My boyfriend wants to identify as female. He doesn't have the money to transition right now, and it's really bringing him down. He's mentioned suicide a few times. I really want him to be happy.. Do you have any advice on what I can say or do?
Your question has been answered on the new blog, but here it is as well:"
That’s a tough situation, anon. Firstly, try your best to call her by her correct pronouns at all times. And make sure to call her your girlfriend, not your boyfriend. You’ll probably mess up a few times at first, but it’ll become easier to slip into after a while.
Make sure to supply her with all sorts of help, like online trans forums (i.e. Laura’s Playground) and suicide hotlines, just in case.
Always tell her that she’s beautiful, and that there will always be people out there for her who can help and support her. Tell her she’s loved, and make her feel as such. If you’re comfortable with it, help her become more feminine. You can help her learn to do her makeup, go dress shopping with her, all that. You don’t have to physically transition to pass, which is something you should help her to keep in mind.
I know that whenever I feel upset about my physical sex, I dress up and play around with my voice to make it lower. She could make hers higher with practice, and do a lot of things to make herself more feminine without the surgery.
Best of luck,
Trickster"
