H.O.P.E. A Project of Love and Peace.

A vast majority of Japanese people actually enjoy other people making an effort to spread and enjoy japanese culture, and encourage it. Many make businesses in deliberately taking pictures of people in kimono. A common omiage (gift) for foreigners from japanese people is traditional japanese things such as kimonos, tea seats, shisa dog statues, ect.

And to top it off, basically 80 percent of japanese customs, traditions, and food, came from other countries. Japanese is an integration of different cultures, like america. Japan takes influences from places like korea, china, russia, and europe. If japan stuck to itself, there would be no tempura, japanese tea, tea ceremonies, kabuki, japanese bread, japanese curry, j- pop, anime, cars, or modern fishing techniques. The picture is not “yellow face” they are not making fun of asians. In fact, it looks like they put extra care and research into their work.

We eventually came around to an agreement but there was still contention and I was clearly getting upset and I felt bad because our other friend who was there with us was visibly uncomfortable because she knows what happened to me and the one I was arguing with does not. At one point the guy friend I was arguing with said “she (our other friend) keeps kicking me under the table for the record" 

What makes me sad is the fact that I know he doesn’t truly believe that rape would ever be okay, but he still said those words. That is rape culture in of itself. It makes me angry and frustrated and sad that any of this even exists in the first place, let alone with someone who I consider to be a pretty good friend. 

And even after we finished the argument, a while later he brought it up again, trying to defend himself, saying that he didn’t say they were asking to be raped, he said they were asking for it. Well you prefaced it with the words "rape culture” and even if you didn’t what else would “it” mean in the context of “asking for it." 

No one gets offended if you say something like, "Hey man that's kind of a sketch part of town, you wanna borrow my mace or maybe I should go with you or something?"

Why? because generally we have a pretty sane outlook on having a violent non-sex crime being committed against you. Sure, there's always that one guy even then who will make some Crack about how you shouldn't have had your wallet with you on your way to the grocery at night or some bullshit, but the social norm is that that guy is a jackass.

Likewise, people are horrified if someone sets their friend up for a gang shooting or something. Comments about how you never should have been out alone with your seemingly normal friend are no where to be seen. Make it a sexual assault though and suddenly you shouldn't have led them on or you're an idiot for getting drunk with someone you trusted.

it's a ridiculous two way street of a fucked up attitude of something that should be treated like a worse version of some guy beating the shit out of you with a crowbar.

There isn't a good argument for putting the burden of guilt of any crime on the victim under any circumstance I can think of ethically or morally, given that they are a victim in fact and not only in technicalty.

(( Jasmine… in any form… just… Freakin Jasmine…  ⁺✧.(˃̶ ॣ⌣ ॣ˂̶∗̀)ɞ⁾

That must be rough! Do they also get judged as incompetent at work if they don’t wear makeup?

Do they get paid less than their more conventionally attractive (though identically or less qualified) counterparts?

Are they more likely to be found guilty by a jury because they don’t conform to beauty standards?

Hint: No, nah, nope.

Men absolutely get paid less if they are unattractive, there are plenty of studies to back it up, and it should be obvious. the more conventionally attractive you are in regards to the conventional standard for your biological gender the more successful you get.

maybe not, but they receive more severe sentences and and disproportionate ruling against them for certain crimes and conflicts. Probably because people view men as superficially more dangerous and violent, particularly when conforming to the tall and muscular beauty standard