What to do when your worst nightmare comes true
Before I left Australia I went to breakfast with my friend. We went to three cafes without finding any vegan options, and by the time we got to the third I spotted a yummy looking avocado and sweet potato breakfast bowl. The only problem was: it had cheese on the side. I went to the counter and clarified that if I was to order this without cheese, it would be vegan. I was assured by two staff that it was and they could do it without cheese easily.
I ordered, my friend ordered and we sat down. After a couple of minutes, our food came out.
And mine had come with cheese.
Now, since I went vegan I’ve had a real problem with nightmares about going back to eating meat and animal products. Now that I’ve made the connection, I can’t imagine ever using or consuming anything that has come from another animal.
This was the first time since I had been began that something like this had happened and seeing the cheese on my plate instantly made me visualise how it had got there... the forced impregnation of a mother cow, over and over again until she can’t provide profit any more; the calves being taken away from their mothers at only 1 to 2 days old, and after the maternal bond has been formed; the baby boys being kept in cages and being slaughtered for veal; the baby girls to be raised for the same fate as their mothers... it was so overwhelming that I felt tears coming to my eyes. I had paid for this and I was guilty.
It’s awful to see animal products on other people’s plates, but when you’re given it you just feel so guilty and disgusted.
As I started crying in the middle of the cafe, my friend who was not vegan was a little confused as to why I was so upset. I explained to her that by paying for this I had contributed to cruelty that I wanted no part of, in fact, I was actively trying to get other people to stop contributing to as well because it’s so awful.
My friend called a waitress over for me and got the plate sent back and a new one made without the cheese.
This actually opened up a conversation about veganism in which she asked questions about why I went vegan, what’s so wrong about agriculture but also dairy and honey. We also talked about health aspects. This was something positive to come out of the situation!
When you realise that you’ve been using something that’s not vegan, or you’ve bought or consumed something with animal products in it, it can be really hard to not get fixated on it and think about where it came from. What’s important to remember is that veganism is about causing the least possible harm. There will always be aspects that you can’t deal with or accommodate to, for example, mix-ups at a restaurant, dodgy ingredients lists, unexpected (and unnecessary) uses of animal products and random items, and so on.
Everyone makes mistakes and as long as you are doing the best you can to reduce harm there’s nothing that can be done except think positively and use the situation to learn and grow.
Youre doing the best you can!
Good luck x
















