Tiny bit of personal context, I'm transfemme (early transition) and have a.. surprising number of girls wanting me to domme them.

(oh also, if I have any follow-up questions, do you mind my DMing you?)

DMs are fine!!!

my advice is to practice making decisions without agonizing over them. 90% of the decisions you make while domming (what do we do next, should it wear a collar or a harness, can it cum now or should it beg more etc) are arbitrary. Learn to just decide. The more you think about every choice you’re making the faster youll burn out and get decision fatigue. If you realize you made the wrong choice, you can change it as soon as you realize. The most tiring part of domming is the overthinking. The second guessing. The “was that hot or embarrassing”. I can maintain my domme persona the longest when I can just say “whatever. I already made my decision. Time to move on”.

also, develop a list with your partner of things you want to do. “Fuck, what do I do now” was the main thing on my mind when I started domming. If you have your own list of options for stuff thats on the table you can go down the list in your head and select from it instead of coming up with things to do on the spot. Also, don’t be scared to just grab your sub and stare at them while you think of what to do. There’s no time crunch and the pause will make them anticipate something. Especially if you’re not talking, just looking at them and sizing them up.

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6 months ago, i was banned from twitch, my only source of income, for, and i quote: "". They did not provide me a reason. The person who reported me has been going around telling trans women to kill themselves and bragging about reporting me. Now that it has been 6 months, however, I can at least request reinstatement- theoretically.

Unfortunately, I can't get into the appeals page or my twitch account at all; I can't even change the phone number used for 2fa because the 2fa service is that shit, and the phone number associated with the account belongs to a friend who is way behind on his bills after a divorce.

we've managed to get most of them paid, but he's still another $150 away from getting his phone reconnected, at which point i will be switching over to my current number so this never happens again. and then i can maybe actually get my twitch account back.

if anyone has anything they can spare to help, it would be immensely appreciated ;_;

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