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Lily Tomlin still voices the Original Friz, Valerie. Kate McKinnon voices her younger sister, Fiona Frizzle.

Also, I wish there was a way to say, ‘hey, smutty/kinky writers, speak up so I can follow you’ without sounding like a  creeper in a trench coat trying to lure you into a dark alley.

But, really, what it comes down to is this: naked does not mean invalid. The things we do with our clothes off are just as important to our lives and emotions and relationships as the things we do with them on. And so much of our body image and representation gets policed, because of Puritan ideology masquerading as morality.

But demonizing sex, sexual pleasure, and the naked body, hiding it, instilling shame for it hurts everyone. It devalues sex workers. It makes it acceptable to direct scorn and even violence towards those sex workers, but also towards anyone with an “abnormal” or “deviant” sex life, which translates to queer people, to the poly community, to kink. It hurts people with uteri, because we end up with the unhidable evidence of sex-having in the form of pregnancy, and then the policing and judgement ascends to new levels. Especially if you’re young.

It hurts people because, if bodies are bad, if which bodies we see and when and in what contexts is tightly controlled, people with bodies outside of the presented standard struggle with even more shame. It hurts disabled people, who don’t get represented, who’s bodies are desexualized when we have sexual orientations and needs and desires, too. It privileges the sexuality of certain races above others, trying to convince us that colour of your skin informs the content and quality of your fucking. It makes sex and sexuality this strange thing, with so many unwritten social rules and expectations that it is simultaneously everywhere and slightly taboo, so omnipresent and considered so universal that people on the ace spectrum aren’t believed, are threatened with physical and sexual violence, dehumanized because we’ve been taught that, while fucking is dirty, it’s also human.

I write sex scenes and deal with sex and sexuality in my fanfic AND my original work because all of those things matter. Because trying to carve out a space in which to inhabit my own sexuality as a queer, disabled woman is hard, and I know I’m not the only one struggling. I do it to write myself back into a body that has experienced far too much violence, a body that too many others thought they had a right to for a plethora of reasons. I do it to remind myself on the bad days that this, these feelings and these wants, this flesh is MINE, and no one gets to take them from me. Everyone who tried? Fucking failed.

Writing good sex scenes is ridiculously hard, but I want the people who most need those truths up there–that sex is not the enemy, that sex workers are human and deserve respect, that bodily autonomy matters, that fucking is not dirty, that it might be life-affirming but it is not the proof our humanity–to walk away from my stories feeling seen. I am not perfect. I am still learning, and trying to figure out better ways to represent the groups I mentioned, especially if I’m not part of them. I do my best to not speak over the people who know better than me about these issues, to listen, but also to remember that my voice matters, too.

Hey guys!

hey, yes, i’m talking to you. i know you’re probably scrolling right now but this post wont take too long to read.

i just wanted to give you a quick reminder that you’re beautiful. yes, i know what you’re thinking, wow what an idiot they cant even see me, but that isn’t the case.

regardless of your looks, how long your hair is, how white your teeth are, how skinny you are, how tall you are, the colour of your skin, how big your butt is, you are beautiful. because you’ve made it this far. you have gotten through every fucking day in this shitty universe, and you are here right now, looking at this post. you have survived heartbreak, sadness, loneliness, trauma, and just all the general ups and down of life, and you are alive right now to tell the tale of it. you’ve pushed on through everything.

sometimes it doesn’t seem like it’s worth it, like you’re worth it, but you are. one day, that’ll make sense. you’ll be sitting somewhere nice, watching something, maybe someone, and you’ll remember all of the things you had to get through, and it’ll all make sense. 

congratulate yourself on getting this far. it’s a big thing, yet you’ve done it. if you ever feel like you aren’t worth it, i want you to know that it’s all going to be okay. you impact so many people’s lives, and you are some people’s entire worlds. people love you, they look up to you, they admire you. don’t give anyone the ‘life would go on without me’ excuse, because you know it wouldn’t. no one recovers from that.

✨ happy autism acceptance month! ✨