love lĘŚv/
noun
1. a strong feeling of affection."babies fill parents with intense feelings of love"synonyms:deep affection, fondness, tenderness, warmth, intimacy, attachment, endearment:
2. a great interest and pleasure in something."his love for football"synonyms:liking, weakness, partiality, bent, leaning, proclivity, inclination, disposition;Â
verb
1. feel deep affection or sexual love for (someone)."do you love me?"synonyms:be in love with, be infatuated with, be smitten with, be besotted with, be passionate about;Â
The official definition of love. It’s is the essence of connecting with people and build a relationship, which is the theme I’m going to talk about this week. ♡
1. The Most Important Relationship You’ll Ever Have (watch the video here)Â
Let’s have a closer look at the most important relationship you’ll ever have and why the success of this one forms the base of every other relationship in your life. The relationship you have with yourself mainly takes place in the mind. Whereas your mind isn't something you can always control, there are active ways to talk to yourself through your thoughts. Often, these conversations are based on our fears, what we are lacking, what we are insecure about - I don't look good in this, I’m not capable of this, she is better than me, I’m not enough etc. Now imagine your mind is another person who says all these things to you. Would you still want to be with that person, would you still value and respect that person? When we abandon ourselves, there is no way we can create healthy relationships with others.
Through our childhood, through society, we have been put in a place of constant judgment and comparison, which is the most unhealthy place to be. We often see in others only what we are lingering for because everyone is busy presenting their flawlessness. Self-doubt is something (almost) everyone deals with, but people handle it in different ways of hiding it. The problem with hiding your self-doubt by pretending to be flawless and invulnerable takes a lot of effort.
Instead, treat yourself with love. The key of every relationship is love. Feeling unconditional love for myself, value me, be my own best friend. If I show enough respect to myself, I will not accept anyone else treating me below this standard. Â
2. Â Romantic Relationships - What they say about you (watch the video here)
I have been through many relationships, many of them had a totally different nature. What I can say about this is that looking back, it wasn't just about the person I was with, it depended on the mindset and the beliefs and truths I carried with me at this point in time. I’m giving you a few examples to understand this concept.Â
Imagine coming out of a bad breakup. Your mindset: lonely, hurt, lost trust, doubtful - the relationship you will try to attract in your life is someone to give you back what you’ve lost. Because you are coming from a place of lack, you will always look for signs that this person is not giving you what you need. You will become needy, possessive, controlling. Also, because your self-esteem is low, you are more likely to chose someone who is covering your basic needs without looking deeper into that person. Â
Imagine that the last few months, you focused completely on finding yourself. You worked and naturally built a belief system, truths, values, you know what you want and you know what you need. You are content and you are coming from a place of abundance. Now when feeling attracted to someone, you will feel the pull because you resonate on a deeper level. Because your self-esteem is high, you won't settle for anything less and you are setting an example of how to be treated.
Of course, these are just examples and I generally don't believe in generalization, but you get the point. Often, the current nature of your relationship says at least equally much about your current relationship with yourself.
Since a relationship is a growing and evolving process, energies between you and your partner can change. The mistake we make is that we are looking for the mistake in the other person, with the egoistic belief that we haven't changed, therefore, we couldn't be the reason. Change is such a big topic in relationships because only when we place our own expectations on the other person, we see change as something negative since it differs from what we expect. If we are coming from a place of love, understanding, and compassion with the intention to bring up the best in the other persons life and character, we not only help the other person grow, but we maintain a deliberate and free state of being with each other, which is based on the simple truth that a relationship cannot work if you intend to possess the other person.
3. My Relationship With Strangers (watch the video here)
It’s nearly absurd how much we care about what others think.
Think about 5 people who behaved extraordinarily or outside the norm in the past week. In the rare case that something so significant happened that you can pinpoint a situation right now, its highly unlikely that you remember his or her face or would recognize her or him. Yet, we still care about what others might think of us even though we know their impressions of us lasts no longer than seconds until they go on with their lifes. Ever since I questioned my belief regarding this topic, I started caring less and less. And I can assure you, the less I cared, the more alive I felt, and the more absurd it felt, to once be determined by others opinions. Think about the most successful and respected people you know and their tendency to worry about what other people think of them. Most likely, they don’t. If your self-respect and self-esteem are high enough, you will accept you, and only you as your judge. You know that your dreams, hopes, and your opinion deserve to be lived, seen and heard no matter what. And when you reach that state, the most interesting thing happens: people start to respect you, not for fitting into their expectations of you, but for respecting yourself.
Hopefully, you’ll find this useful to revise the content I shared with you in my videos - especially if you are more a reader than a listener :) If you resonate with my content and waiting for a serious opportunity to START IMPROVING YOUR LIFE - This Is It. Sign up to my mail list HERE, to receive free coaching, guidance, and content to start jour journey.Â
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Celine Linesse
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