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Disabled people need to earn their right to exist by performing less disabled, and ABA will train them to perform as a less disabled person. At its core, ABA is rooted in the hatred and denial of the humanity of disabled people. Even with the most generous interpretation, it is about pathologizing and rejecting disabled ways of being and holding up non-disabled ways of being as the only right way and the only way to be correctly human. It doesn’t matter that it may seem like fun, it doesn’t matter that your “Behavior Technician” seems like a really nice person. It doesn’t matter that you read a study that ABA “works,” because what it “works” at is wrong. It is compliance training at its core.

Of all the demographics, one of the groups most at risk of experiencing physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, institutional, financial, and educational abuse is the demographic of people with developmental disabilities. You can double, triple, and quadruple those risks according to how many other marginalized groups they fall in.

Parents and therapists often use an ends-justify-the-means approach to therapy for their disabled children, believing that acquiring skills is the most important thing and that it is worth the child having negative experiences if it means that they will have a “better life.” In this context, what is considered better is what is most “normal,” or non-disabled.

Survivors of ABA have come forward to say that they have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Complex-PTSD (C-PTSD) as a result of their experiences in ABA. This is not an acceptable trade-off. This is not an acceptable trade-off. Suicide is dramatically shortening the life-expectancy of autistic people and autistic people are saying it is because they are not being accepted.

Autistic writer Max Sparrow, “All those years of ABA therapy will have taught them that they are fundamentally wrong and broken; that they are required to do everything authority demands of them (whether it’s right or wrong for them); that they are always the one at fault when anything social goes wrong; that they get love, praise, and their basic survival needs met so long as they can hide any trace of autism from others; that what they want doesn’t matter.”

the lack of qpoc movies is astounding. this is a small list but i have searched for these movies from everywhere i could possibly, and watching them is a bigger dilemma. please add onto this list, especially the mlm section. 

[ note that i only exclusively watch wlw movies being a brown nb lesbian so im a bit lacking in the mlm movie recs ]

wlw movies

Rafiki | kenyen wlw

The Watermelon Woman | black lesbian

The Journey  | tamil wlw

Fire | indian wlw

Circumstance |  iranian wlw

 Caramel | lebanese wlw

Pariah | black lesbian

Yes or No & Yes or no 2 : Come Back | thai wlw

Saving face | chinese lesbians

Mosquita Y Mari | mexican wlw

The World Unseen | indian wlw

Margarita With A Straw | indian wlw

Appropriate Behavior | iranian wlw [ in relationship w a white wlw ]

The Secrets | israeli wlw

Spider Lilies | taiwanese wlw

I Can’t Think Straight | brown wlw

The Handmaiden | korean wlw

honorary mentions cause white women :shruggos: : 

thelma [ brown wlw is the love interest ]-itty bitty titty committee [ brown wlw ] - mystère à la tour eiffel [ black wlw ] - a perfect ending [ brown wlw ]

mlm movies

[ note that i haven't seen half of these movies ]

Mondial 2010 | lebanese mlm

Jumping The Broom | black mlm 

Blackbird | black gay

Mixed Kabab | turkish gay

The Last Match | spanish mlm  [ VERY TRIGGERING CONTENT ]

La Mission | latino gay

The Blue Hour | thai mlm

Fifi Howls From Happiness | iranian gay

Philadelphia | black gay

And then he said, “The important thing is to find something you feel good about doing.”

That phrasing struck me. “Something you feel good about doing”. Most people would have phrased it as “something you enjoy doing”. Or “something you’re good at doing”. But Mr. Rogers’ subtly different phrasing leads to a profoundly different connotation. “Something you feel good about doing” may not be enjoyable–people who work in hospitals or in disaster zones might not enjoy much of their day, but they probably feel good about helping people. “Something you feel good about doing“ may not be something you’re particularly good at–you may be a terrible artist by any objective standard, but if you feel good about making your art, then it’s a worthwhile endeavor. Looking for “something you feel good about doing” can help you find a truly satisfying life path.