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Example: There is a queer book club where I live, run by a cis lesbian and a cis gay man. They march at Pride with a big banner that says "Trans Rights Now" while wearing "Protect the Dolls" T-shirts. To a neutral observer, these seem like people who are really pro-trans and specifically pro-trans women, and even more specifically pro-Black and Latina trans women right?

But you will also notice that there are no trans or non-white people marching in their group at Pride. You'll notice that there are zero trans women who attend the book club meetings. You'll notice that, in the past 18 months (I've checked) at the queer book club where they wear T-shirts with a slogan about Black and Latina trans women, they have read zero books by trans women and zero books about trans women and zero books by Black people and zero books about Black people and one book about a Latina (but written by a white person).

And you'll notice that they recently arranged a group trip to a lecture by an "LGB activist" which took place in a venue with an AGAB toilet policy (which is *not* a legal requirement where I live). And if you talk to the few trans women who have been to this book club in the past, you'll hear about how they were ignored, spoken over, misgendered, belittled, how the gay men seemed to hate them but the lesbians also seemed to hate them and the transmascs also seemed to hate them and so they had to just sit on their own in a corner and they didn't go back a second time.

And somehow you can be a cis lesbian at one of these book club meetings, who hears one of the organisers say something positive about something a trans woman did 50 years ago, and you will feel resentful that trans women are taking up too much space compared to cis lesbians. Even though you're at a queer group which is nearly half cis lesbians, that's co-run by a cis lesbian, reading a book by a cis lesbian about a group of cis lesbians.

And you haven't even noticed that there are zero trans women at this group, or that you've never read a book by or about a trans woman. And if a trans woman did happen to show up, you'd feel that she was taking up too much space by trying to talk to you, so you'd ignore and isolate her and she wouldn't come back.

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A lot of people will rightly argue that these attitudes don't just show up online, that transmisogyny in queer spaces is a real issue.

The public figure has accurately pointed out that the random transmisogynists on tumblr are not a priority target for real heavy-hitters to take on, because they are not the source of these ideas, and not the ones empowered to make an impact with these ideas. They are downstream of bigger, more important targets.