Fuck It, Trevilieu Renaissance

Ok so my headcanon for this is a little angsty and long

Baelor was basically raised to be perfect by westerosi standards: no flaws (a great knight a great warrior a great politician a great diplomat, married with an heir and a spare), no scandals, no bastards, no undesirable “qualities” that would cause conflict (rooted in homophobia, machismo, religious intolerance, discrimination against the disabled and mentally ill and people with addictions etc)

No young lord has been watched and scrutinised as closely in all history, and for Baelor’s parents it was a matter of ensuring both his survival and their family’s safety. Other boys had chances to explore and err but as soon as it became clear the older sons weren’t viable heir options, Baelor’s freedom ended (so like when he was 5)

So in my hc he is self-aware enough to know what he likes but the knowledge is almost entirely theoretical, because the attention and dislike towards him were so great before his marriage and combat glory, he just didn’t risk getting involved with anybody and had like one serious crush that broke his heart cause the crush was straight! Completely staying out of heteronormative behaviour would be criticised too so he chased a few maids half-heartedly but never went all the way with them, and then he had a wife whose family would happily declare him a dornish whore and join his enemies if he shamed her in any way

Also in this hc Jena had a stereotype-based opinion on Targs and Dornish men as sexy beasts so Baelor’s real personality is a shock to her and she doesn’t like him, and their relationship is polite but cold. And he thinks she can sense he doesn’t enjoy their intimacy and feels all sorts of ashamed and guilty. And so years later when Baelor’s widowed he has left most of the shame behind and he’s popular enough to consider it safe getting a lover but he has no clue how to court a man! And he has no one to guide him cause he has no gay friends no community not even a book. And for someone so clever and successful it must feel awful!

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PBS: Language as Prejudice - Myth #6: Women Talk Too Much (via misandry-mermaid)

Every EVERY women’s studies class I’ve been in has had this problem and failed to address it. 

Person A

1) acknowledges you liked it - twice

2) acknowledges the author controls if there is more

3) offers their support if more is written (also the willingness to read more? Of my writing? Wow. I’m emotional)

4) exclamation mark with a compliment! Exciting!

Person B

1) one word

2) all capitals

3) demanding - it feels like you’re yelling at me

4) could not actually be bothered to say you liked it

Be Person A, not Person B, please! Fanfic authors are not your fic ATMs.

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