I cannot overstate how important it is for women to possess things, whether material or immaterial. Let it be your favorite dress, bottles of perfume, a piece of jewelry, linen bedsheets, books, knowledge, degrees, work experience, connections, hobbies, a secret garden that belong to you alone.
Build a life that is unmistakably yours. Form your identity. Explore and refine your taste. Know what moves you, what inspires you. Be your own muse, go to shopping malls and smell new perfumes/try the clothes on instead of getting your inspiration online. A woman without a strong sense of identity risks losing herself in this world.
I remember my mother once saying that she had "nothing." That sentence has stayed with me. Many women were robbed of their identity whether by marrying the wrong man or by being reduced solely to the roles of wife and mother. They were never truly given the opportunity to explore their womanhood in all its depth.
If you are feeling lost in your womanhood, just start to cultivate your taste. Read foreign literature. Treat yourself according to your budget (for instance try to understand what you really enjoy in fashion and you really don’t need to buy anything ) . Explore new hobbies. Invest in your education and your future. If your circumstances allow try new occupations, develop new skills, travel, create, remain curious.
