There seem to be a fair amount of unrepentant feedees who get obscenely fat off the doting care of mothers willing to keep their sweet little angels bloated, swollen and useless
If you look at your child drowning in excess flesh and to keep shoveling goodies into them, there needs to be some sort of crossed wiring in there- no good parent without something a little wrong with them would see someone they're supposed to nurture into their best selves struggling to move their bloated body or even breath and keep enabling them- keep making them even fatter and more pathetic
I think more often than not, these moms are feedists, too - kinks are inherited, after all, and most feeders and feedees feel at least a little of both impulses
Feedists tend to have more than just a sexual desire to dote and care for those they love. It's a drive inside us to make sure the people we love and care for are never hungry, always satisfied.
I think most of these mothers never don't realize they have these kinks, so lacking the vocabulary, the impulse to feed feels 100% innocent to them. A non-sexual compulsion to only feel at peace when the people they care for are bloated messes, completely satisfied, never wanting for anything
They never realize their adult children aren't 'hungry' at all, that they aren't feeding an appetite or need for food any more. They're just enabling someone choosing to ruin themselves for sexual gratification
And they can't even recognize or admit that the drive that's helping them overlook what they're actually doing is tied deeply into their sexual psyche. The inability to acknowledge it letting them carry on like this unrepentant overfeeding is just what love looks like
And I think there's something very fun to the darkness of that