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Okay, I'm not even watching this show but I've seen screenshots of this guy choking his wife and telling her death threats...

"such a standard for cdramas green flags"

I am watching it and at no point (up to ep 16 of 28) has he choked her and the closest he has come to death threats is pretty early on in the show when she was accusing him (entirely unjustly) of being all manner of horrible things and he, somewhat understandably, told her that - to paraphrase - if he were anyone else, saying such things would land her in a whole heap of trouble. Did he do so in a rather threatening manner? Absolutely. Did he genuinely threaten to kill her? Absolutely not.

As far as cdrama MLs go he is fairly standard - he is definitely manipulative and somewhat unhinged (he kills people but ofc they are bad guys and deserve to die) and he absolutely started off seeing her as just a pawn in one of his (with noble purpose ofc) schemes... but he is also the only person in pretty much the entire show who respects her as a person and respects her agency and insists on her being free to make her own choices (even if that choice means she will leave him). Something literally no-one else - not her dad, her mum, or her original sweetheart - has done.

forced her into marriage as part of his political plans, with no opinion or interest as to whether she's OK with it. Just because he may have gone in with 'ah, I will give her a divorce later' does not negate it in any way. Even if we go with 'oh this is not really historical' doesn't help - if this is a proper period setting, he's fucking with the woman's most important choice/action in life but if it's ahistorical modern dress up and marriage matters less, then all the murder/choking/death threats/etc is not excusable because in a modern person playing dress up they are definitely not good.

repeatedly physically threatens her. He may mean some of it, he may not, fact remains, she's a woman half his size and with no battle skills.

is rude and insulting to her and just acts awfully to her whenever he thinks she's meddling into his family affairs (she is his wife, mind you.)

All the threats culminate in him freaking out she'd reveal his temporary blindness, choking her - literally grabbing her by the neck - threatening to kill her and to destroy her reputation.

his other wife justifies all of this by saying hey at least he's not worse and it doesn't matter if he has a temper as long as it's with his loved ones (which reminds me of the old Russian folk saying "if he beats you means he loves you.")

Now, do I care he's red flag/toxic/ other term du jour? Heck no. My favorite character last year was possibly Di Lin from Eternal Brotherhood 2, who massacred whole villages of civilians on his march to rescue his brothers so the news wouldn't leak. I don't even care if the characters are toxic vis-a-vis a partner. I love me toxic fictional dudes - I am salivating for Overdo to drop and both ML and FL in this one make this dude seem a saint (and the same goes for every FWSC adaptation ML and some FLs) and I enjoy my minis where half of them appear either ML is torturing FL or FL is torturing ML. One of my top 5 cdramas this year was Generation to Generation and ML is a certified headcase; we are not even going to get into what kind of games the bulk of characters of Veil of Shadows, my favorite drama this year and probably in my top 5 of all time, got into.

But as you say, that's not relevant (to me) to enjoyment of the drama and to whether he is an interesting character.

“You feel the bulge in his pants” - implies that you are feeling some guy’s penis, may be sexy depending on context

Okay, I'm not even watching this show but I've seen screenshots of this guy choking his wife and telling her death threats...

"such a standard for cdramas green flags"

I am watching it and at no point (up to ep 16 of 28) has he choked her and the closest he has come to death threats is pretty early on in the show when she was accusing him (entirely unjustly) of being all manner of horrible things and he, somewhat understandably, told her that - to paraphrase - if he were anyone else, saying such things would land her in a whole heap of trouble. Did he do so in a rather threatening manner? Absolutely. Did he genuinely threaten to kill her? Absolutely not.

As far as cdrama MLs go he is fairly standard - he is definitely manipulative and somewhat unhinged (he kills people but ofc they are bad guys and deserve to die) and he absolutely started off seeing her as just a pawn in one of his (with noble purpose ofc) schemes... but he is also the only person in pretty much the entire show who respects her as a person and respects her agency and insists on her being free to make her own choices (even if that choice means she will leave him). Something literally no-one else - not her dad, her mum, or her original sweetheart - has done.

If you'd watched the show you'd know the context of this moment and what preceded it. He is injured - hit his head and dizzy and temporarily lost his sight - and she has realised he is blind, on the eve of a vitally important archery contest upon which the fate of his country, and his plans for social reform, rests. He freaks out and warns her "If you let anyone know that there's something wrong with my eyes, I'll kill you."

Taken out of context from a single screenshot he looks like an abusive man choking and threatening a scared woman.

If you actually watch the show, he is injured (he was literally spitting blood and hanging onto the horse to stay upright moments ago) and freaking out and warning her that if she says anything it would cause disaster. He's also not choking her - she's shocked by his actions yes, and initially aggrieved, but she can breathe just fine. Seconds after this moment she easily pulls free of his grip and he all but collapses on her shoulder, she then conceals his injury from a group of his soldiers and helps him back home to get medical attention. She is not afraid of him and at no point thought he was going to kill her.

Okay, I'm not even watching this show but I've seen screenshots of this guy choking his wife and telling her death threats...

"such a standard for cdramas green flags"

I am watching it and at no point (up to ep 16 of 28) has he choked her and the closest he has come to death threats is pretty early on in the show when she was accusing him (entirely unjustly) of being all manner of horrible things and he, somewhat understandably, told her that - to paraphrase - if he were anyone else, saying such things would land her in a whole heap of trouble. Did he do so in a rather threatening manner? Absolutely. Did he genuinely threaten to kill her? Absolutely not.

As far as cdrama MLs go he is fairly standard - he is definitely manipulative and somewhat unhinged (he kills people but ofc they are bad guys and deserve to die) and he absolutely started off seeing her as just a pawn in one of his (with noble purpose ofc) schemes... but he is also the only person in pretty much the entire show who respects her as a person and respects her agency and insists on her being free to make her own choices (even if that choice means she will leave him). Something literally no-one else - not her dad, her mum, or her original sweetheart - has done.

My ideal fictional men, ladies and gentlemen.

Unhinged as fuck...

And making it everyone else's problem...

I mean...

To be fair, his girl also has a lot of screws loose...pointing guns at him:

Marrying his brother...

Weeping over his unconscious self...

Covering him with her body...

But I guess it lots of loose screws will lead to a lot of loose screwing. Hopefully.

Or will it? So not the penetration I was looking for.

While some people are here for clout, the vast, vast majority of fanfic writers write for ourselves, and then we post our work online in case anyone in the community might like it. But we wrote it for ourselves.

I have had some very kind readers over the years, and I am immensely appreciative of their lovely comments. But I did not write any of my fics for them.

“They’re not smarter or faster they’re buying up others’ lifetimes to do their chores”

I see this reaction a lot, and I gotta say, it always makes me a little sad. Whenever the conversation of exploitation of labor comes up, inevitably someone finds themselves struggling with the guilt of “It is so important to me not to contribute to exploitation but I cannot do this thing myself and need someone else to do it for me, so how do I even approach that?”

Exploitation isn’t in the hiring of a service worker. Exploitation is in the respect you show them for their ability to perform the service you need from them.

I have been on a cleaning service staff before, and also been someone who hired a cleaning service, and I can tell you for sure that a lot of cleaning crews (especially worker owned ones) absolutely LOVE their clients and are genuinely happy to be able to make their lives better. The clients they don’t like? Those are the ones who disrespect the workers.

When I was involved with a cleaning service, we had everything from little old ladies living alone to McMasions with five cars as clients, and I can assure you that whenever there was someone who clearly hired us because they were overwhelmed or unable to keep their space clean, those were the households where you put a little more elbow grease in and did a deep clean even when it wasn’t paid for, because you could see how much these people were trying and struggling, and they were always so kind and generous and often embarrassed when talking to you about the job.

I only hired a service a couple if times in my life, but whenever I did, I worked with the same people as often as I could, tipped as well as I could afford, and tried to be the kind of client I would want to have, and that’s how I often ended up with my baseboards cleaned too, or my fridge scrubbed and organized or a restorative clean done in a high use room even when that wasn’t what I had scheduled or paid for.

I’ve heard the same thing from all manner of service workers over the years. Many of us like our jobs! We enjoy the work. It’s the customers that can do a number on you.

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Updated friends' voice lines to more clearly indicate "Sarcasm" tone

"Little Treat" mood buff now lasts twice as long

It is now Good to pick at your skin all the time

Added ability to mute Annoying Coworker

At the start of my employment, my boss showed me videos of people stealing, and we both had a chuckle about it. How silly they were! There was a camera overhead, and it’s not to watch the shoppers. See, we can’t actually stop shoplifters. They get away with it maybe nine out of ten times. But we, who are watched and tallied and witnessed? We are always caught.

At first it was hard to hold one hundred dollars bills. An amount I had never seen before. An amount that didn’t exist in my household. It’s normal now. Here is something that is not for me.

“What the hell, I’ll take another,” says the man, pondering our 200 dollar watches. What the hell. Total comes to 580 and not even a flinch in his face. I have been working for 11 hours today and made only 110 dollars. It will go to my rent. Today I work for free, it feels. When I get my check, I will have 35 dollars left for food and saving.

The six hundreds he hands me go into the cash register. For a moment, I imagine having money. Then I put it away, counting out his change.

I know for a fact we sell our products for double what they are worth. That I could be making commission. That they could hand me those 580 dollars and change my life and not even mark the difference in their checkbooks. He’s not the only sale they make today, but I am the reason they made it. He’s not the only one spending 600 dollars, but if I hadn’t spent two hours with him telling me about his life, he wouldn’t have spent any. I go home. I don’t own a watch.

I have watched and rewatched a video on how to make salmon four ways. My shopping list is always the same. Pasta. Rice. Tuna. If I can afford butter it was a good week. I dream of the world I will never walk in, where I can throw the best fish fillet in the cart with a shrug. I hold hundreds in my hand and look up at the camera. I put them under the cash drawer.

I go to work. I scrap together my savings. I eat my bowl of rice slowly. My manager takes a paid week off from work just for his birthday. He owns a yacht. 

i was part of their college program. i moved to the state for it. they legally owned the building i was living in and still charged me rent. i ostensibly was being charged to work for them. it was a 2 bedroom apartment and they placed 6 adult women in it in forced triples.

as many as one in ten disney employees have experienced homelessness while working for the company. despite huge efforts to unionize, strike, or otherwise demand fair treatment; disney has refused to increase employee quality of life.

disney admits publicly that a good portion of their success is because the employees (“cast members”) are dedicated, passionate, and selfless. this is never reflected in pay. even “face” characters (ie those that are princesses etc) make barely above a minimum wage.

at the time that i worked there, i made $8.50 an hour. at one point i was asked to create a human shield around a bag because a bomb dog had alerted to it. for eight fucking dollars an hour.

i now work a very cushy office job. i have bought the salmon and cooked it all four ways.

i go to the store. i am nice to the person behind the counter. she looks up at the camera while she counts out my change. there is nothing fundamentally different about her and i.

OP: Why couldn’t traditional Chinese Yinpiao银票/silver drafts be forged if they were merely slips of paper? (cr大明宝钞，渐越)

Traditional Chinese yinpiao/silver drafts were paper vouchers issued by private banks starting from the Song Dynasty(960–1279). People could exchange these slips for physical silver at bank branches across the country.

Silver drafts were made in multiple copies with matching serrated seal edges. One copy went to the customer and others stayed at the bank. All edges had to fit perfectly together to withdraw silver. The unique split edge marks were almost impossible to copy.

This mechanism is known as qifeng骑缝 (split-joint seal) in China. It first originated in the Western Zhou Dynasty (1046–771 BC). The Rites of Zhou records that contracts were written on bamboo or wooden slips in duplicate. Notches and marks were carved in the middle before splitting the slips, with each party keeping one half. The two halves would be matched by their notches for verification.

During the Spring and Autumn and Warring States periods (770–221 BC), this idea evolved into hufu虎符/tiger tally tokens. A military tally was split into two pieces with identical inscriptions carved along the split edge. Troops could only be deployed if the patterns and characters on both halves perfectly aligned, serving as a metal version of the split-joint anti-counterfeiting system.

The technology matured in the Tang Dynasty (618–907). Government documents and private contracts commonly used split-joint seals stamped across the dividing line. The Chinese character "hetong合同" (contract) was written across the middle before the paper was torn apart, so the complete characters would only appear when the two halves were put together. This split-coupon system was later adopted for Song Dynasty (960–1279) jiaozi paper money and yinpiao/silver drafts of the Ming and Qing dynasties (1368–1912).

Official Song dynasty paper money (Jiaozi交子) was abolished in 1107. Private silver drafts issued by Qing-era piaohao票行 (ancient exchange banks) vanished completely in 1951, hit hard by modern banks and currency reforms. Nowadays silver drafts no longer circulate as currency. Their collectible value depends on their rarity and physical condition.

First they were called "chirographs", but later the word "indenture" (in its earliest meaning as just a legal document of any kind between two people) came to be used, originating from the practice of a contract being written twice on a single piece of parchment and then cut in half with serrated edges (as in dent, "teeth" -> indents -> indenture) in order for each party to take one half, so they could later piece them together and verify that there had been no forgery -- same as the Chinese silver drafts!

(Charter of the Clerecía de Ledesma, 1252, showing the serrated indents at the top -- presumably they are cutting rather than tearing because they're using parchment, which I expect is much harder to tear than wood-pulp paper like the Chinese were using)

My dad was sat next to me and his eyes got big as saucers. He was so quiet when he replied solemnly, "I didn't even think about that... jesus christ, that's dark..." and I had to tell him I had friends who were probably gonna end up in that situation with their conservative parents. He was so removed from the notion of using that device for cruelty that he didn't even CONSIDER it! That's how easily people can be bought in by inventions/legislation advertised under the guise of "keeping the kids safe". My own father, who is a beautiful and gentle man with a good head on his shoulders, was ready to advocate for a tracking device, because it was sold as a device to "protect children".