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One thing Nevada the novel was really strong on is the seductiveness of other people's problems, and the urge to mentor and advise. Other people's problems as an opportunity to feel worldly and wise, chasing the pleasure of making someone else experience fresh epiphanies that have become old news to you, other people's problems as an exercise in philosophizing about life in a context where you won't pay the costs of any conclusions you recommend, other people's problems which look so clear and simple and tractable next to your own, other people's problems which feel so pleasantly low stakes because you don't actually care as much as you think you do.

I'm really trying hard to be a "It's everyone's first time learning something everyday" kind of guy but also if you don't know shit and you know you're, for whatever reason, a person who doesn't have context about something, why fucking talk. Like why are you talking. If you know you don't know what's being discussed why are you opining about it and getting confused when everyone is like, shut your empty headed mouth for the love of god? Are you ALSO learning for the first time that this is insufferable?? As though half the time these people aren't also insufferable pedants who'd blow a gasket if someone started talking about their loser hobbies wrong

whether or not men benefit from feminism has no bearing on whether feminism is worthwhile

put another way. i dont care about how men are impacted by feminism

already have people mad about this. okay here's another take. men should be feminists for no benefit.

just as white people should be anti-racism for no benefit, and cis people should be pro-trans for no benefit. the only "benefit" that should be required is the creation of a more just world, not because you, personally, actually do get something out of it.

I hesitated for a long time before writing this. Not because I had nothing to say, but because I was ashamed my life had become a story of fear, loss, and constant pleading.

Yes, I never imagined I would lose so much of my dignity. Yet here I am, asking strangers for help because survival has become harder than anything I ever faced before.

It's not just that rigged games are hot because they act as kind of a concealed control mechanism. Your subject may think it's fair, or may know it's not, but either way it's a violation of politesse to point it out. To control the system is a very erotic kind of advantage. And then to tie other things to it. To take the conditional advantage and extend it further. If you win, I'll do whatever you want, but if I win, you have to do one thing for me. Or taking away permissions, limiting access, slowly rigging the game further. You can play with just your mouth, right? You don't need your hands. No, I won't move the pieces for you. It's quite something. But you do also have to consider that winning alone is really fun and kinda hot in a vacuum.

it is still genuinely so crazy to me that tumblr has special scorched earth instant kill moderation tools that are used almost exclusively against victims of harassment campaigns