Cultivating Intimacy

I think one of the gentlest things in the world is when a friend just gets your weird little brain. like you say half a sentence and they finish it. you reference something incredibly niche from seven years ago and they’re already nodding. they understand your strange vocabulary for emotions that don’t have real words yet. it’s being seen and known and still loved. maybe especially because you’re known. god. what a gift.

don't forget, there's an immense amount of love in friendship as well.

i love friendships that influence me to be kinder, smarter and healthier. i love when people have a positive impact on me.

ppl who don’t make an effort to listen to their partner(s) abt their interests bc they “don’t like it” scare me

being the weird girl all your life and always hiding parts of yourself to fit in and then meeting someone who actually likes you because of those weird parts rather than in spite of them is the most healing experience in the world i hope that all you little freaks in my phone can also find this someday

Lately I’ve been really into being honest to people about my positive feelings towards them. I told my classmate that I’ve admired her creativity from the start and named a project of hers that I loved, and her face lit up! I took the train with a project partner the other day and told her that I always have so much fun with her, and it prompted an entire conversation about the difficulties of graduating from ‘classmates’ to ‘friends’ and both of our insecurities in this regard (and how we’re definitely getting coffee later). I express my gratitude honestly. I say what I feel if I’d be happy hearing it, myself. I remember details so that I can refer to them later. Once you realize how great you can make someone feel, all of those mundane moments become so special. It will maybe even create some lasting connections, something I think we could all use more of.

It's messed up that the only legal kinship ties you can make are marriage and adoption. I think people should be able to legally make whatever kinship ties they want. What if I want to legally establish myself as someone's great-grandniece even though there are no other familial relationships between us? I should be able to do that.

I never wanna be a mom but dear god I wanna be the weird cool grandma sooooo bad someone make this real before I turn 60 pleaseeeeeeeee

i should be allowed to collect cousins like pokemon cards

life is short and weird and it’s important to tell people how you really feel about them

have a relationship thats mature enough to sit down and be like " look this is our problem and this is how we're gonna fix it.." SIMPLE