Hey, Star Wars fandom, listen up!
Attachment does not equal Love.
It’s frustrating to see how many Star Wars fans fall for Sith-leaning misconceptions about the Jedi.
Many often confuse love with attachment, but they’re very different. A lot of people forget that being a Jedi isn’t about being a cool superhero. It’s a disciplined way of life with rules and principles that go deeper than simply “help people and be a good person.” That complexity is what makes it special. As Yoda said in The Empire Strikes Back, ‘Adventure. Heh! Excitement. Heh! A Jedi craves not these things.’
Attachment stems from a need of insecurity*, control, or unhealthy dependency*, whereas love should be selfless, unconditional, and encouraging personal growth. Attachment can involve possessiveness and fear of loss—enter Anakin Skywalker—! while love is characterised by freedom, trust, and a deep appreciation for a person as they are.
Anakin’s love for Padmé turned into Attachment. However, his love for Padmé’s son brought him back to the light side.
Attachment isn’t love—it’s fear pretending to be love.
If we interpret “attachment” as “love” or “support,” then the Jedi saying “Attachment is forbidden” becomes deeply problematic!
With attachment, we say, ‘I need you in order to feel happy.’
With detached love, we say, ‘I want you to be happy, even if that happiness doesn’t include me.’
This is the Way of the Jedi.
It has real value in everyday life too, even though living by it is difficult. Still, with patience and a deep breath, it’s achievable.
A friend need not be kept either within sight or within reach. A friend must be allowed the freedom to find and follow his own path.
If one is fortunate, those paths will for a time join. But if the paths separate, it is comforting to know that a friend still graces the universe with his skills, and his viewpoint, and his presence.
For if one is remembered by a friend, one is never truly gone.
—Timothy Zahn, Thrawn
So lovely! The Jedi would agree. This is connection and love, not attachment.
“No attachment” doesn’t mean avoiding relationships altogether. It means prioritising your duty to serve the people of the galaxy above personal bonds and being ready to release them when you must.
‘Being a Jedi is easy!’ said no Jedi ever.
It wasn’t attachment that let Luke save Vader—it was compassion. And that’s what brought Anakin back to the light too: selfless love for his son, not the attachment that had ruined him, like what he felt for Padmé on Mustafar. In the end, Anakin finally let go of the plans he imposed on Luke—to turn him into a Sith and rule the Empire together—and just let him be his own person. By sacrificing himself and letting go of his hatred, he chose love over power. As Luke says, ‘I feel the conflict within you. Let go of your hate.’ Attachment was what destroyed Anakin, but love is what brought balance back to the Force.
In short, in the context of Star Wars, attachment is inherently harmful by definition. The Jedi don’t say “unhealthy attachment is forbidden,” they say “attachment is forbidden” because, according to the philosophy Lucas was drawing from (largely influenced by Buddhism), attachment itself is unhealthy. There is no concept of a “healthy attachment” in this framework.
What Western cultures refer to as “healthy attachment” (like love or deep care) is actually what the Jedi would call compassion, not attachment. The reason this often gets misunderstood is because the word “attachment” in Star Wars is being used with a different meaning than what most audiences are familiar with. In many Western cultures, "attachment" can be seen as a positive thing, implying emotional bonds and love. But in the Jedi universe, attachment refers to the selfish, possessive, and clingy aspects of emotional connection, and that’s what the Jedi are trying to avoid.
Lucas’s writing can be confusing and messy because he is using a Buddhist-inspired definition of attachment that his audience is mostly not aware of, and the characters themselves don’t always clearly define it in dialogue. So when people say “the Jedi don’t think attachment is bad,” they’re perpetuating the misunderstanding by using a definition of attachment that doesn’t align with the one Star Wars is using.
I will conclude with saying George Lucas has repeatedly and explicitly has stated that attachment in Star Wars is inseparable from possession, fear, greed, the urge to control others, the pull of the Dark Side, and the refusal to accept that life is impermanent. You cannot cling to people, you cannot keep them, and you cannot possess them.
That doesn’t make it easy, of course. Emotions are complicated and messy, and not every desire or moment of fear automatically counts as attachment. What matters is the willingness to act on those feelings in ways that cause harm. Attachment is using the Force for selfish ends—so if you act from possessiveness or selfishness, you’re taking a step towards the Dark Side.
‘You’re allowed to love people, but you’re not allowed to possess them.’
Seeing all these anti-Jedi reblogs is pretty entertaining, but they do bring up some interesting points. I have found posts that address those, but first I want to respond to this:
‘Once again this is the product of the Pro-Jedi inability to accept that the Jedi were flawed: To them, everything has to be black or white. And they prefer to blame everyone rather than admit that, yes, the Jedi were also flawed too.’
Whoa, I never claimed the Jedi were flawless. My point was about their views on Attachments. The question of the Jedi imperfections is a separate matter.
‘Attachment doesn't equal love, okay, then why does the Jedi Order have to take infants and small children away from their parents, their families, their communities, and cultures and isolate them away from everything else but Jedi control and conditioning?’
I once wondered about this as well.
Jedi view of blood ties/cultures outside of the Order
https://smhalltheurlsaretaken.tumblr.com/post/632482867648380928/any-thoughts-on-why-when-complaining-about-how
https://smhalltheurlsaretaken.tumblr.com/post/622290823412924416/for-jedijune-i-thought-id-contribute-some
https://smhalltheurlsaretaken.tumblr.com/post/624380219634204672/because-i-can-never-yell-enough-about-how-much-i or
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