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hate exercising and realizing i've let go of a lot of anxiety and anger because i've overturned my fight-or-flight response.

hate eating right and eating enough and eating 3 times a day and realizing i'm less anxious and i have more energy

hate journaling in my stupid notebook with my stupid bic ballpoint and realizing that i've actually started healing about something once i'm able to externalize it

hate forgiving myself hate complimenting myself more often hate treating myself with kindness hate taking a gratitude inventory hate having patience hate talking to myself gently

hate turning my little face up to the sun and taking deep breaths and looking at nature and grounding myself and realizing that i feel less burdened and more hopeful, more actually-here, that i am able to see the good sides of myself more clearly, that i am able to see not only how far i have to grow - but also how much growth i have already done & how much of my life i truly fill with light and laughter and love

There are no ontologically evil people

People generally want to believe they are doing good

Under enough stress, anyone will act irrationally

“Grace says he would like half of dome to be water.”

“Oh, is necessary for humans to have large amounts of water question?”

Small Eridian equivalent of a sigh. “No. Not needed for life. In fact Grace will die if he falls in water and does not get out.”

“Tell him we give him water in containers that won't kill him. Lots lots lots of water on Erid for Grace to drink.”

“No. Grace say he want water on ground. Also want it with excess sodium chloride compound so it will be unhealthy for drink.”

“Grace want this liquid for celebration.”

“Of course.” They scan it. “You have wrong liquid. This contain compounds which are poisonous for humans.”

“Yes yes yes. Grace say humans like feeling of being slightly poisoned.”

Last week, the Trump administration quietly released a sweeping new federal rule that would use funding threats to force institutions across the country to reject transgender people. The 400-page proposed regulation would codify the administration's anti-trans executive orders into binding federal policy, imposing a blanket prohibition on federal funds going toward "gender ideology"

The proposed rule, formally titled "Regulation for Federal Financial Assistance," rewrites the government-wide framework governing all federal grants across every agency. Among its most consequential provisions, it requires that before a federal grant recipient can receive money, the award must pass a "pre-issuance review" conducted by a political appointee—not a career expert or peer reviewer—to ensure it is "consistent with applicable law, Federal agency priorities, and the national interest." The regulation explicitly instructs these appointees to screen for "denial by the recipient of the sex binary in humans or the notion that sex is a chosen or mutable characteristic." [...] An institution that acknowledges transgender people exist—through its policies, its training, its healthcare, its bathroom access, its HR procedures, its name-change processes—could be deemed to "deny the sex binary" or to “support the notion that sex is mutable” and have its federal funding blocked.

A completely and sincerely asexual person has a fixation on vore specifically because it's a non-sexual form of intimacy. Outsiders view this interest as inherently sexual and there isn't a "safe for work" context for it, so it falls under the category of kink and fetish.

A person who likes the floaty high you get from engaging in masochism goes to a BDSM club to participate in a scene for the same reason you might go to the club to drink. They don't necessarily want to have sex or get horny, they just want to get kinda brainless from that specific feeling. Every once and a while I just ask my partner to slap my ass cuz the mental jolt feels good, but I don't want to do anything sexual.

An older person who has never heard the term age regression goes to "ageplay" events to participate in completely safe for work age regression. This is really common for people over, like, 30 and a lot of essential miscommunication happens because younger people hear an older person say ageplay is nonsexual (and mean it in a bdsm community context), when it really is true for them.

Someone goes to kink community events purely for the community, this stuff is sometimes purely sexual for them, but often they engage in it without sexual motives.

A person wears leather accessories because they view it as a proud part of LGBT history, but don't actually have any interest in leather as a fetish and don't intend to send a sexual message to anyone by wearing it

It's like how someone might go to shabbat or church while being an atheist. There's a spectrum from true believer who is doing everything in the name of god to person who enjoys an abstract feeling of spirituality to person who is genuinely just there because they're 65 and all their friends belong to that church or they want to talk to people and be social. You can say "well you must inherently be religious" but in practice people are really complex and do things for complicated reasons. If someone says "it's not sexual to me, but it's kink because that's what I've always called it" it's pointless to yell at them about how they don't understand their own feelings.

meanwhile every time a refined old crooner mentions a woman's "charms" you can basically imagine that "sexyback" by Justin Timberlake just started playing in the background.

"someone to hold in my arms/and know the magic of her charms" yeah sure mister bobby darin that sounds like a wholesome retro activity