Shut Up

It's a sign that you need to shut up and accept it, it's not an invitation to tell us that you think anything that fits into a vagina is practically a dick.

You claim to be part of a community you don't even understand or respect. In case you forgot, it was homosexuals who started it.

Our sexuality isn't up for debate, it's not a playground for your inclusion fetish and it won't change just because you believe validating penis is more important than our bodily autonomy.

“Paraphilia”

Ah, this one’s my favorite:

Old-school / conservative homophobia vs. Woke homophobia

The other day I saw this (very valid) comment that was being replied to after op said that it was transphobic to leave trans ‘women’ out of lesbian spaces.

This is how she replied. Claiming oppression for a valid statement. The replies made me feel sick to my stomach too.

So fetish is ok if it involves choking, slapping, hitting, cutting, spitting, ect.

But if someone only finds one type of genitals attractive and only wants to interact with that type for the rest of their lives they’re….bad?

So op could you tell me why one type of fetish and kink should be acceptable but the other isn’t?

homosexual: attracted to the same sex

bisexual: attracted to both sexes

fetish: a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs

......

How is this a confusing or unexpected result?

I’m gen Z, so I was lucky to be raised with a positive attitude towards same sex attraction. I distinctly remember seeing those posters about how gay isn’t an insult, before I even knew what gay was. So by the time I was old enough to understand what sexuality was, I kind of just knew I was gay and was fine with it. I was supposed to be the lucky generation—the first to be raised in a world that generally felt positively towards same sex attraction.

And then in comes gender ideology and all of its rampant homophobia. And in a way, it feels like the world I was promised was ripped away from me. I used to think I’d be out and proud as a lesbian, but now I’m scared to even mention it to anybody because I know that I don’t have to just worry about the people who think same sex attraction = sin, but now I also have to worry about the people who hear “lesbian” and translate it to “evil terf bitch”. And the people who hear “I’m only attracted to women” and translate it to “transphobic and closed-minded”. And people who say “I’m gay too!” But actually aren’t.

I used to dream of going to pride events, but now I know it’s not for me. It’s for people who have built up entire identities that would crumble without their homophobic and misogynistic foundation. Every time pride month comes up, I feel almost a sense of grief. Because that was supposed to be my time to be with people like me. Now it’s for the people who’ve always hated us, and found a way to take over all of the minimal things we had just for us.

It’s lonely enough to be gay, especially a lesbian. And it’s just gotten worse. And it keeps getting worse as more people grow to at the best not give a shit about us, and at the worst hate us passionately and do everything they can to let it be known.

Ok so what’s easier: douching before having sex OR getting laser hair removal on your penis so that when they invert it you don’t have hair inside, skin grafts, multiple surgeries, years of limited mobility (potentially a lifetime of disability), severe infection and pain, bacteria and smell in your permanent wound, sticking a plastic tube inside you multiple times a day for the rest of your life to have sex you can’t feel at best and is more likely excruciating with a man made monstrosity that will never resemble a real vulva!

I and my girls would get approached in lesbian bars by annoying af cis dudes asking us the same gd question, and making lewd comments, trying to touch us, saying they could turn us, asking if we’re willing to use a strap on, why not the real thing? The amount of lesbian women I have known who have been correctively sexually assaulted by cishet men is extremely high, and I am included in that list, and the list of lesbian women sexually harassed by cishet men is uncountable.

Lesbians have the right to speak out on this website about the sexual abuse and harassment we face. Where the fuck did the support for lesbian women go? No one supports us anymore, International Lesbian Days get all but crickets from this site while every other letter in the LGBT+ gets floods of support, everyone assumes now that lesbian is some sort of dogwhistle for biphobia or transphobia. 

I’m too scared to even call myself a lesbian anymore. What’s the point? I’m hated by straight people the instant they hear ‘lesbian’, and now by my own community, and in both cases it’s because of assumptions made due to radicalised few. 

“someone with a penis”; had they just meant men, probably would not have been worded this way. It can also refer to people who are dmab, but not cis.

cw might be an incredibly incoherent niche rant idrc

I'm not sure if it's just me, but I can't be the only person who is somewhat involved in fandom elsewhere and noticing the eventual decline of tomboy-ish girls and masculine women be normalised.

I believe there's a certain pattern popping up among fandom spaces online perpetuating as the result of popularised terms such as 'T4T' (Transgender for transgender.)

Bear with me, but take 2 female characters who are romantically involved with each other. People on the left engrossed in fandom culture will start to interpret the more masculine of the two as trans-masc or the other way around (The more feminine individual progressively starts being labeled as trans-fem...)

It's disheartening seeing all the women I love from different media being interpreted with top surgery scars and being translated to either fit 'trans-masculine or trans-feminine' identities. Like... can women no longer be gnc anymore... Do we seriously need to start classifying them as men-adjacent..?

It's like we're winding the clock a couple decades back. People are questioning the authenticity of female homosexual relationships, just because there is no male present.

I was told, over and over, that gay means man+man and woman+woman. And if you acted like that couldn’t include a trans man and a cis man, or a trans woman with a lesbian, you WERE a bigot

There was no space for debate

No space for disagreement

You agreed that opposite-sex attraction is part of homosexuality, or you were a bigot and contributed to the death of trans people. I forced myself into looking for opposite-sex attraction because I believed I was killing trans people if I didn’t