Have you ever thought of wolfstar situationship, will-they-won't-they, sexual tension so deep you have to use a chainsaw to cut it type, up until their 25+ and it's still happening, they both have their restrictions, it's just this something between them that they never talk about but they're always together in social groups.
I want to ask because you seem like have high emotional intelligence and I love your writings, and m honestly been thinking hard about these types of relationship and it's sickening.
first of all thank you for saying i have high emotional intelligence, that’s genuinely such a kind thing to say and it made me smile a lot 🥲
now, wolfstar in a long-term situationship is basically a masterclass in sustained tension. everyone in their friend group clocks it immediately, but remus and sirius just keep not naming it for years. here are some thoughts i have that lean into that:
i think they exist in this strange orbit. they’re always in the same friend group, always sitting next to each other at dinners, always the last two talking in the kitchen while everyone else leaves, but they never have this “what are we” conversation.
sirius is the one everyone assumes would make the first move, but he never does with remus. with everyone else he’s reckless and flirtatious, but with remus he’s careful in a way that’s almost reverent. it confuses people. it confuses him.
remus is the king of plausible deniability. every almost-intimate moment can be explained away. sirius’ hand lingering on his shoulder? they were drunk. sitting knee-to-knee on the couch? there was no space. late-night walks just the two of them? everyone else went home first.
sirius is touch starved and very physically affectionate with everyone, but it’s different with remus. he’ll drape himself over friends, sure, but with remus there’s these brief, careful touches. a hand at the small of his back guiding him through a crowd. fixing his earring. fingers brushing when they pass drinks.
remus is the one who seems more composed on the outside, but he’s actually the one holding the line harder. he’s convinced that if they cross it once, the whole thing will collapse. so he keeps redirecting the energy into banter and intellectual arguments and long late-night talks about anything and everything.
they date other people through their early twenties. it never lasts very long for either of them. sirius’ partners tend to complain that he’s emotionally unavailable. remus’ partners tend to complain that he’s distant or distracted.
they have a habit of drifting off together at parties. you’ll look around and they’re gone, and someone will say “check the balcony”, and sure enough they’re there, shoulder to shoulder, talking about something mundane like music or politics like they didn’t just disappear for an hour.
they share physical space in ways that are way too comfortable for people who “aren’t like that”. they always arrive together, always leave together, but never as a couple. they sit too close on sofas. they share cigarettes. sirius steals remus’ drinks without asking. remus plays with sirius’ rings without looking up from whatever he’s reading.
when they’re 19 they move into a tiny flat together and sirius walks around half-dressed and remus pretends he’s reading the same paragraph for twenty minutes.
the tension gets worse in their twenties. because now they could do something about it, theoretically. they’re adults. they’ve dated other people. they’ve had sex. they know what attraction feels like.
this thing between them is worse than attraction. it’s sirius casually calling remus “love” without realizing he does it. it’s remus being the only person who can make sirius quiet just by looking at him. it’s sirius getting weirdly territorial when someone flirts with remus but refusing to unpack why.
their friends have a betting pool that lasts literal years. everyone goes through the five stages of grief about them. first it’s are they together? then they’re definitely sleeping together. then why are they not together??? then eventually oh my god just kiss already.
there are about a thousand almost-kisses between ages 19–24. late nights, shared cigarettes, sirius’ hand lingering on the back of remus’ neck, remus looking at sirius’ mouth for half a second too long.
there’s probably one big & serious almost-kiss that happens when they’re 22 or something, that neither of them acknowledges afterward. like they’re sitting on the hood of someone’s car after a party, everyone else has gone inside. it’s quiet and they’re a little drunk and sirius says something soft and teasing and remus laughs and suddenly they’re just… kinda looking at each other, close enough that sirius could lean in an inch and it would happen.
they freeze halfway there and then laugh it off like it was nothing. sirius says something like “you know we’re a bit tragic, right?” and remus just chuckles and says “only a bit?”
the next morning they make eye contact across the kitchen while someone is making coffee and both silently decide to pretend it never happened. they succeed so well that it almost becomes gaslighting.
sometimes the tension spikes in weird moments. like they’re alone after a party washing glasses and the conversation goes quiet and suddenly they’re standing way too close. or one of them gets hurt/sick and the other takes care of them and the air gets unbearably heavy.
sirius pretends he’s the reckless one, but he’s actually terrified of being the person who ruins what they already have.
remus pretends he’s the rational one, but he’s secretly terrified that sirius will eventually get bored of him if they ever try for real.
by their mid-twenties it becomes a running joke in the friend group. if one of them shows up without the other someone will ask “did you lose him on the way here?”
the thing is, the relationship they already have is weirdly intimate. they know each other better than anyone else does. they call each other first when something big happens. they have inside jokes from years ago that no one else understands. they instinctively find each other in crowded rooms, just a small glance across the space like there you are. but because it’s never defined, it sits in this constant state of unresolved gravity.
by 25 everyone assumes that whatever weird unresolved thing they had burned out years ago, but no.
the tension is mostly built out of restraint. they could have each other anytime, and that’s exactly why they don’t.
when they finally do cross the line it’s almost anticlimactic. no fireworks, more like a relief. like oh moment. i think they’re very “oh” coded actually. and that “oh” happens when they’re 27 and the tension builds up to the point of bursting.
their first kiss happens in a very normal moment. they’re walking home together late evening after seeing friends. quiet street, cold enough that their shoulders keep bumping. remus says something that makes sirius laugh, and sirius reaches out and catches his sleeve to stop him walking for a second.
when remus turns back, they’re standing much closer than usual. there’s this pause where they both realize the moment could go somewhere and neither of them moves away.
sirius is the one who asks, very quietly, “can i kiss you?”. remus doesn’t answer verbally, he just nods once, and so they kiss.
it’s extremely gentle, almost careful, like they’re both aware they’re crossing a line they’ve avoided for years. it’s short, but when they pull apart neither of them steps back.
sirius looks slightly stunned afterward, like something he assumed would never happen just did. remus is calmer about it, but his ears are red and he keeps looking at sirius’ mouth. they stand there for another second before remus leans in and kisses sirius again, slower this time.
afterward they resume walking like normal, except their hands brush once, twice, and eventually just stay linked.
once kissing becomes normal between them, the physical tension changes from “forbidden” to “slowly escalating”.
when they eventually have sex it’s after they’ve been officially together a while, when the emotional uncertainty is gone. it’s very tender because for sirius letting someone see him like that is a big thing (i see him as demi). remus understands that instinctively. everything about it is patient, checking in with quiet looks, small touches first, building closeness slowly.
actually i think the first few times they have sex there’s a lot of laughing in between because they’ll suddenly realize things like oh my god i’ve wanted to do this for years. sirius makes some joke about how it took them “roughly a decade longer than necessary”, and remus’ response is basically “statistically inefficient, yes”.
sirius gets even more affectionate after they start officially dating. he’s the type who’s always tangled up with remus, tracing shapes on his skin, pressing lazy kisses to his jaw while they talk.
remus realizes sirius only really relaxes physically around him. with other people sirius is animated, energetic, always performing a little. with remus he leans, rests his head on his shoulder, stretches his legs across remus’ lap like it’s the safest place in the room.
the funniest part is that once they do get together the tension doesn’t even disappear, it just changes shape. they’re still those same two people who took years to say the obvious thing, so half their relationship is long looks and unfinished sentences.
anyway yes. long-term mutual pining situationship wolfstar is absolutely sickening but i love them still 🤍
