need to let something off your chest?

i’ve always wanted to anonymously talk to a blog where i could share my struggles; whether it be with my crush, friendship issues, studies or life in general!

so if you feel the same way— remember! everything here is anonymous- send an ask!

i promise i will respond with the best advice and genuinely reply to you as if you were my best friend!

Start by organizing your wardrobe. Throw away or donate anything you don't need and wash what's dirty.

Clean your shoes.

Organize those random drawers that seem to have everything useless.

Clean your space very thoroughly.

Polish mirrors and glass.

Clean out bathroom really well.

Go for a walk.

Wash your sheets

Shower

Wear clean pyjamas that you love

Light a candle or incense if you like.

Take a notebook or a paper and write down the goals you want to achieve in the next month, in 3 months and in 6 months.make sure it's organized and pretty so you don't get bored of it.

Write down the traits of the person you want to become.the best version of yourself possible.

Make a vision board of your future self or your future life on Pinterest.

Write a to do list for the next day. Do this everyday. Even when you don't have chores and you just want to have a relaxing day and watch a movie, treat these activities as something that you should do and put a cross it when you're done, it'll make you feel productive.

If you don't know what you want to do with your life yet, surround yourself with people you love and do things that make you happy perhaps that will help you have an epiphany.

Start challenging yourself with things you know you would like. Goals should not always be things that are difficult and you don't like like reading a boring book just because it's gonna make you more sophisticated or losing weight. Set goals that make you happy and more importantly that working towards them is a happy, fun process as well. The things that make us happy should not feel insignificant just because the path to them is somewhat easy.

i’ve always wanted to anonymously talk to a blog where i could share my struggles; whether it be with my crush, friendship issues, studies or life in general!

so if you feel the same way— remember! everything here is anonymous- send an ask!

i promise i will respond with the best advice and genuinely reply to you as if you were my best friend!

Practise basic self-care.

Sometimes people dismiss self-care as something that doesn’t actually make a difference. But while it might not solve all your problems, it does usually help to treat yourself as though you deserve to be cared for (which you do). Get enough sleep, drink lots of water, eat enough food with enough nutrients in it, get some fresh air and exercise, talk to the people who care about you, make time to relax and do things that you enjoy. It’s easier to learn to like yourself if you’re taking care of your basic needs.

Make a list of evidence.

Get a notebook, or a piece of paper, or a word document, or a notes app on your phone, and every day write down at least one positive thing about yourself. This could be a personality trait (”I’m honest/funny”), or a physical trait (”I have nice hair/eyes”), or something you’re good at (”I’m a fast runner/good listener”), or something you did that day that went well (”I handed in my work on time/I cooked dinner for my family”). When you’re feeling bad about yourself, read through the list and look at the evidence that actually, there are good things about being you. The longer you keep this up, the more evidence you’ll collect.

Practise reframing your thoughts.

If you often find yourself in thinking spirals where one bad thing happens, and so you start to think about everything that has ever gone wrong and everything you’ve ever disliked about yourself, it can help to practise stopping yourself mid-terrible-thought-stream, and rephrase your thought in a more balanced way. For example, “I made a mistake at work, which is proof that I’m bad at my job and a terrible person” might change to “it sucks that I made a mistake, but I will learn from it and do better next time. Making a mistake doesn’t mean I’m bad at what i do, or a bad person”. It might take time to start believing your new, reframed thoughts. But the first step is to stop instantly believing the negative things you say to yourself, and start questioning them.

To practise questioning your thoughts next time you’re thinking negatively about yourself, you could ask yourself questions like these:

What evidence is there that this statement is true? What evidence is there that this statement is false?

If a close friend said this about themselves, how would I respond?

Even if this one negative thing is true, does it mean that I am beyond help/my life is ruined forever/everything else about me is awful?

If Donald Trump said this to me, what would I say to him in response?

Do something positive with your time.

If you’re feeling like a bad person, or useless, do something to counteract that. Send a text to a friend asking how they are. Call your grandparents. Invite someone over for dinner. Leave a nice comment on someone’s social media post. Create your own supportive or motivating social media post. Offer to run an errand for a stressed out family member. Give some money or food to a homeless person. Donate to a food bank. Sign up for some voluntary work. Making someone’s day a little better is something we can all do.

Aim for something realistic.

Guess what? You don’t have to like everything about yourself. Someone with good self-esteem can be aware of their strengths and their flaws - the difference is how much you focus or place importance on those strengths and flaws. It’s okay to dislike something about yourself, as long as you don’t focus on that trait as your main defining trait. It’s okay to think you’re imperfect (because everyone is), as long as you don’t end up thinking “I’m not perfect, so I must be a terrible person”. You don’t have to be the best person that ever lived - how would we even measure that? You still have worth, even with your faults.

So here’s some. Add your own if you’d like!

* listens to you talk when you have issues and supports you through them

* stops doing things you tell them make you uncomfortable

* compromises when necessary

* never puts you down deliberately, especially not publically

* supports your ambitions

* uses a calm rational tone during arguments

* is able to apologise when they’re in the wrong

* wants to get to know your friends

* has their own friends too

* respects your financial situation & considers it when making plans

* thanks you for speaking your mind

* acknowledges & plans for potential negative outcomes

* Asks you about topics they know interest you 

* Talks politely and respectfully about exes if they come up in conversation

* Is kind to their family

* Is nice to children

* Is polite to service workers

* Takes care of their physical and emotional health

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Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

1. Get into the habit of challenging your thinking – especially when it falls into the same old repeated, negative patterns.

2. Keep a thankfulness journal – and deliberately look for the good things in your life.

3. Spend time with people who can see your strengths, and who make you feel good about yourself.

4. Keep some photos or mementos that remind you of your passions – so theses can help inspire you to love your life again.

5. Leave positive notes and quotes around your room, or inside your wallet, or on your desk, or phone.

6. See failure as a stepping stone that leads to further growth – and as something that is common, and experienced by us all.