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for example, no you don’t owe anyone anything in that if some creep is trying to get with you, you can block him without feeling bad. you don’t owe kindness to people who are transphobic or racist or bigoted.

but, you can’t use this as an excuse to fuck over people who have helped you. “you don’t owe anyone anything” isn’t an excuse to allow yourself to forget compassion and basic empathy, it isn’t an excuse for you to be an asshole just because you find it easier to be one

relationships aren’t transactional in that if your partner does something nice for you, you are indebted to them. they do these things because they love you; it is their choice to express love through these gestures

but they are transactional in that you both actively need to be putting time and care into the relationship. ignoring the dynamic of one person caring too much (and putting in excessive (emotional an literal) work and labor) while the other does nothing isn’t healthy. one person can’t solely take and the other person can’t solely give- that’s dangerous, and you can’t put the bandaid of “this isn’t transactional” over a relationship that is draining you in all capacities

That’s actually why I made this post. My sister was staying at her bf’s house last year and they woke up at 3am and the house was on fire. They fled immediately and by that afternoon it had burned to the ground. He lost everything in that fire. Entire neighborhoods of my hometown burned completely to the ground last year.

And it’s not even like rural land it was like the SUBURBS.

This was my hometown last year. Because of wildfires started by lazy disgusting selfish people like the ones who throw cigarette butts out their windows.

This year again there are wildfires in California and you know damn well almost all these fires start by cigarette butts dropped by some lowlife piece of shit. My aunt posted yesterday that they had to evacuate and my dad posted pictures of smoke billowing that can be seen from his house.

That is SMOKE not clouds. SMOKE.

This is Lake County California this year once again most likely because you selfish fuckwits can’t dispose of your butts properly like a half decent human being.

If you throw cigarette butts on the ground I fucking hate you and you are selfish garbage and I hope you get COPD.

My math teacher had to euthanize many of his cattle because they were burnt so bad their skin was sloughing off. My town was without power for a week, and water for a month and a half… and get this, WE WERE THE LUCKY ONES. 3 entire towns got wiped off the map, half of one burned completely to the ground, and because we lived in a rural area there was zero news coverage, we didnt know if it was safe to go home or even if our town was still there. I will NEVER forget the gigantic walls of fire surrounding our house, or the stories my classmates had to tell when class resumed two weeks later. One classmate had been up day and night hosing down his house because the fire dept, already way too small to handle this massive fire, couldnt make their way to his house because they were in the middle of keeping a chemical plant from catching fire and rendering the entire 200 mile radius uninhabitable. Another had been stranded by a pond for a week while the fires raged around them. those are only a fraction of the stories.

PLEASE DON’T SAY HIS NAME