an aussie in the uk

cis ppl who never have gender feelings, talking to them is like Introduction To Gender 101 shit. talking to trans people about gender is like PhD level classes. they literally just know more about it and how to think critically about it.

and yeah, today i bawled my eyes out about Abigail Thorn bc I’m so happy for her, to have yet another trans voice to listen to. because transfemme people make womanhood as a whole better, more rounded, more welcoming. just knowing the people who have dug deep into this and explored it, it lets me know that if I were fucking miserable about being a woman, I wouldn’t have to be one anymore! and that’s okay.

and that alone, having that option, having it pioneered already by others and being able to talk to and listen to them, that is the thing that made my own femininity palatable.

trans women are not women with an asterisk or “woman, but.” they are literally the people who make womanhood… fucking not a prison! and I can only imagine the same is true of trans men! and I know nonbinary people are like– like someone has passed me a key and whispered “yo, if you want, we can blow this joint.” and I don’t want to, personally, but fuck, having that option is everything.

when i say “fuck terfs” what I mean isn’t just “transphobes suck and everyone deserves to be treated kindly.” what I really mean is “this ideology is what makes gender toxic, and deplatforming and removing them from our spaces is paramount to my safety and yours.”

“Sorry about this calendar…”

“March 14th!”

“WAIT! That’s not right…”

“It SHOULD say…”

“The Day that Krabs Fries!”

“HAHAHAHAHAHA!”