What I could be, if I believed in me

The fact that people are this quick to assume that the only appeal a male character can get is because of their attractiveness and people who enjoy those characters MUST be "young girls who don't have their head on straight," is absolutely vile, condescending, and sexist. Those are screenshots of real posts that were directed to me, and I now shall confess something I didn't bring up before, but... I don't even identify as a woman.

And yet despite the fact that people claim that hating on Jinu is "protecting girls," only to immediately attack said "girls" (or me, because somehow I pass as an underage girl) when they dare to defend him, like genuinely, it only proves that you, in fact, don't give a shit about women whatsoever. That you will sooner attack other women for liking Jinu and Rujinu than supposedly toxic men that are "the real villain here". Like I didn't bring up my gender expression (and still choose not to, my identity is mine's to keep, just clarifying that it's nowhere near being a woman on this post only) specifically because I'd just know that it would be an even quicker switch to suddenly villainise me and portray me as some kind of toxic predator male instead because that's how willing people are just to hate on someone just because, but the fact it's still only the SECOND option baffles me, like whose side are you on at this point?

It has to be said: it doesn't matter if you love or hate Jinu, if you're going to care only about his physical appearance and take his actions for granted, you're still the problem, you're still misogonystic, because fighting misogony is not just about fighting toxic men, it's recognising them, but how are you going to recognise them if you're not going to look beyond what's on the surface? How are you going to fight them if you assume every pretty face is up to no good? How are you going to recognise truly toxic behaviour if all it takes is a human mistake to be considered irredeemable?

Heck, and don't even get me started on how Polytrix fandom is filled with smut and sexual content, like genuinely, why do you feel the urge to shame women for finding a guy attractive only to reblog extra horny fanart of Polytrix? I'm not even here to deny the existence of smutty Rujinu, but on the main tag, I will sooner come across smut of Polytrix. Polytrix itself is currently the largest polyship on AO3; it's effectively the hot shit, and it simply does not catch as much hate as Rujinu. It really just doesn't, as it's just not proportionate. I love Polytrix, and it's smut, it's not the actual problem, the problem is very clear double-standard that one ship will get more of a pass over something while the other will be condemned to the ground over it.

Like this thing here, I can perfectly break down why Jinu, in fact, was not manipulative towards Rumi beyond their first meeting, and disregarding their connection just because Rumi didn't have a choice revealing her patterns, doesn't mean she didn't have a choice when proposing to him the plan for him to sabotage Saja Boys and keep him on the other side of the sealed golden honmoon. Like how he literally said to Rumi multiple times how he's not the kind of guy she should trust or rely on when achieving this goal, as if Rumi truly would've expected anything from him, as far as he's aware. If Jinu was genuinely manipulating Rumi, he'd genuinely play along to gain her trust; he wouldn't even bother bringing up how he's not the kind of guy to help her, how he's in fact hopeless. Those actions were not designed to make Rumi trust him; Jinu didn't even try; he sabotaged himself. He had a golden opportunity to take advantage of Rumi there and then, and didn't take it. Rumi on the other hand immediately took advantage of his facade of confidence slipping the moment a little girl gave him a drawing as him as an angel; she's the one who arranged their meetings while denying any time he arranged his meetings with her beyond the first one (Jinu had to go to fan signing to talk with her instead), she's the one who set the plan and terms that boiled down to Jinu potentially going against his friends, his people, and his master, she even said flat out she was using him when defending herself from Mira and Zoey, but does anyone acknowledge this?

This thing also just showcases misogyny because Mira and Zoey are adult women who didn't even know that Jinu orchestrated the reveal, let alone how much Jinu hurt Rumi by using their doppelgangers to expose her on the stage. They did, however, see the aftermath; they saw exposed Rumi on the verge of breaking down right in front of them, and they still chose to raise their weapons at her, at their friend. Jinu didn't even have to do anything; someone else could've exposed Rumi, or Rumi herself could've slipped up, and the outcome would still be the same.

You can come up with a hundred valid reasons why Zoey and Mira did what they did, and whether or not they're justified, or how much they hated it, but you can't do that while pretending Jinu is literally not in the same basket. Misogony is not just hating on women; misogony is not seeing women as people capable of their own choices and actions. It's about denying women agency and autonomy. Putting responsibility solely on Jinu for what happens, robs Mira and Zoey of their own shortcomings and mind you, just because you acknowledge their faults and mistakes, doesn't mean they're also somehow worse than Jinu The fact that you're this quick to assume that someone holding women accountable for doing something messed up they're still capable of doing like any other human beings, SOMEHOW makes them worse than a guy, really goes to show how little you genuinely think of women.

Jinu was abused and tortured into betraying Rumi, Mira, and Zoey were conditioned to hate demons to the point of turning against their very friend. Very much the same context, but Jinu will catch way more heat for it than both Mira and Zoey combined. And even so, even though all 3 of them hurt Rumi, Rumi still chose to forgive all of them, but people won't care about that; they'd rather focus on Jinu slighting Rumi and somehow make Rumi's hurt about him manipulating her and not him giving up on himself and her. Rumi broke down and wanted to die because Jinu, Mira, and Zoey all gave up on her; that was what did her, not just Jinu betraying her

Like, I shouldn't be the one saying all of this. I'm not a woman; I don't live a life facing misogyny 24/7, I'm not the biggest victim of all of this, and still in my anonymity, I still somehow managed to came across the very same hate that women face and over simply giving Jinu, Mira, and Zoey a grace of being human beings capable of doing something messed up while not being 100% in control of the entire situation. I'm not a woman, yet I got called a little girl who doesn't have her head straight. I'm not a woman, yet I saw comments about how I should "get better soon" (which by itself is disgusting because of the fact that you still shame women for their feelings). Genuinely, what the fuck.