I started dating a boy ab a year ago & I rlly like him. But I've noticed as Ive gotten 2 know him better, that hes not the Christian boy he appeared 2 b. Hes Christian, but he seems as if hes confused. I'm worried ab him! What can I do, besides pray?
The answer is pretty simple, but it’s a difficult one to hear. If he is not as he appears and is not following Jesus like he should, then you need to put some distance between you for your sake. If you continue in this relationship, hoping that one day he will change and become a better man, then I’m afraid you will be disappointed. I think you should talk to him and tell him your doubts and then stick to your word. Possibly if you put some distance, he might straighten up. But what is more likely happening is that your relationship could be a distraction for him from God, instead of pulling him closer. Sometimes people can begin to pull away from God when they feel like they have what they want, which is a sign of an immature Christian. Maybe if you are not in his life as regularly, it will force him to realize his need for God.Â
And if you separate and he does not change, then you know he was not the guy for you, and God has someone better. If you stay with him though, and lower your standards, you will be settling. And you might miss a good guy because you were with the other one, you know?
DON’T SETTLE. Don’t ever think that you can change a guy or a guy will change for you. The only way a person can change is through Jesus, not you. So I would say let him go so he can find Jesus again.Â