Extra thing to be aware of:
One of quite literally the largest contributors to whether toxic stress - that is, either a moment of singular trauma or even many years of repeated traumas (small or large: tiny doses of arsenic over time will kill you too) - turns into a serious psychological injury (like PTSD or other traumatic disorders) is the validation and support of those who are around and emotionally critical to you.
It's not the only thing. Sometimes you can have everyone external do everything right and the internal fucks you up anyway. But external denial, dismissal, and so on, will always make it worse.
This issue can express itself in all kinds of ways, because humans are very complex (for instance, SOME kids who have been through mental illness and trauma gravitate towards darker stuff, for exactly the reason above; some do not, and gravitate heavily towards stuff that avoids the darkness, for their own reasons; both of these are valid/normal/expected/sensical-in-their-context reactions).
But if you find yourself in that weird, unhappy place where your most comforting fantasies are, for instance, "I got hit by a car and ended up in the hospital", this is diagnostic: this means that somehow, some part of you - even though you cognitively know that being hospitalized, or dying of cancer, or whatever, would absolutely suck - is both hurt and invalidated bad enough that it would trade what it's going through now for physical pain, just to be seen.
What that usually means is that it's time to actually figure out how that part of you is hurting, and why, and how you can fix that, because insisting it SHOULDN'T hurt and so you're going to pretend it DOESN'T . . . won't do that. It just means it'll still be there, probably getting worse.
(And if your brain is going "but I DID have a happy and loving family and nothing bad DID happen to me" etc then here are a few more things to hold onto:
Mental illness doesn't need an external reason. You can literally have the best external life possible and the fact that you have a physiologically fucked up brain will kill you just as fast as cancer will, and will hurt you just as much as being born with a skeletal difference.
We've spent literally most of our existence as a species not actually understanding how our brains work, and what causes harm to children. Your upbringing can absolutely have been genuinely loving, by parents who were doing the absolute best they knew how to do, and that still might have involved shit that is objectively harmful/known to lead to Problems later on. Once upon a time people genuinely thought the best thing to do for a fever was to remove blood from the body. We learned differently. That something about how you were raised fucked you up doesn't mean your parents didn't love you, or try their best.
"Childhood bullying" is a term we use so that we don't have to call it what it is: harassment (verbal, physical, and even sexual), ostracization, manipulation, assault and in the worst cases torture, which the adults around you failed to intervene in or prevent. All of these things are known and acknowledged, in adults, to be significant causes of psychological harm and injury. They're just as likely to cause that in children; we work really hard, in the words we use, to avoid having to face that.)
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