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sometimes we need to stop and think about the impact culture and politics have on art AND vice versa. i, personally, as a trans person, don’t think we need to add fuel to the “trans people are perverts and pedophiles and rapists” fire. i think some things are simply more important than staying true to the source material. fight me on my lawn about it.

Please have a moment of silence for the people who were killed instead of freed when news of emancipation finally reached the furthest corners of the american south.

have another moment for the ledgers, catalogs, and records that were burned and the homes that were destroyed to hide the presence of very much alive and still enslaved people on dozens of plantations and homesteads across the south for decades after emancipation.

and have a third moment for those who were hunted and killed while fleeing the south to find safety across the border, overseas, in the north and to the west.

black people. light a candle, write a note to those who have passed telling them what you have achieved in spite of the racist and intolerant conditions of this world, feel the warmth of the flame under your hand, say a prayer of rememberance if you are religious, place the note under the candle, and then blow it out.

if you have children, sit them down and tell them anything you know about the life of oldest black person you've ever met. it doesn't have to be your own family. tell them what you know about what life was like for us in the days, years, decades after emancipation. if you don't know much, look it up and learn about it together.

This is Juneteenth.

🤦‍♀️ everyone start getting fucking normaler!!!! now!!!!!!

I've never really liked rpf in any sense, but I am of the opinion that people are allowed to think what they want and create what they want, and hudcon are so openly affectionate for each other and clearly love and respect each other so much in a way that's not seen in today's society (which they've both spoken about and confirmed is platonic, they're both very affectionate people and we see that with their other friends too) but yes, of course, rpf is gonna find them. in what world would it not?

and I'm not going to pretend that I've not made posts/tagged stuff calling them soulmates or a bonded pair or whatever the fuck, I never look at an image of matt damon and ben affleck without instinctively saying "which could mean nothing" - which I'm aware falls into rpf territory, but the most important thing is and always should be keeping anything related to rpf completely separate to the real living people

yes, they're celebrities, and with that comes a certain level of loss of privacy. people are going to talk about you, they are going to speculate, they're aware of that and connor has basically removed all traces of his personal life from the internet because of it! but not only are these rpfers still invading hudcons spaces, they're also going after anyone related to them, especially hudson's gf katelyn, which is never, ever okay

"Saying don't write RPF is censorship"

HUDSON WILLIAMS himself asked people to stop writing RPF. It's not hypothetical. He's a real human being and he asked the community to stop. It's about him. He is not a made up character, he is a real living breathing person and if you really do love and respect him like you claim to, you will respect his wishes.

"Keep it in fandom spaces"

yes except he is also gen z and all over the internet and should feel safe there. He has every right to use tumblr or twitter or fucking AO3 if he wants and not see himself represented there in ways he doesn't want. And he doesn't want it. Period. He's telling you that. Maybe you didn't know before that he felt that way. But you fucking know now.

You and your creative desires are not more important than him. So many times, we've seen celebrities talk about how fandom culture is bad for their health. RPF destroyed Louis' and Harry's relationship and I will never forgive myself for reading that stuff even though I didn't write it. We did that. Ten years later I saw history repeat itself with the Stray Kids guys. I was so fucking devastated for them. Not only did RPF and obsessive fan culture destroy the friendship between the Untamed guys, it got AO3 fucking nuked in China and they lost the entire site.

You may not think you're those people. You're keeping it on Tumblr and Twitter and AO3, and not tagging Hudson, right? But Hudson should also be allowed on those websites. He shouldn't have to watch where he goes on the internet because there are people making him do and say things he doesn't want to have done or said all over the internet. The written RPF probably feels about as violating as a deepfake video. He gets to decide what he says and does. Only him. And even if YOU post something only on Tumblr, who knows who is going to share it elsewhere and tag him because people have no boundaries.

He said to stop. Just stop, please.

You just dehumanize these people, and dont allow / want them to, like, Have Feelings And Boundaries about how YOU speak of them & their PERSONAL relationships. Why do people feel so completely entitled to these guys. Idk why you dont just pick up a book (preferably a different one, with no adaption or real people involved) if ur so obsessed with treating real ppl like fictional beings 😭

Ten years ago even, the argument that famous people shouldn’t be in fan spaces might have held more weight, but now, there’s no barrier between fandom spaces and non fandom spaces. People use every social media for fandom now and people are posting their opinions on people’s fics on main for engagement and tweets are being screenshot and put in published think pieces and reporters are asking famous people what their thoughts are on whatever fandom trend and then you have shit like Buzzfeed (I think it was buzzfeed?) calling Connor “Mrs. Hudson Williams” like? What do you mean famous people shouldn’t be in fandom spaces? Show me a non fandom space they can be in.

Never mind the fucking entitlement of people saying shit like “get out of my house” like he doesn’t have the right to have opinions on people making shit up about him for their own entertainment. People are acting so bewildered by this as if this isn’t exactly what happens every time an rpf fandom gets big enough and inappropriate enough that the people they ship learn about it. I’ve said before that I don’t see any point policing (like, legally policing or censoring) rpf, and I do think it’s possible to ethically rpf, but even with ethical rpf you can’t expect someone to be indifferent to hundreds of people quite literally treating them like a fictional character that exists for their entertainment. I would be amazed if anybody could feel neutral about knowing there are people out there writing erotica of them with their best friend. And with Hudson, he’s been about as cool about this as you could hope for, and for as long as I think most could stand. His primary concern seems to be how people view his relationship with his girlfriend - I mean, imagine if you were in love with somebody and every day you knew she was seeing people talk about how you’re unhappy with her, how you’re using her as a beard, how you want to break up with her, and how you’re probably cheating on her and oh yeah she’s being stalked and harassed like! Of Fucking Course He Does Not Like That. And this isn’t even getting into some of the more fucked up shit rpfers write or say (I saw a h*dcon fic once about Hudson raping Connor ffs like is it fiction? Yeah. Do I think it would be really fucking weird to expect Hudson to feel neutral about its existence? YEAH).

Hudson has a right to be online. If you’re a real fan, you want him to be online. Six months ago he was nobody and now he’s walked the fucking met gala. He reached an extremely understandable breaking point. Nobody could expect someone in his position, who has gone through such a drastic change to his life in such a short time, to already be used to this and already capable of coping without showing any external signs it’s affecting him. It’s insane to expect otherwise, and on top of that, all he said is it’s gotta stop. He wasn’t even being cruel or harsh. Like you do not use the words “gotta” and “y’all” if you’re being harsh. It was a very calm and very understanding request for people to stop. People calling him unprofessional for it or saying he needs media training when his response is that contained are just being willfully fucking ignorant.

Now they’re being hateful to Hudson by saying the person he responded to wasn’t even doing rpf (which…idk), and insinuating that the backlash they’ve faced is his fault. The backlash they’re facing is awful and racially charged and I feel terrible for them and if people were saying, hey, he should have just made a statement on his own social media, not in response to anybody, that would be one thing, but they’re just saying he shouldn’t be online altogether now because he “shouldn’t be in fandom spaces.” It’s so obvious that person he responded to isn’t their real concern. They celebrated his behavior online when it fueled their rpf, but now that it’s not, suddenly his behavior online is a problem. They went from “Hudson please never get media trained” (ignoring that he does have media training) to “Someone needs to take his phone away” the second he set a very polite and simple boundary. They’re just done playing with him now that he’s made it clear he doesn’t like being their toy.

And while I’m here, I’ll say that I do think, obviously, it would have been better for him to just make a blanket statement and not in response to anybody specific - but at the same time, it’s really obvious that he snapped. Like, this didn’t come out of nowhere. This has been brewing. Something he’s tried to hold back, especially after initially making efforts to take it in stride. And people forget, but he made more palatable efforts to get people to stop before. At the pre Oscar party he told a reporter that his girlfriend “didn’t want to be perceived” for example, which was a very clear hint that rpf shit was getting to both of them and that he wished it would stop. No one took the hint so of course it eventually escalated to a more explicit “stop it.” I run a mildly (if that) popular fandom blog and sometimes something makes me snap and I regret it later but it fucking happens and I can’t fucking imagine being in his position, as famous as he now is and as quickly as he got there, and expecting him to never snap. I’d be snapping daily if I was him. He’s fucking human and what he’s upset over is something no one has any right to blame him for snapping over.

They aren't nearly as possessive of their partners as some folks presume.

They don't always enjoy public affection, especially around strangers and important people.

They aren't always straight and sometimes neither are their partners.

Some are in happy, consciously non-monogamous relationships and also emotionally committed to their partners - the two don't need to be mutually exclusive and, for many people, they aren't.

They don't want or need to be their partner's only or primary source of emotional intimacy.

They don't want or need to have their partner's constant attention and focus just to feel secure in the relationship.

They don't want or need to be included in everything their partner does because they have their own things going on.

They don't get jealous of or feel threatened by their partner's friends and acquaintances without a clear and compelling reason to feel this way.

If they feel ignored or neglected by their partner for whatever reason, they bring it up with them directly and privately.

They feel safe and comfortable talking to their partner if they're angry or hurt or if they feel like their boundaries are being crossed.

They are not obligated to perform their relationship publicly in any way if they don't want to.

I don't mind fan fic

I can't stand those who truly believe in their delusion.