it's not a romantic song, and never was. emilee petersmark, the frontwoman, is a korean adoptee raised why a white american family. growing up in a predominantly white area, despite her adoptive parents' best efforts, she felt out of place and disconnected from her culture. even when she went back to south korea, it was hard for her to fit in, and she states that "[n]ot a single person spoke to [her] in Korean – it was like [she] had a neon sign over my head spelling 'FOREIGNER,' and the locals steered clear" in the source above. she struggled especially not having any knowledge of her bio mother or why she couldn't raise her. never love an anchor is her stated imagining of why she was put up for adoption, as a way to cope with the disconnect and feeling of not being wanted. it's about a mother feeling unworthy of raising her child, and scared to ruin them.
the lyrics "Do you ever think of me and my two hands? / And wonder why they never soothed your fevers? / And wonder why they never tied your shoes? / And wonder why they never held you gently? / And wonder why they never had the chance to lose you?" are about knowing your child is growing up somewhere without you, wondering if they are wondering about you, and, i would say, hoping they don't resent you. it's just one non-romantic example from the lyrics, but probably the most obvious one, as 'tied your shoes' makes more sense in a mother-child context than a romantic partnership.