Bombs And Bullets Will Do The Trick

YOU'LL ME??

i feel so seen!!

I'm asexual. I figured that out not long after I first came across the term in high school. But figuring out my gender took a lot longer. I didn't really think about my gender identity for years, it wasn't until I was in college that I started trying to figure out what my gender was. That process took years.

I didn't really feel attached to my assigned gender, but I also didn't feel the gender dysphoria that trans people described. I didn't particularly feel like I was neither of those either. For a long time, I honestly didn't feel like any of the gender descriptions and identities I was coming across really fit. I just didn't care that much about what my actual gender was. Eventually I decided upon the agender label as that seemed the most apt. As the paper says, it's really hard to be truly without gender in this highly gendered world. Agender is a way of defining myself in a way that people who experience gender might be able to understand when "I'm just me." isn't really an acceptable answer to the "what's your gender?" question.

I don't mind being perceived as a gender, none of them are offensive to me. While I do like when I am perceived as male or at least not female, I think that more has to do with growing up female and not wanting to be pushed into traditional female roles and values than a connection or repulsion to any gender. I'm impossible to misgender because I frankly don't care.

Honestly, the biggest problem I have with my gender, is trying to define it to people. There's been a large push in recent years for asking people for their pronouns, or including pronouns in things like email signatures and surveys. And don't get me wrong, I'm not saying this is a bad thing! This is very affirming for a lot of people. But it feels like I need to pick something that doesn't quite fit. At pride, for instance, there's always pronoun buttons. But they're all she/her, he/him, they/them, she/they, he/they, it/it, xe/xir, etc etc. And that's great. I'm always glad that there are a lot of options for people. But there's never any pins for any/all pronouns. I've never picked up a free pronoun pin at pride, despite always looking, because they all feel like picking what pronouns I don't want poeple to use and the answer is that I don't care. I fround an any/all pronoun pin once at a queer museum and I cried.

I’m sorry to be coming on here and doing this but please. I am in desperate need of financial aid for my 2 year old cat. She has severe breathing issues and I’ve used up every penny I’ve got available for her vet bills. I’ve been told that due to not having the necessary funds, if she doesn’t get better with antibiotics then I will have to make the decision to put her down. Please, I want to do my best to avoid that but there’s only so much I can do as one person.

this was her the other day and I’m afraid she’ll only get worse. she can barely drink tiny amounts of water unless we sringe feed it to her but because of how weak she is we fear forcing it into her mouth will lead her to choking and further causing more problems.

especially since the vets (she’s been checked by 3) don’t know exactly why she is having breathing problems just that there is intense swelling in her throat, so we can’t put our finger on exactly what could help and what won’t.

please I am begging for help. even if help is a single dollar, any help is so so so appreciated.