im curious about a specific generational divide
regardless of you being queer or not, did your parents ever gave you the "if you turn out to be gay it would be fine" talk, before you ever had the chance to say anything on your own about that?
gen z, yes
gen z, no
millenial, yes
millenial, no
gen x, yes
gen X, no
baby boomer, yes
baby boomer, no
because it happened to me and im wondering if this was a product of the ongoing cultural change around gay issues. before i ever had the chance to say to my parents "i am this" my mom was already sitting me aside to tell me "if there is anything you want to tell me, i want you to know ill accept you no matter what"
My mom tried but she was extremely clumsy about it and actually scared me further into the closet.
My dad sort of did when I was maybe 11 or 12. Like, it wasn’t super explicit, but the way he did it was by telling a story of how he loved to dance when he was a kid, but his dad told him it was too girly and to knock it off. Told me it made him feel so terrible that he couldn’t do something that made him happy just because it wasn’t what men were supposed to do. And he said that he would never want me to feel that way and that he would love me no matter what. I’m quite straight, of course, but I do have interests that can also be construed as “girly” so it was nice to hear regardless.
My mom didn’t say anything about it, but I would have expected her to be accepting based on her general vibe (she did apparently have some gay and lesbian friends that were out to her so pretty good chance she’d have been chill about it).























