophobia" hasn't made an appearance in academic literature; however I fear that any first-year sociology professor might then ask "and do you have any ideas as to why there might be less academic literature from transgender men?" 5a.To elaborate, this claim that you have not found "any writing on the topic" (of transmasculine discrimination or of specific use of the word?) "longer than a single blog post" is really telling of your lack of interest in the work of transgender men. if you put "transandrophobia" into GOOGLE SCHOLAR, of all places, you will see results. If you put "trans men" and "discrimination" you will also see results. It is extremely easy to disprove your claim here and betrays your intentions.
Quoting your own essays in this context is a really, really poor look every time you do it. You cannot use your own theory to supplement claims of broad social realities. source: blackfangedhellhound 2026, anime profile picture
Now would be a good point to note that much of the criticism I'm going to offer from here has been touched on in the notes of your blog post by others and you have not responded to it in any way, so I'm aware I'm wasting my time.
source xiii (Wage Gap study, US Based). You make a sweeping claim based off data from 7,000 salary workers. Here are the following reasons I would not do this: -when making strong claims it pays to be as specific as possible -this is US-based data, and as such applicable only to the US -it is applicable only to salary work and as such leaves out the vast number of LGBT people who are not on salaries. -7,000 is a very small number in terms of making claims of this scale -the study itself notes it is not all-encompassing, lacks data, and the real gaps are probably bigger -while these numbers are useful for the point the non profit is trying to make, they are not useful for yours.
xiv (Violence study, US Based, same foundation). I don't want to pick this one apart to the same degree because trans community infighting is so obviously not the point of this memorium page that I feel dirty doing it. In fact I'm not going to do it. Rest in peace to the victims.
xv (supreme court, athlete bans) Your claim for this one is that these laws specifically target trans women. By not mentioning in your essay that these are bans specifically regarding sports, you can hope your audience doesn't put together that trans men are functionally already affected by gender specific bans due to the regulation of HRT. (relevant because HRT is a specific item of discussion in this case)
I feel obliged at this point to mention that I'm not from the US.
You additionally make several extremely bold statements in your essay with NO sourcing, so bold and so shockingly unsourced that I am convinced you have to believe them to be self-evident. "The most popular and best-funded queer spaces are run by and for gay men." Where? In what countries? In cities or rural spaces? Who is funding them? "These spaces are often transphobicâŚ" Are they? "They (trans men) are men who are privileged "but for" their trans status". Is this true? Or would they perhaps experience sexism on a global level according to their assigned sex at birth?
xvii (trans men have a long history of articulating mra frameworks, citation: it came to sara in a dream). I am not reading your radical feminist manifesto. If this essay is any indication it will be deceptive in the way only bigots can be. Stop citing yourself until you write something useful.
xxi (catherine mackinnon's defense, your claim is that trans men who "pass" experience violence primarily to the extent they are marked as queer or feminine, etc.) I cannot be bothered rereading this entire piece but I found nothing on pg. 88 reinforcing your claim here and given that it is not a social study and as such is not producing data, I would probably ignore it anyway.
xxii (another citation from yours truly, I see. I am not reading that.) Why would you use the term "regendering" here. Don't use the term "transemasculation" either. You do not get to decide what language trans men use to discuss their oppression.
âŚAnd I'm calling it quits there. I can't imagine a deep read will produce any better insight, so I'll end this on my overall critique on your essay instead of harping on your atrocious use of sources. You agree that trans men experience oppression, but you dislike the language used to discuss it. You falsely claim that there is no academic use of the language, you deceptively present data to make broad points it does not support, you frequently cite your own work. You also commit the general and embarrassing error of most transfeminists who criticize trans men's description of their oppression, which is that, while ignoring their lived experiences, you replace evidence with theory. It's incredibly easy to claim that trans men transition into a privileged class (an argument that puts you in bed with terfs), that their oppression is not systemic and not worth discussing with specific language, and that transphobia as force is driven primarily by hatred of trans women--if your source for that is "some trans people admire think so". Your citations include The Whipping Girl, which also names your blog, however it is extremely common knowledge that the author herself has retracted her own statements about trans men. You hit the coiner of the term "transandrophobia" with an ad hominem attack as if the fact this individual has not written a book will strengthen your arguments that the existence of the term is a threat to trans women. You cite a trans man stating that all trans men have male privilege and repeat it without questioning--because he said so. Not because you (or he) has anything substantial to back it up. Your "favorite passages" at the end provide absolutely no support to your argument, because your argument is incoherent. "Transandrophobia isn't real", says your title. Apparently you are not talking about trans male specific oppression, because that exists. So the word does not? But the word exists, because people are using it. If only there were an essay where you could have elaborated on your intentions instead of running yourself in circles to defend a point you don't even seem entirely confident in making. You end by repeating your claim that your issue with the word is that it steamrolls the specific experiences of trans women. I find it particularly telling that, of everything you've discussed, you spend the least amount of words on this. I also find it particularly telling that, in insisting trans men choose a different term so as not to speak over trans women, you eagerly speak over them. There's more theorizing to be done but you are not the person to do it. Also your consistent subject-dodging and quippy responses to brief comments while ignoring thought-out critique is right out of the right wing playbook and not a great look for a would-be feminist mouthpiece, for the record.
Okay one final thing. This is an incredibly funny thing to say about a claim for which I cited a specific book and page number. You could go read the book, ya know. Dumbass
Transandrophobia doesnât exist
Transandrophobia is a term used to describe the specific oppression faced by trans men. It is alternately defined as a specific anti-masculine prejudice,i the intersection of transphobia and misogyny,ii or as a general catch-all to describe any transphobia faced by trans men.iii However, the fact that there exist multiple conflicting definitions of the term, combined with the fact that there is no real theoretical basis for the termâs existence, and that most articulations of the term rely on implicitly antifeminist logic, there is in fact no such thing as transandrophobia. Although trans men do face specific struggles, transandrophobia is the wrong framework, and any attempt to frame trans menâs issues through the lens of transandrophobia is antifeminist, and therefore misogynistic.
Towards a grand theory of sex change
Centuries of (in)visibility
What aspects of male privilege do you believe that transgender men have?
Male privilege is not constantly looking over your shoulder because you arenât as likely to be assaulted. Trans men have a very high chance of being sexually assaulted compared to their cisgender counterparts (107.5 per 1000 people vs 19.8 per 1000 people, according to the UCLA School of Law Williams Institute.) Trans men also face higher rates of intimate partner violence in general.
Male privilege is having zero fears about being discriminated against by employers on the basis of gender and sex. Trans men do worry about this, frequently. While it is true that trans men on average are paid more than trans women, it is important to remember that it is 70 cents vs 60 cents for every dollar a cisgender man makes. Most research about workplace discrimination against transgender and nonbinary people does not separate trans women and trans men as a category, and thatâs assuming they even separated out nonbinary participants.
Male privilege is when you can easily access essential medical care without your gender or sex being a barrier. Trans men do not have this, for a variety of reasons. For one example, in the United States, testosterone is a schedule 3 restricted substance, like opiods. If you have ever been prescribed opioid medication or know someone who has, you know that pharmacies routinely make getting schedule 3s very difficult for patients that have prescriptions, and they are treated like addicts. Testosterone has been schedule 3 for 35 years. Sure, you could try DIY from a random gym bro who probably watches Andrew Tate. Thatâs a fantastic way to get assaulted or get something thatâs cut with other stuff. Estrogen is currently not scheduled at all, and while DIY estrogen is not easy to obtain, it is leagues less risky than DIY testosterone.
Male privilege is having reproductive rights and autonomy. Trans men do not have this in many places across the world. In the best case this can look like insurance refusing to cover birth control after a legal sex change on official documents. At worst it can result in being forced to carry an unwanted pregnancy. And getting voluntarily sterilized if you have a uterus is notoriously difficult, regardless of whether youâre a cis woman or a trans man or nonbinary.
This is not to say that trans women have privilege over trans men, that would be an absurd thing to say. This is also not to say that transmisogyny isnât a real and significant problem, because it is. Trans men are more than capable of being transmisogynistic, as is literally everyone else.
However, recent discourse has been pretending that trans men as a class are equivalent to cisgender men, which is simply not true. You cannot have male privilege if wider society does not see you as a man, and in most cases trans men are not treated as by society. Being trans means you are treated by whichever set of gendered standards will hurt you the most in that moment, because bigotry and hypocrisy go hand in hand. We seem to all agree that this happens to trans women, but popular discourse seems to assume that trans men get all the benefits of both classes which is frankly absurd.
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Trans men have an easier time "passing" than trans women.i Trans women are more likely than trans men to be discriminated against at rape crisis centers after they are targets of sexual violence.ii Trans women are more likely to be excluded from family events, harassed, assaulted on the street, or sexually assaulted than trans men.iii Trans women are more likely to be accused of soliciting sex or accused of not disclosing their HIV status than trans meniv â both of these playing on persistent stereotypes that paint [trans women] as "rapists" or "sexual deviants". Trans men, unlike trans women, are not on the receiving end of a decades-long moral panic painting them as irredeemable sexual predators.v
I could continue â trans men make more money than trans woman,vi and in over 80% of trans homicides, the victim is a trans woman (usually a Black trans woman)vii â but it is this final point that is especially salient: all trans women live their lives in the shadow of the constructed-tranny-specter. All trans women must navigate through, in, and around this specter. All trans women risk being accused of being rapists or sexual deviants at all times. Any person â regardless of gender or trans status â can dispose of a trans woman by accusing her of being a rapist. Regardless of whether or not the accusation is true, it will stick, and it will destroy her life.
Trans men have no such specter under which they must live. This does not mean that trans men do not face problems, and it does not mean that trans men do not face misogyny, but it does mean that trans men have privilege over trans women.
i Namaste, Invisible Lives, 145.
ii âSEXUAL VIOLENCE & TRANSGENDER/ NON-BINARY COMMUNITIES,â 1.
iii Chung et al., Positively Trans Report 3: See Us As People, Table 4.B.
iv Chung et al., Positively Trans Report 3: See Us As People, Fig. 1.
v Moiseff, Against Tranny Hate: A Radical Transfeminist Manifesto, 9.
vi The Wage Gap Among LGBTQ+ Workers in the United States.
vii The Epidemic of Violence Against the Transgender & Gender-Expansive Community in the U.S.: The 2024 Report.

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One of these days Iâll write a blog post about something interesting. But not today.
Like everything I do, it's a response to Leslie Feinberg
Sophie Lewis looks back on Scapegoat to reassess the Andrea Dworkin's legacy, concluding that the current Dworkin revival is a "terrible ide
Scapegoat now states that women have no history but, if we did, it would be âa history of rape: the pogrom against the female body. The constant juxtaposition cuts short the breath that one would normally use to assess each claim, as it comes, before moving onto what follows. It turns my stomach in a way I suspect was not intended. A sudden comment on Chinese footbinding caps off, for instance, many paragraphs on the patriarchal oppression of women in Gaza. An abrupt swerve into Jew-on-Jew pimping follows many paragraphs on the pornographic core of National Socialism. A patronizing assessment of Palestinian womenâs role in the resistance melts into yet another survey of state-sanctioned prostitution across the centuries. Dworkin has set herself the task to prove, inexorablyâthrough a widening gyre of montage-based equivalencesâthat the âwoman-hateâ in menâs hearts really is everywhere, left and right. This hate will remain until women rise up across borders and draw new borders for themselves by seizing a homelandâan âIsraelââaway from men. Her mission is carried out quite well. I just consider it fascistic, not least in its insistence on female innocence. Dworkinâs account of history is dazzlingly erudite and stunningly stupid at once: men have wrought it all. Even if your definition of âhistoryâ is strictly military, this is unpardonable stuff: armed struggles have always featured women leaders, such as, in the case of the Popular Front for the Liberation of Palestine, Abla Taha, Latifa Howari, Sarah Joudeh and Leila Khaled. Dworkin doesnât mention these or any other Palestinian women militants and reckons that feminism is not currently possible in the Arab world: âin the sensibility of contemporary Arab women, the Palestinian male is the romantic figure,â not the Palestinian woman. Tellingly, the whole question of Palestinian womenâs anti-Zionist struggle is dealt with only indirectly, merged with a discussion of âthe heroism of Algerian women fightersâ between 1954 and â62 whose purpose is to ram home the lesson that national liberation movements always betray their women. Besides, when women participate in struggle, itâs âbecause they can be used and usefulâ and âget a temporary pass from complete servility.â Also, âthe subsuming of the individual in the nationalist struggle is an easy process for women, who have little experience with a social reification of a singular identity.â These women are fodder for revolutionary movements, Dworkin misogynistically opines, because they have no self. All the litanies of rape-related facts in previous Dworkin books like Intercourse have palpably been dress-rehearsals for the remix in chapter three. âRape,â she raps here mid-infodump, âis murderâs heartbeat.â Itâs an undeniably dope line. Whatâs odd is how, while the wretched of the earth are always women, âPogrom/Rapeâ rests on the leftfield assertion that âIsraeli men get raped.â Dworkin alleges that âthe rape of a defeated foe, soldier, maleâ is âpart of the Arab code, coexisting with the obligation of the father or brother to kill the sister for sexual impurity.â She extrapolates further, on the strength of the book Arab and Jew (1987) by former New York Times Jerusalem Bureau chief David Shipler, that Palestinian men are engaged in a ârevenge vendetta through male-male rape.â It is in fact purely on this basisâthat is, unevidenced testimony cited by Shipler from a former Haganah paramilitary veteran (and, later, IDF/IOF colonel) Rafi Horowitz, recalling the Arab Legion systematically gouging eyes and mutilating genitalsâthat Dworkin delivers her chilling verdict: âthe revenge rape of male Israeli soldiers in captivity is part of the fear, part of the hate, that drives the Israeli fear of annihilation.â Itâs her concluding point, and given that rape, for Dworkin, is the supreme justifier of bloody preemptive defense, there can be no mistaking what is being justified here.
as new grifters relentlessly dedicate themselves to digging up radical feminism and attempting to toss the exhumed corpse onto the kitchen table for attention, i think it's worth reading sophie lewis' scathing takedown of dworkin's zionism and how it's inextricable from the rest of her politics
hey do you wanna do andrea dworkin discourse. pokes you. discourse tonight queen?
Eat your heart out, John Stoltenberg
hey do you wanna do andrea dworkin discourse. pokes you. discourse tonight queen?
Eat your heart out, John Stoltenberg
i'm actually really tired of being lumped together like this. i don't find it empowering or validating. why don't you just say "people i assume were afab" & save yourself some space.
somebody replied "what about straight trans men." on an account called butch_fever. who then replied "we love them too!" why. why are we required to make space for men whenever we talk about women. can anything just be for dykes? can we stop acting like cis dykes & trans dykes have nothing in common & aren't in community with each other? i wouldn't be offended by trans men being included in lesbian spaces if it didn't seem to always be at the expense of trans women.
maybe it's me, maybe i'm not butch after all because i don't like all the assumptions it causes people to make about me, & maybe that means it's not the label for me. every community i try to find a home in ends up telling me i don't belong there.
for the record this is the same dude who wrote an article about how autogynephilia is real
i wish you'd reblogged the version of this post without my very personal addition about my own identity that i certainly didn't want hundreds of notes on, but good to know anyway
my apologies! you want me to delete it?
no it's ok, sorry, i should've turned reblogs off if i didn't want people to reblog it. your addition was important. i just went ahead & deleted the post so other people can have it. i'm just having a bad day.
đ take care of yourself

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i'm actually really tired of being lumped together like this. i don't find it empowering or validating. why don't you just say "people i assume were afab" & save yourself some space.
somebody replied "what about straight trans men." on an account called butch_fever. who then replied "we love them too!" why. why are we required to make space for men whenever we talk about women. can anything just be for dykes? can we stop acting like cis dykes & trans dykes have nothing in common & aren't in community with each other? i wouldn't be offended by trans men being included in lesbian spaces if it didn't seem to always be at the expense of trans women.
maybe it's me, maybe i'm not butch after all because i don't like all the assumptions it causes people to make about me, & maybe that means it's not the label for me. every community i try to find a home in ends up telling me i don't belong there.
for the record this is the same dude who wrote an article about how autogynephilia is real
i wish you'd reblogged the version of this post without my very personal addition about my own identity that i certainly didn't want hundreds of notes on, but good to know anyway
my apologies! you want me to delete it?
i'm actually really tired of being lumped together like this. i don't find it empowering or validating. why don't you just say "people i assume were afab" & save yourself some space.
somebody replied "what about straight trans men." on an account called butch_fever. who then replied "we love them too!" why. why are we required to make space for men whenever we talk about women. can anything just be for dykes? can we stop acting like cis dykes & trans dykes have nothing in common & aren't in community with each other? i wouldn't be offended by trans men being included in lesbian spaces if it didn't seem to always be at the expense of trans women.
maybe it's me, maybe i'm not butch after all because i don't like all the assumptions it causes people to make about me, & maybe that means it's not the label for me. every community i try to find a home in ends up telling me i don't belong there.
for the record this is the same dude who wrote an article about how autogynephilia is real