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Shoutout to weird girls who became weird boys and weird boys who became weird girls and weird girls and boys who became both or neither. Let's all be weird and strange together

I'm fairly confident that I've never met a person who doesn't have ptsd. I think the division is really "people with ptsd that they can mask/manifests in ways that others can ignore" and "people whose ptsd can't be ignored by others so they're forced to begrudgingly acknowledge its existence"

"my cousin is the only one in our family with ptsd, he got attacked by a large dog and melts down at the sound of large dogs barking if he's already emotionally fragile" yeah and your mother shuts down at the sound of car engines that sound like her ex-husband's car, you just never noticed because you don't pay attention to her and she's been conditioned not to make her 'silly outbursts' anyone else's problem.

Damn, if there’s anything my most recent post taught me it’s that we really haven’t moved on from transmedicalism and exorsexism as the norm in trans spaces huh. Yeah I’m sorry but binary trans folks if you feel that upset and targeted by a post saying you’re not actually advancing trans liberation by mocking the rest of us then maybe grow the fuck up? “I just want to be NORMAL” man, me too! I would love for my identity to be considered normal. Unfortunately members of my own community are eager to throw me under the bus for .5 cisheteropatriarchy points as soon as it’s convenient, which surprisingly is deeply unhelpful.

bringing back my too woke opinion that you should be allowed to change labels without the previous one being incorrect

i think you should be allowed to identify as trans without retroactively saying you were also trans in the past. i think the "born this way" rhetoric is limiting and you should be able say stuff like "i was fully a girl when i was a kid and now im a boy" without it invalidating your current identity but maybe that's just me

the "transfeminist" discourse on this website is so like... white trans women need to be more aware of the fact that asians assigned male at birth are often perceived as more feminine than their white counterparts. if you're black, it's the opposite. they speak like everyone starts out the same, but that's just not true. you, as a white person, are far more free to explore femininity/masculinity than people of color are.

they also don't seem to understand the ways in which cis women of color are forced to interact with western ideas of gender. the darker your skin is, the more masculine you're often thought of being. i said this the other day, but not all cis women get to enjoy the cliche soft femininity filled with flowers and rainbows. darker-skinned women are not handed femininity on a silver platter. maybe take that into consideration the next time you try to pull some theory out of your ass

this. another reason why the TMA/TME binary doesn't work. cis black women are far more likely to be transvestigated, but I'm supposed to believe they're exempt from experiencing transmisogyny? no, that's fucking bullshit. everyone can be affected by transmisogyny, or transandrophobia, or just transphobia period. even perisex cis people.

I need a polite and effective way to say "hey your heart is truly in the right place and your anger is often righteous but I think sometimes you’re getting recreationally mad about things that are frankly not worth the amount of energy you’re spending on them, and every time you do this you're driving yourself slightly more insane with nothing to show for it," and then I need a way to broadcast that message through a loudspeaker to roughly 30,000 people at once, and THEN I need a time machine to send that message to my past self lol. and maybe a second time machine in case past me tries to be clever and sabotage the version of me who comes through the first time machine

the other thing about Internet dogpiling is that it is just not possible to think clearly during the acute stages. it’s so easy to criticize people for responding defensively or tactlessly to mass criticism but I cannot overstate the degree to which your brain becomes a rat in a trap. I think we do have to temporarily recalibrate our expectations in these circumstances and accept that they do not necessarily represent how that person responds to criticism. the skills for self-regulating and reacting to normal interpersonal criticism are not the same skills needed to respond to viral callouts.

hear me out, this is a good way to exercise white privilege as a form of protest and we SHOULD be stealing more and commiting more petty crimes against corporations. More than any minority

the fact that this is ur take away when the discussion is nonblacks putting black ppl in literal danger bc of not caring how certain behavior automatically gets blamed on us regardless of if we r participating bc of rampant racism….yall make everything bout ur selves u cant help it 😭

the persecution of lefthandedness is insane to think about because it was so intense for so long, in some places still is, without any clear profit motivation. sheer love of the game. as late as the 70s at least they were smacking my stepdad's hands for it with a wooden ruler at school, to this day he's in weird ambidexterity situation where he's not great with either side and notably clumsy due to poor hand-eye coordination. just wtf

Being a trans man is so strange, like as soon as you come out your experiences stop belonging to you. The misogyny you face isn't about you, you can't claim it is or you're misgendering yourself. The transphobia you face isn't about you, no one actually cares if someone transitions to be a man. The homophobia you face isn't about you, you haven't suffered like a real gay man. If you struggle with toxic masculinity being pushed in you, you chose this, imagine what it's like for cis men who didn't get a choice.

Somehow, no matter what, there is someone who has a "better" understanding of the marginalization or social stigma you experience, and they should speak on it instead. There is not one thing in the world where your voice needed.

I bring a “there’s no meaningful difference between men and women that doesn’t exclude someone” to the function that gender essentialists hate